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How the Swingers Lifestyle Enhances Intimate Relationships

Many vanilla and traditionally monogamous individuals without a sense of sexual adventure have a tendency to proclaim that the swingers lifestyle is a surefire way to a breakup or a divorce.

However, many couples involved in swinging will disagree along with several polls and studies that support the notion that swingers can—and do—have rather healthy intimate relationships.

Here’s how giving an intimate relationship a new twist with swinging can promote a more solid commitment and boost sex appeal.

Jealously is Surpassed in Swinging

There is absolutely no room for jealous inclinations in the realm of healthy intimate relationships, but this can present a bit of new challenge for swinging couples just delving into the lifestyle. Jealousy can kill the good vibes and dampen the trust and love in any relationship, swinging or monogamous.

The willingness to share a partner without letting the green-eyed monster rear its ugly head indicates a solid connection with a primary partner. According to many mental health counselors, swinging couples in an intimate relationship tend to be both more satisfied and committed to their partnership than their vanilla peers.

Swinging Can Boost Confidence

Healthy intimate relationships are had between individuals who each have their own strong sense of confidence. Not to be egotistical, but it sure can make one feel pretty good about themselves to know that they are desired by others outside of their relationship.

Having the ability to act upon those desires with the consent of a partner can provide a pick-me-up that restores sexual prowess back at home. Scratching those itches and letting someone outside the confines of the committed partnership with a one-time fling or amid the swingers lifestyle just might help a strong relationship gain even greater traction.

Curb Cheating In An Intimate Relationship

When the rules are abided by, the swingers lifestyle is kind of like a hall pass with consent, no jealously, and there is no need to cheat. Boredom or being involved in a lackluster or sexless relationship can easily lead to cheating. Regardless of WHY one or both partners seek to fulfill sexual needs outside of the primary bonds, discussing an alternative lifestyle can prevent cheating and actually establish a closer connection between couples.

Excitement Strengthens Relationship Bonds

The monotony of monogamy can be a primary reason for the ending of a union. According to scientific studies, only nine percent of the mammals in the world practice monogamy, which leads us to wonder how we should expect the human species to have only one mate? Likely the rise of religions calling for monogamy has pushed our species into this non-natural existence.

However, shouldn’t we all be allowed to live in ways that make us happy, soothe our bodies and satisfy our physical and emotional desires without judgement? Swinging with the consent and within guidelines established let’s couples open up and enjoy a greater sense of satisfaction with their partners without fear of repercussions.

Stay together longer. Have a healthier intimate relationship. Go outside of the norm if you and your partner are comfortable doing so and give the swingers lifestyle a try.

Top 3 Reasons Why Swinging Works

With the openness of the internet, swinging has moved from the underground into more mainstream territory. While swinging clubs and parties have always existed, joining them or asking questions has … READ MORE

HOW SWINGER COUPLES ARE COPING DURING COVID-19

As people are finding themselves restless during the COVID-19 pandemic, those in the swingers lifestyle are even more antsy. Social distancing guidelines have heavily restricted the opening and capacity levels in bars, clubs, on cruises and in public places. This…

SWINGER COUPLES ONLY ENJOY THESE HEALTH BENEFITS

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Believe it or not, swinger couples do have greater health benefits due to more orgasms. Orgasms are directly connected with the happy mood and mental strength of both the sex partners. Both of these factors are present more in swinging couples as compared to monogamous couples as they are controlled by various other factors. Flexibility, creative capacity, adaptation of changing circumstances and indefinable thinking are some of the factors that rule the mood and metal health of a person. When you compare the sexual life of swinging couples and monogamous READ MORE

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Swingers Definitions That Every Newbie Needs to Know

In the realm of swinging there are many covert terms that the average person might not fully be aware of. So, those starting out or who are planning to dabble in this alternative lifestyle will want to become privy to a few key swinger definitions to get more familiar with the scene.

Swingers: People who take pleasure in swapping or sharing their intimate partner with one or more individuals outside the primary relationship. Swingers set their own limitations and boundaries.

