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The Voyeur Fetish in Swinging Explained

October 6, 2023Swingers Resourcesfetish, swinger parties, swingers, swinging lifestyle, Voyeurism, voyeursswingersdotorgadmin

Watching others engage in intimacy and sex acts can be a powerful stimulator comparable to direct participation. Hence, the rise in demand for pornographic films and photos. However, voyeurs are common in the swinging lifestyle and can enjoy more variety in their sex life through mere observation.

What Is Voyeurism?

Voyeurism involves receiving sexual gratification by watching others who are undressing, naked, or participating in sexual activity. Those in the swingers lifestyle understand the importance of consent and boundaries before engaging in this fetish. The rewards with an agreeable partner can transform your sex life tremendously.

4 Ways to Practice Voyeurism In the Lifestyle

When a couple or group in the lifestyle agree to consensual voyeurism, it can become a respectful and responsible way to spice things up in bed or at playrooms.

Here are some of the top ways voyeurs indulge themselves.

1. Observe Your Partner Masturbating

If they are comfortable with it, ask your partner to masturbate or put on a show for you. Some like to hide nearby and watch, while others prefer being visible and making special requests to the other person. When observing, pay attention to how their body reacts, and attempt to incorporate some of those special moves into your routine sex life.

2. Watch a Bit of Live Video Porn

There are many websites that specialize in catering to voyeurs of all tastes. Masturbation, soft porn, LGBTQ-friendly and a variety of fetish categories. This is the best way to be a watcher from a distance.

3. Role Playing

Envision a role play scenario where you get to be a voyeur watching your partner or allow them to watch you if they like. Be sure to discuss with your partner to get permission and to see if it’s a turn on for them, too. Sometimes a sexy dance in lingerie or a hot shower scene can drive one over the top and open the doors to other ventures.

4. Watch Your Partner Be Intimate With Someone Else

Swingers and those in open relationships (or are considering it) might consider allowing their partner to have a soft or hard swap with another person. You might want to find another couple to play with, but be sure to have set rules and boundaries defined before making such arrangements.

Places to Indulge in Voyeuristic Fantasies

There are plenty of places to watch and be watched enjoying sexual relations. If you prefer to not be physically present to watch, check out online swingers sites, where many voyeurs can be found.

Swingers clubs often have special rooms with windows where others can watch those inside. Swinger resorts and cruises are often clothing optional, and nudity in and of itself can be a fetish. Should you want to go further, voyeur and swinger parties may take place locally, most of which are by invitation only.

This short guide can get you started in the world of watching and being watched. Remember, set firm guidelines with committed partners before participating in this swingers lifestyle realm.

SWINGERS FETISH

No matter who you are everyone has their own fetish, just as all swingers have their own fetish. Sure Mike Hatcher might like to watch a wife being led around by a dog collar for a gang bang; you know something romantic like that, whereas others have a different fetish. There are many possible versions of swinger fetishism, as they may apply to the lifestyle of swingers. Generally swingers can be defined as couples that are living together, possibly married, and share an open relationship as a couple. This is… READ MORE

Voyeurism: Most Swingers Enjoy Being Watched!

The practice from which a person derives sexual pleasure by watching another person/group of people having sex is known as voyeurism. The attention of the voyeur may be engaged in…

5 FETISH TOYS ALL SWINGERS MUST HAVE

Since the surprisingly warm reception from the general populace of bold installments like “Eyes Wide Shut” and “50 Shades of Gray”, no longer are lovers of bondage hiding their fetish in fear of judgment. That being said, more and more…

Common Sexual Fantasies for Lifestyle Couples

June 20, 2023Swingers Resources, Uncategorizeddom/sub play, lifestyle couples, sexual fantasies, swinger couples, swinger lifestyle, threesomesswingersdotorgadmin

Sexual fantasies are only a dream for many, but one of the perks of being a swinger couple is the ability to fulfill sexual fantasies. While it might seem a bit intimidating at first to make those fantasies reality, there are many ways to share intimacy that don’t necessarily include intercourse (but the best do!)

From sensual massages and group sex situations, to dom/sub play and even heading outdoors for some sexy playtime fun. Let’s explore some of the most common visions that many crave in their sex lives.

Domination and Submission Fantasies

If you’re considering taking your intimate experience to a higher level with a bit of dom/sub play, you will first need to do some homework. Dom/sub play is something you have to discuss beforehand with your play partner. It’s not just something to dive into without having open and honest conversation about your sexual needs, deviant play sessions and safe words. It’s a great way to explore the dynamics of power and control of the relationship and can involve gentle spankings or more intense play.