The Swingers Lifestyle: The term swingers lifestyle refers to the alternative lifestyle known as swinging. However, it can describe sex-positive persons of an open mind to partner sharing or swapping.

Vanilla: Swingers use the term vanilla to describe individuals who are traditionally monogamous and that have sext that doesn’t involve acts that deviate from the norm such as BDSM, orgies, etc.

Unicorn: Considered unusual and often rare, unicorns are single women open to swinging. Many couples seek out these ladies when first dabbling while others prefer unicorns due to their openness and lack of desire for full-time relationships. Bulls are single male swingers.

Playmates: Playmates is a term used to describe swingers that you engage with in ‘playtime’ which involves whatever sexual activities the partners choose.

Voyeurism: Those who enjoy watching others have sex with the consent of the participants are engaging in what is called voyeurism.

Soft Swap: Soft swapping swingers don’t engage in full-blown intercourse but rather limit activities with others to heavy petting, oral sex and kissing.

Full Swap: A full swap is when penetrative sex occurs with swinger playmates.

Closed Door Swinging: Closed door swinging describes couples who swap partners in separate rooms for sexual activities.

Same Room Swinging: This is when those in the alternative lifestyle share a room or space for their soft or full swap playtime.

Polyamory: Individuals who say they are in an open relationship might be into polyamory, which is when a couple doesn’t expect monogamy from their partner. However, rather than simple casual flings, polyamorous groups are more often long-term relationships with mutual love and respect. It’s not the same as swinging, and poly couples often live together as ‘families’ with a third person or other committed couple.

Hotwife: A hotwife is a married or committed woman who has the permission of her partner to have sex with other men. Typically, the ‘hubby’ enjoys watching and in some cases may join in. There are also hot-husbands, as well filling the reverse role.

Cuckold: When a man ‘complies’ with his partner’s sexual engagements with other men while watching and getting pleasure from it, he is called a cuckold. This can also be used to describe men who love to be dominated by their woman. Females in this situation are called cuckqueens.

MMF vs MFM: In the realm of threesomes an MMF is a male-male-female grouping in which the two men will have sex. MFM is a male-female-male threesome positions the woman in the middle because the men will only have sex with the woman.

FMF/FFM: Threesomes in which a female-male-female (FMF) occurs with no female interaction. FFM implies bisexual action between females.

The swingers lifestyle is a fun way to mix up the sex life of open-minded couples, so these are only the beginning basics of swinger definitions that you’ll learn as you gain experience in the lifestyle.

HOTWIFING ISSUES: DO MEN LOVE THEIR WIVES?

Do you believe that men can still love their wives even though they are involved in Hotwifing? Most women wonder if their men are really into them, reason being that their soul mate advises them to be intimately involved with other men. Some of these women may wonder if what they are being required to do is really possible. It is easy to come into terms with what these women are thinking of the Hotwifing issue, this is because these women have some outlook on how relationship should be and what READ MORE

Different types of threesomes and the benefits

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BENEFITS OF CUCKOLDING FOR A WOMAN

Cuckolding is a type of relationship in which a man watches his lady being pleased sexually by other men. In some cases the man is unable to satisfy his lady sexually and he may not even be aware of the techniques…

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The Love Languages Applied To A Swingers Relationship

Love languages can be defined as words or actions that convey very specific meanings to each of us, and lifestyle couples definitely rely on strong verbal and physical connections to stay close. Languages in relationships vary, and couples in the lifestyle are no different from the average ‘vanilla’ couple in that aspect.

There are purportedly key ways to express these languages in relationships according to the 1992 best selling book, ‘The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate’ by Gary Chapman.

Let’s explore these aspects and how lifestyle couples can use them daily to express their love and affection for their partner.

Invest In Quality Time

Couples in a relationship want to feel like they are number one in their partner’s life at all times. It is important for each person in the relationship to feel valued. Lifestyle couples tend to craft out time for themselves to connect on a more intimate level.  That means televisions, cell  phones and other distractions are put at bay for a bit every day so couples can spend some quality time together. Let this time be moments to focus only on your chosen mate at the moment. This confirms your dedication and let’s them know you are there for them.

Get On Board With Physical Touch

Hugging, kissing and a mere touch of the hand means the world to a partner in need of touch. Just sitting closely, a nudge or a wave can quantify as physical touch, so there’s no sense in denying the one you care for of these small gestures that don’t cost a cent!

Giving Gifts

Hey, your gift doesn’t have to cost a million dollars to make a big impression on your partner. Love notes, a mix of songs or just making some toast in the morning along with a flower from the lawn means volumes. It’s all about the thought behind the actions that mean the most. This language expresses you ‘know’ your partner and care.

Acts of Service

Driving, cooking and cleaning show care and compassion no matter who you do it for. The act of ‘action’ is one of the best ways to be of service to another and affirm their love is appreciated. Don’t wait until they ask—volunteer! And be there when you are most needed physically, financially, and emotionally.

Words of Affirmation

No one loves pretty words more than you partner and they want to hear them coming from you! Giving verbal affirmation with ‘I love you, and you’re a God/Goddess” just cannot be topped! Compliments and words of love go far in any relationship, and again—they are free!

These love languages are practiced regularly by couples of the lifestyle who shares a deeper connection. Swinger couples are highly committed to ensuring that their bonds continue to grow stronger as they explore their sexual adventures together. Couples don’t come to the lifestyle to save their relationship, but come with an already strong bond that helps to amplify their sexual revolution.

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How To Get Started As Swinger Couples

Communication is the key ingredient to ensuring a successful entry to the swinging lifestyle. In the event that you and your partner may be interested in becoming swinger couples, the …

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HOW SWINGER COUPLES ARE COPING DURING COVID-19

As people are finding themselves restless during the COVID-19 pandemic, those in the swingers lifestyle are even more antsy. Social distancing guidelines have heavily restricted the opening and capacity levels in bars, clubs, on cruises and in public places. This…

WHY SWINGER COUPLES DON’T DIVORCE

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Learn why swinger couples don’t divorce as often as monogamous couples. Swinging refers to a lifestyle which is meant for adults and is luxurious and lavishing. This lifestyle is being practiced by many individual adults as well as by several married couples. There are several swinger clubs open in various places. It is also possible to lead a normal lifestyle with family and children along with a swinger lifestyle. But this may be a very challenging task. This lifestyle provides various sexual liberties to swinger couples without any infidelity or READ MORE

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Porn Addiction Pandemic? – Tips to Avoid This ‘Novel’ Virus

They say this pandemic has resulted in ‘unprecedented times,’ and many swingers are finding themselves stuck at home or unable to connect with their play partners and friends. Surely, the days can get boring and the nights may feel lonely and cold so some fill their time with a little adult entertainment.

It appears that leading porn sites are seeing a massive surge in streaming subscription services and visitor views, so people are likely finding relief and entertainment in front of the screen. This seems to be leading to more concern that individuals are increasingly falling victim to porn effects such as addiction.

Is Porn Addiction Real?

According to the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM) porn addiction isn’t officially recognized as a mental health disorder. Rather, most psychological professionals view porn addiction as a behavioral issue that shares similar mechanisms with those suffering from substance addiction.

However, some researchers are suggesting that porn addiction can be chalked up to compulsion as opposed to addiction. While the line is thin between the two, compulsions are things someone does over and over again without any rational motivation other than satisfaction or alleviating anxieties. Addictions, on the other hand, are things one cannot stop doing, but both terms involve a severe lack of control.

What are the Signs of Porn Addiction?

Occasional viewing doesn’t indicate an addiction, but those who feel a complete lack of control over their compulsion could very well be addicted to this visual stimulation. Signs of a potential problem include:

  • Time spent watching keeps increasing and impedes on daily responsibilities or time spent with others in your life
  • Feelings of guilt develop after viewing porn
  • You find yourself needing a ‘fix’ of porn to get ‘high’
  • Sex doesn’t seem pleasurable without watching pornography
  • You start pressuring your sexual partner to perform acts you see in porn that they are uncomfortable with

Preventing Pandemic Pornography Addiction

It’s natural to crave relief during this crisis and porn can be a great release and assist with masturbation. However, you should know when enough is enough and when you might have a real problem that could negatively impact you or someone you care about. Here are some prevention tips.