While there’s often a more dominant partner and an eager sub, many in the swingers lifestyle enjoy sharing the roles and swapping who’s the boss from time to time. Again, safe fantasies involve solid communication and a good deal of trust.

Getting Closer to Nature and Your Lover in the Great Outdoors

Having sexual intercourse is one of the most natural acts in the world but having public sex is generally illegal. However, you can work around that hindrance with a camping trip or a day visit to a remote location. After all, getting a citation or even worse (arrested) is certainly not likely part of the fantasy.

A grassy field, secluded beach or even on your private property like a cabin or water vessel can certainly be a rewarding place to live out a special fantasy. Make it even more remarkable by inviting others in the swingers lifestyle to join you on this sexual adventure!

Have a Sexy Threesome or Host an Orgasmic Orgy

While some don’t admit it, having sex with another person along with their partners is by far one of the most common sexual fantasies lifestyle couples share. Whether you get off to being an observer or a participator, having a new person in the mix can bring some spice back to a relationship or open doors towards progressing to an alternative lifestyle.

However, it should be noted that the motivation behind the fantasy should be to ensure everyone is pleased. Lack of communication can result in feelings of guilt, jealousy and even anger. Be sure to have set boundaries that you discuss with those involved before plunging into the goodies.

Still On the Fence? There’s No Rush!

Not everyone actually plans and move forward with fulfilling their sexual fantasies —and that’s okay! Sometimes, just having an imagination and swapping those thoughts with a partner can be enough. That may lead later to consider going to a swingers club or taking a lifestyle cruise where you can simply just watch. The world is your oyster, so you can crack open the shell whenever you choose!

HOW TO BECOME A DOMINANT IN THE BDSM LIFESTYLE

Here are a few of the steps you need to follow to become a dominant in this lifestyle. Determine What Kinks and Fetishes You Want to Explore Before you can become a dominant in the BDSM lifestyle, READ MORE

The Joys of the Swingers Lifestyle Threesomes

A study by the Kinsey Institute reported that having a threesome is the #1 fantasy among Americans. This same study claims that 95% of men and 87% of women aged …

HOW TO PREPARE FOR YOUR FIRST GROUP PLAY

Maybe you have been in the swingers lifestyle for a while and have stuck with inviting a single for a threesome. Maybe you have been dedicated to only couple swapping and are ready to add a few more players to…

Swingers Lifestyle Vacations Couples Should Explore

April 20, 2023Swingers Events, Swingers Party, Swingers Resourcesclothing optional resort, lifestyle cruise, lifestyle vacation, lifestyle vacations, swingers cruise, swingers resort, swingers vacationswingersdotorgadmin

From clothing optional resorts to embarking on the high seas, there are many ways travelers with an open mind can have a good time on their next vacation. Check out some of the hottest and sexiest upcoming lifestyle options available for couples interested in swingers vacations or a lifestyle cruise.

Get Tempted at Allures Tropical SEXcapade in Costa Rica

Snag a last minute booking for a Costa Rica excursion through Topless Travel at one of the best boutique swingers resorts in South America. There are 20 luxurious guest accommodations at this all-inclusive destination, and guests receive meals, drinks and entertainment at no additional costs.

Take a soak in the pool or get cozy with your partner or a new one in the waterfall cave. The grounds are filled with colorful birds, lush vegetation, sloths, anteaters and native monkeys. The next SEXcapade at this clothing-optional resort operates from May 27 – June 3, 2023.

Hedonism My Frisky Business Resort Trip

From July 29 through August 5, 2023, get frisky at Hedonism II in Negril, Jamaica at this special gathering. Feel the freedom of exploring erotic taboos and giving in to temptation with a week of devilishly naughty activities with nudists and lifestyle enthusiasts.

While most attendees are routine guests on swingers vacations, they are some of the best people for making newbies feel welcome and helping them integrate into the scene. Between the live entertainment, music and dancing along with sexy scenery and delicious food, you’ll be a hedonist in a slice of heaven!

Get Wild on an East African Safari Adventure

Have a unique couples only experience in the heart of Kenya in the Great Rift Valley and Masai Mara region from September 6 – 13, 2024. Led by Lioness and her Cubs from Topless Travel, guests will stay at the Governors Camp, where the best wildlife viewing in the Reserve is located on the banks of the river. This location is where many of the top animal documentaries are filmed, so you can expect the unexpected here.