  • If you find yourself routinely viewing it, you can set up restrictions or time constraints for yourself.
  • Check out the advice from the World Health Organization and the Centers for Disease Control that recommend increasing outdoor activities that conform to social distancing regulations to reduce anxiety and screen time.
  • Stay off the Internet when you are feeling like looking at a naughty site. Pick up a book or magazine, play a game, take on a home project or discover a new hobby to kill some time productively without focusing on sex.

If you suspect that porn effects are becoming a problem, don’t hesitate to reach out to a mental health professional for sex addiction counseling and get further advice.

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6 IMPORTANT BENEFITS OF WATCHING PORN AS A COUPLE

There is nothing wrong with watching porn alone or as a couple. In many societies, porn is viewed as a taboo however if you take a closer look at the reasons behind this, you will realize that there is nothing wrong about porn especially if you are watching it with your partner. In fact, there are very many benefits derived from watching porn as a couple. If you are interested in discovering these benefits to make your sexual experiences with your partner more pleasurable, below are 6 important benefits of READ MORE

POLL SHOWS 99% OF WOMEN WANT A REPEAT OF AN MMF THREESOME

In a recent survey polled by SLR, 99% of women who experienced an MMF threesome wanted a repeat. Experiencing intimacy is a very complex process which begins when people are really young. As they grow older and enter adulthood, both…

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What are Orgies Really Like in The Swinging Lifestyle

Many people imagine orgies to be a rowdy and outrageous affair, but the truth is that they’re often simpler and less visually captivating than imagined. Newcomers to the swinging lifestyle … READ MORE

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Best Adult Books for Swingers Couples During Quarantine

Being in quarantine is a reality check for many people around the world, leaving millions of us bored at home including swingers. Television and Internet perusing gets old after a while, so we want to suggest some great adult books with sex stories that revolve heavily around swinging.

Whether you’re just interested, are polyamorous, married, bi, gay, straight or a swinging single, there are many great reads to occupy your time and get your mind in a sexy place, too.

Top 5 Adult Books For Erotic Stories

1. Swingers’ Lifestyle: The Questions You are Afraid to Ask by Jackie Melfi

This gem is an exceptional and honest Q & A session with Jackie Melfi answering some tough questions about the swinging lifestyle based on her experiences and observations. The Swingers’ Lifestyle is great for beginners, those who have trouble asking hard questions and is even insightful for non-swingers.

Questions come directly from her fans and readers, and is not filled with sex stories but is filled with valuable insights and information.

2. More About A Life Less Monogamous by Cooper S. Beckett

If you’ve ever wondered “Is this all there is to life?” Then More About A Less Life will be a satisfying read. It’s about the meeting of two couples that are asking themselves these very same questions and are looking to spice up their relationships. While Bruce and Paige are not quite outed as swingers, they will have a chance encounter with Jennifer and Ryan that helps them all come to a greater understanding of sexuality unfolding with unbridled passion. This is a good one to initiate playtime with partners you’re quarantining with, as it’s filled with sizzling sex stories.

3. The Ethical Slut : A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships, and Other Freedoms in Sex and Love by Janet W. Hardy

This is a definitive guide to being an ‘ethical slut’ and contains a good bit of information that offers reflections on the attitude of partner swapping and sharing in the mainstream media and typical US family. However, this Janet W. Hardy book discusses jealousy, communication, integrity and tips for asking for (and getting) what you truly want from your open relationship or swinging adventures.

4. The Ground Rules by Roya Carmen

All the main character has to do is follow five ground rules to live out the fantasy of her dreams. While happily married with children, an encounter with a mysterious couple promises to open the doors to unexplored desires. In this tale of a ‘nice girl’ stepping beyond her comfort zone with her hubby in tow, will they be able to follow the rules? You’ll have to read The Ground Rules to find out!

5. The Lifestyle: A Look at the Erotic Rites of Swingers by Terry Gould

Believe it or not the author of this book was once avidly anti swinging. However, after a bit of research in scientific articles and discussions with ‘normal’ members of the lifestyle he had a change of heart. Delve into his discovery of the misunderstandings and prejudices that swinger couples faced throughout history and in many aspects still today. This is a friendly read that offers solid arguments that positively represent swingers and their life choices.

Pick up any of these amazing reads for swingers at local erotic stores or visit our Free Erotic Stories on SLS and enjoy our wide selection of topics written and submitted by their members.

ANAL SEX MYTHS DEBUNKED

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You may have ahead a lot of myths about anal sex which is almost scaring you away from trying it. Actually there are many myths that many people spread but you need to carry out some form of research which will enable you in making the best decision. The following are some common myths about anal sex which you should be aware of:   It will hurt This is just a myth; the truth is that anal sex does not hurt. It depends on the one who is doing it. READ MORE

Finding the Best Erotic MILF stories

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HOW EROTIC STORIES COULD AFFECT YOUR SEX LIFE

Erotic Stories Before anything else, let’s discuss about ’emotional stimulation’ first. Studies show that most men could easily be visually stimulated. On the other hand, women are the opposite, they react more to emotional stimulation. So, it only implies that,…

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Does Swinging Curb Cheating in Lifestyle Relationships?

In the realm of the swingers lifestyle, there can be several concepts of ‘cheating’ and many swinger couples don’t consider playtime as such. The lifestyle is very different for every couple, but for the sake of this post we’ll define cheating and establish whether or not swinging is a potential curb check for such behavior. Swinger couples don’t necessarily have it ‘made in the shade’ all the time, so it’s essential to consider this concept from all sides.

How is Cheating Defined in the Swingers Lifestyle?

Every couple is different. Some are amazingly happy in polyamorous relationships and others are fine with hotwifing and other forms of swinging. There is no definitive answer about what ‘cheating’ encompasses amid swinger couples, as they ultimately have rules set for their relationship boundaries concerning outside playtime. Some may consider emotional attachments cheating while others consider sex or sexual relations beyond their agreement to be cheating, so it’s vital to clarify this conceptual meaning with your partners before straying. That being said, if you’re hiding anything like texts, videos, chat sites and phone calls…you likely know you’re cheating in the eyes of your partner.

Swinging’s Stronghold Over Cheating

It’s been shown time and time again that those who actively engage in the swingers lifestyle tend to be happier than peers with singular partners. According to a Psychology Today study, those who swing have far less fear about the status of their primary partner relationships which ultimately leads to less need to cheat. There’s a lot to be said about being able to openly sleep with another person or connect with them on a sexual level.

However, not everyone is open to full-time swinging, so couples can discuss options such as periodic visits to a local swinger club to find a unicorn or suitable ‘temporary’ partner to curb those urges. It’s important that each person communicate their sexual needs and try to find a middle ground to avert cheating disasters.

Situations Where Swinging Absolutely Won’t Prevent or Stop Cheating

There are certain conditions in which swinging is not a good idea, but it can also be a risky one. These include:

Dealing with Liars—Liars will lie and cheaters will cheat. Getting involved in the lifestyle with a straight up liar only gives them a candy store to grab what they want and then lie about it. Trust is pivotal when partner sharing and swapping, and there’s no room for dishonest persons that cannot be trusted. Consider therapy before looking outside the current relationship.

Bad Sex in Current Relations—Again, this should be explored partner-to-partner or guided under a professional therapist. Intimacy at home that is lacking satisfaction falls upon both parties and will not be resolved with swingers relations.

Sexual Addiction—Cheating partners might have a sex addiction issue that will only likely grow worse when encountering swingers style relationships.

Ultimately, there’s no answer here folks. If the red flags mentioned (or others you suspect) aren’t presented, it may be worth a discussion to consider engaging in the swinging lifestyle through soft swaps or just friendly encounters with couples ‘in the know.’ While not all efforts will succeed in saving a relationship, it’s not harmful to explore all opportunities.