Between gatherings and playing with each other and new friends, guides will take you to meet the vibrant Masai tribespeople that love dancing, singing and entertaining guests. Guests will lodge in oversized luxury tents, replete with a bathroom and posh linens and bedding.

Take a Swingers Cruise to the Western Caribbean on the Celebrity Equinox

Blue skies and crystal clear waters await passengers on the Celebrity Equinox Cruise that is coming up on November 05 – 11, 2023. As one of the most popular swingers cruise options, you’ll want to book this trip now! After departing from Fort Lauderdale, you’ll have access to tons of like-minded people, activities and clothing-optional pool and deck events.

Once landing at ports in Labadee and Cozumel, tours will be available along with exquisite food, shows, after-dinner drinks and sensual parties. Get on board for some late-night playtime fun on this Caribbean adventure!

From first timers to experienced swingers, any of these spectacular travel opportunities are sure to be a memorable time. Get wild, or be more tame while exploring lifestyle vacations—the choice is yours!

THE BENEFITS OF LIFESTYLE SITES LIKE SLS

SwingLifeStyle is an online community that allows people of the lifestyle to connect with others in a safe and secure environment. It is also a great place to find compatible partners for you to explore your sexuality. If you are active in the lifestyle and looking for an alternative relationship, Then SwingLifeStyle is the site for you. They are currently the number one lifestyle website in the US and offer a user-friendly website with a high success rate and features that facilitate those looking for sexual adventures. If you are READ MORE

SWINGERS CRUISES: A GUIDE FOR FIRST TIMERS

Lifestyle cruises can be a remarkable experience for swingers and voyeurs alike. However, if you’ve never partaken in a swingers vacation of any type, taking a cruise might seem daunting. Fortunately, this short guide for first timers will help you…

Three Key Things You Can Learn at a Lifestyle Vacation Retreat

Heads up swingers! If you have been—or are getting more involved—in playing with others, it might be time for you to take a lifestyle vacation. A swingers vacation can open … READ MORE

Understanding Bi-curious Men in the Swingers Lifestyle

January 11, 2023Swingers Resourcesbi-curious, bicurious, bisexuality, swingers club, swingers lifestyle, swinging, swinging menswingersdotorgadmin

Let’s face it—in the swingers lifestyle bisexual women are the norm and it’s almost expected that female swingers go both ways. However, when it comes to bi-curious men in the swingers world, reactions and expectations can be quite different due to a long-standing double standard amid the lifestyle. That being said, let’s move along and answer these commonly asked question even among ‘normal’ lifestyles and partnerships.

Does Being Bi-curious Make One Gay?

Absolutely not, and being bi-curious doesn’t even necessarily mean a man is bisexual—the same goes for females. Curiosity may have been what ‘killed the cat’ but it’s certainly what make swinging so much fun! It is completely normal and for men to be curious about sexual relations with others of the same sex.

Why Being a Bi-curious Male is Totally Normal

Some straight men—and likely always will be—may be curious about being intimate with another man…what it feels like…how a male’s semen tastes compared to a woman’s etc. In fact, the practice of male on male intimacy is almost as old as recorded history itself. After all what do you think all those ancient Roman men were doing all day in those baths around the forum? Bi-curious attractions and bisexuality has been around for ages and doesn’t seem to be going anywhere.

Tips for Bi-curious Swinging Men

When swinging with a partner or by yourself, make sure to include that you’re bi-curious on your swingers profile. This will let other know you’re open to explore and see where things lead. Make sure to discuss boundaries in detail with your play partners before deciding to move forward. The lifestyle is open to like minded people and welcoming to all whether online or when visiting a swingers clubs where you’ll likely find a couple open-minded to your bi-curious tendencies.

How Do Lesbian Swingers Connect In & Out The Lifestyle?