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HOW TO KEEP JEALOUSY OUT OF A SWINGERS RELATIONSHIP

Life has been on the upswing for you since beginning your swingers’ relationship with your partner or spouse…well, until lately. The two of you have made friends with other swingers. You meet up with this couple every now and again, and you can’t help but notice your partner has chemistry with one of them. Now you find yourself over analyzing every little interaction between them, sexual or not. What do you do in such a situation? In this article, we’ll give you some tips and pointers for keeping jealousy out of READ MORE

WHY A HOTWIFE RELATIONSHIP IS THE BEST WAY TO DEAL WITH CHEATING

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Swinglifestyle the Best Way to Avoid Cheating

Swinglifestyle can be the long term solution to cheating. One of the major causes of divorce in the modern society is cheating. Cheating is basically going behind your spouse’s …

The Role Sexual Desire Plays in Boosting your Libido

Our sexuality isn’t necessarily defined by gender or their perceived ‘role’, expectations and norms amid society. A woman’s  sexual desires can be just as powerful as that of a man, its just that some women aren’t really sure what their desires are and how to explore them.

Those craving a healthy and long-lasting sexual relationship, have good reason of better understanding the role desire plays in boosting your libido. There are some surprising results stemming from research looking into the complex world of the importance of sexual fantasies and desires and how it enhances bedroom action.

We have share a few of those findings below:

Research Supporting the Connection Between Libido and Sexual Desires

Besides what our bodies ‘tell us’ turns us on, there are studies that shows the positive aspects of fantasies and desires on the sex drive and how many view sexuality as a whole. A key study published in Psychological Reports from the University of Grenada reveals a strong correlation in men sexual desires and erotophilia— an unusual interest in sex. Essentially, males are more accepting and respond more positively towards sexual thoughts and desires versus women—but not by much according to the studies findings.

Types of Fantasies and Emotional Stressors Can Inhibit Libido

All the benefits aside—and there are quite a few—libido and sex drive can be hindered for some individuals who feel like they have unhealthy fantasies (and some folks do). However, the most typical negative response that men have is when they crave sadistic sex or fancy domination. According to the aforementioned studies, some men feel so ashamed by such thoughts that it lowered their libido measurably.

Interestingly, many women fantasize about being controlled and even dominated –See popularity of the Fifty Shades Of Grey Trilogy.  Yet, they too seem to be hesitant to share these desires with their own partners, even though they are highly turned on when imagining it. Shame and guilt tend to diminish the libido as a side effect of anxiety and fear of what partners might think. Which brings about the question of “How do YOU feel about YOURSELF’ because of these natural fantasies?”

Avoid Letting Desires Get in the Way of Sexual Success

Some individuals use fantasies, masturbation and pornography as a method of avoiding close intimacy with their partners. When a relationship gets stressed, turning more into their comfort zone can actually create a greater divide between couples and negatively impact libido. Stressful relationships can cause people’s emotional desires and sexuality perceptions to change quickly along with their sex drive.

If you find yourself having fantasies or sexual desires, we suggest you explore them safely by yourself or with your partner. Openly communicate with your partner your desires and discuss a way of exploring them together. Many join the swingers lifestyle to explore their  fantasies and sexual desires and a majority have found a way to explore those fantasies safely in the swingers community.

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FOURSOMES: 55% OF WOMEN AND 85% OF MEN WANT SEX WITH OTHERS

Learn what you need to know about Foursomes, 55% of Women And 85% Of Men Want Sex With Others. Fantasies are part of every human being and being with more than one sexual partner without cheating your partner is…

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POSITIVE BENEFITS AND HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP ASPECTS OF HOTWIFING

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At first glance, it would seem ‘obvious’ that hotwife where a woman has sex with men other than her husband, but with her husband’s knowledge, consent and often at his urging would be disastrous for any marriage, no matter how strong.The reasons men are so often drawn to encouraging their wives to become hotwives is complex, but it boils down to biology and the way they’re made. In other words, they don’t choose their fantasy: their DNA chooses it for them.And it’s this factor most women miss when their man READ MORE

 

 

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How To Give An Erotic Massage With Happy Endings

Intimacy is about more than just sex; giving your partner a relaxing sensual massage at home is a great way to connect and tighten the bond you share together. With the right setting and erotic massage techniques, it can guarantee a very happy ending for all participants.

The Art of Ambiance Creation for Erotic Massages

Preparing the massage area will lead to uninterrupted experiences and maximum relaxation overall. Here are a few steps to consider:

Set Up the Massage Area: Designate a quiet, clutter-free, calming area of your home for the massage. Set the room temperature to your liking, adding some candles or low lighting to set the mood.

Add Relaxing Sounds: Soothing soft music, harmonic frequencies or nature sounds activate the senses and enhance your massage techniques.

Don’t Forget the Essentials: As with most play times, the right tools are important such as oils, lotions and candles. Oils and creams comes in all type of heating, cooling and scented versions and there are even some soy-based candles that are known to emit pheromone-inciting scents.

Massage Technique Tips

Hitting all the areas of the body is essential for your erotic massage as the skin is the largest and most sensitive organ of the body. You’ll want to use gentle, even pressure strokes taking care to be mindful of how your partner is responding. Here are some additional tips:

Get Into a Steady Flow: Start with the head and face, working your way down to the neck and shoulders, arms and hands, and then move to his/her back. Don’t hesitate to gently whisper “sweet nothings” to them as you stroke them into relaxation. Be sure to “touch up” on all the key areas.

Stimulate Partners Primary Erogenous Zones: Spend some time on your partner’s genitalia adding more oil/lotion and evened pressured strokes to the massage. Be cautious and try not to allow any sort of indulgent release until you deem the time perfect.

Pay Attention to the Secondary Erogenous Zones: Areas that are rarely touched include the hands, earlobes, wrists, and the front and backs of the knees. These parts can be highly stimulating when gently touched or rubbed and this can be a good time to employ soft ticklers like feathers or soft leather tools.

Don’t spend too much time second guessing your techniques. With the right tools on hand and a consistent approach, your partner’s body will respond to your touch — creating pleasure and enhanced arousal levels. Remember, desire and passion are the keys to an erotic massage which is perfect for couples looking to reconnect.

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FOOT CARE TIPS FROM A FOOT FETISH DOMINATRIX

Foot fetishes come in many forms, with most of them stemming from a love of feet, the desire to kiss them and maybe even worship them. There are no limitations to BDSM style foot fetish acts in the lifestyle, so…

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5 MOST JAW-DROPPING SEXUAL FETISHES

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There are many ways in which people achieve their happiness, although Mike Hatcher marches to the beat of a different drum, nothing ever surprises me. While you might have already heard of sexual fetish like feet, there are others that you have probably never heard of. Below are some of the strangest fetishes ever known to man, some dating back as far as pre-civilization. But even as you are left to wonder in amazement, judge not lest you be judged. Foot Fetishism Foot fetish refers to sexual attraction to feet, READ MORE

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Monogamy — Social Order or Is It Just Natural for Humans?

According to the majority of the populous, monogamy is not just natural to humans—it’s practically an expectation, a phenomenon known as ‘social monogamy.’ Which brings about the question, if being with just one person sexually is ‘natural,’ why do so many struggle to stay monogamous or opt for swinging relationships?

And those who do stay tried and true to their one and only—are they falling victim to social monogamy to fit into the expected norms of their families, culture or religious beliefs? Let’s delve into social order and human nature to learn more about the lifestyle choices they make–and why.

The Case for and Against Social Monogamy

Let’s face it—women and men view sex very differently and likely have since primitive mankind. Early human’s primary goal was survival, and men are genetically predisposed to procreate as much as possible to maintain the species. In this essence, monogamy might not have been considered as natural to men back then, and statistics do support the supposition that men step outside of monogamous relationships more often than women.

Even since the earliest times, women have had the evolutionary goal of reproduction. Women are inherently more selective in choosing mates to ensure the very best matches for her young. Today, women more often fall into social monogamy after having children—another genetic quality.

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As you can see, these variances amid genders creates a social order filled with sexual conflict. What is natural to a male isn’t necessarily how a woman will see things amid the realm of monogamy. Evolutionary traits may lend one to follow what’s best for the gene pool, but this could result in serious consequences for the body. So, which is best? Following monogamous expectations or doing what feels natural for you?

Making Tough Choices About Monogamy

While monogamy is not for everyone. Only you and your partner know what is ‘right’ for you as individuals and as a couple, so if monogamy feels natural, great. Stick with it. If you aren’t feeling fully satisfied with being monogamous, find a partner willing to embrace the lifestyle with you. Swinging and polyamorous couples can be just as committed to their primary partner as anyone else, so don’t hesitate to explore the lifestyle if monogamy isn’t cutting it.

Why An Open Relationship Is Better Than Monogamy

An open relationship is a relationship where partners are free to engage in sexual affairs with other people outside their marriages. Before people decide to engage in open relationships, …READ MORE

MONOGAMY IS DEAD: TIME TO SWING!

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Research suggests monogamy is not worth it. Mate swapping or most commonly known as swinging, is engaging in sexual activities to other people outside of your relationship or marriage. It has been seen by people as strange or deviant but research proved that swingers actually live a healthier and better life than the ones that are in monogamous relationships. Who Are Swingers? Before we get any further, let us first define swinging thoroughly. Swinging is belonging in an open relationship wherein both partners engage in sexual experimentation with another couple
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THE BENEFITS OF HAVING AN OPEN RELATIONSHIP

More and more people nowadays are choosing to have open relationships. This means in simple terms, being sexually and/or emotionally involved with more than one person. It is not the same as “cheating” because the two (or more) people…

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Healthy Swinging Relationships & What They Should Look Like

When making the decision to sway beyond the socially accepted ‘norms’ of monogamy and explore the realm of the swinging lifestyle, newbies can find it challenging staying healthy as a couple if not well prepared. Let’s explore what sane and lasting swinging relationships seem to have in common.

Follow Established Rules

Clearly, you’ve already had a talk with your partner (or potential ones) about your desire to get involved in the swingers lifestyle on some level. Make sure that ‘level’ is clearly defined and that rules and boundaries are established and followed. This means, no sneaking around on apps, social media or stepping out without permission. Period.

Maintain Respect

You have to respect yourself, your main partner and anyone else you decide to have relations with. As long as you and your primary have those rules set and follow them to a tee, there might not be many problems. However, a loving relationship that isn’t strongly respected might not survive in the swingers lifestyle.

Use Protection

Absolutely the most pertinent aspect of being in the swingers lifestyle is to know you’re playing safe. This means getting tested regularly and maintaining a clear status through protected sex at all times.

As a closing note, always be mindful of after care when playing. Regardless of why or when you swing, your primary should always feel like number one in your life.

ENJOY YOUR RELATIONSHIP EVEN MORE WITH SWINGING

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Learn how to enjoy your relationship even more with swinging. At first, when I Heard the term “swingers”, I thought it was some crazy concept like you might have thought too, but take your time to read and see how Swinging can be of some benefit to you Swinging is when couples choose to have an open relationship, they allow their partners to have sex with other people, with their permission. You might wonder how this type of relationship can work for couples. Now, before going into Swinging, partners should be READ MORE

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What are Orgies Really Like in The Swinging Lifestyle

Many people imagine orgies to be a rowdy and outrageous affair, but the truth is that they’re often simpler and less visually captivating than imagined. Newcomers to the swinging lifestyle …READ MORE

WHY WOMEN CHEAT: HOW SWINGING & HOTWIFING HELPS

Why do women cheat on their husbands? Mostly ladies cheat for the same reasons as men. Women and men both get bored with their predictable, dull relationships. However, unlike men, who stray more for sexual reasons, many of women…