Let’s clarify straight away: most lesbians are not known for delving very heavily into the swinging scene. That’s not to say that these women don’t enjoy the company of a …READ MORE

4 WAYS TO HAVE EXCITING MMF THREESOMES

In the swingers lifestyle, threesomes are one of the most beloved ways that partnerships blossom by inviting a third into the bedroom. The sexuality and gender of the participants might impact how one approaches a MMF threesome, which has two…

BISEXUAL SWINGERS: WHAT IT REALLY MEANS TO BE BISEXUAL

There are a lot of Bisexual Swingers in the lifestyle. Find out what it really means to be bisexual. Bisexual individuals are spread all over the world and live in all areas of the society. They are known for their attraction for people of both genders and they can be both, females and males. Along with the attraction, romantic feelings can be involved and the individual that a bisexual may be attracted to does not necessarily have to be heterosexual. While swingers can enjoy having sex with the members of READ MORE

BDSM Verbal and Non-Verbal Safe Words

November 16, 2022Swingers ResourcesBDSM, BDSM lifestyle, BDSM play, BDSM safe words, safe wordsswingersdotorgadmin

In the world of BDSM play, things can get a bit tricky when it comes to communicating whether you like it or are comfortable with the scene, or if you want your dominant to ease up or stop entirely.

BDSM safe words should be short, simple and to the point, but in some scenes it may be important to for some non-verbal safe words. We’ll cover some of the basics of creating safe words and actions in the BDSM lifestyle.

Tips for Choosing a Safe Word

Those in the lifestyle who love getting extra kinky will want to have a safe word that is memorable for both partners. Make sure to have a conversation on what the safe word would be before the start of any scene. Try to use a word or phrase that is meaningful and easy to speak and that can be easily understood over groans, smacks, zaps or whatever sounds occur during play time.

Many choose words that don’t naturally come up in kink or sex scenarios, and food items are popular. Pineapples, bananas, apples and such are good choices. Some couples choose celebrity’s names as safe words, as they are unlikely to come up during sex for any other reason.

Choosing Non-Verbal Safe Words

Non-verbal safe words are essentially safe signals that serve as alternatives to safe words that most be voiced. They serve the same purpose, but they are a communication tool that is put in place for those into certain kinks like face sitting and or being gagged. Non-verbal cues are also useful for those who might have a hard time expressing their wants and needs during kink.

Common safe-signals include double-tapping their partners leg or head or shaking their head, and some may drop a held object like a small ball. If there are plans to include restrictive bondage, it’s a good idea to choose a non-verbal safe word that doesn’t involve those body parts.

In BDSM Play, Safe Word is a Must

Unless you and your partner are no-holds barred kinksters, having some type of safe word or safety signal in place is the best way to prevent issues and injury for all involved. While you may never feel the need to use it, having one in place can ease fears when playing a bit rough in the bedroom.

The Joys of BDSM

To most people, the idea of BDSM seems like a twisted way to love. Some have a perception that it is an activity meant for people who like to …

SAFE, SANE, AND CONSENSUAL – THE GOLDEN RULE OF THE BDSM LIFESTYLE

There’s nothing wrong with wanting a bit of kink in your sexual relationships and this is particularly the case in the BDSM lifestyle. While it’s not for everyone, even those involved in bondage, submission and dominance play have rules to…

HOW TO BECOME A DOMINANT IN THE BDSM LIFESTYLE

“50 Shades of Grey” has made the BDSM lifestyle more mainstream. As such, more people are exploring their sexuality and coming clean about their kinks and fetishes. If you have always wanted to be a dominant in the BDSM lifestyle, you may wonder what steps you need to take to make this happen. Here are a few of the steps you need to follow to become a dominant in this lifestyle. Determine What Kinks and Fetishes You Want to Explore Before you can become a dominant in the BDSM lifestyle, READ MORE

Ice Breakers for First Time Swinger Meet Ups

July 7, 2022Swingers ResourcesSwinger Meet and Greet, swinger meet up, swingers, swingers lifestyle, swingingswingersdotorgadmin

Entering into the swingers lifestyle is sure to provide some good times, but those first time swinger meet & greet opportunities can be challenging. Unless you’re an outgoing individual who is accustomed to meeting new people and enjoying social gatherings, you might want to be prepared with a few of these tips and tricks on how to break the ice at an upcoming event.

Do Some Initial Research

One of the best ways to alleviate anxiety about swinger meet ups is to do a bit of research about the event you are planning to attend. Doing so can help you be prepared for the festivities, which is important if the swingers meet & greet is themed. If any questions aren’t clarified in the invite or on the organizer’s website, don’t hesitate to call and make some inquiries to get yourself in the right headspace for a successful experience.

Avoid Excessive Drinking

While imbibing a drink to get relaxed before heading off to a swinging meet-up is reasonable, don’t use excessive alcohol or intoxicants to relieve stress. There’s a big difference in having a bit of liquid courage and showing up as a sloppy drunk to meet a bunch of people you don’t know. These types of events are best navigated when sober, so you are present both physically and mentally during the experience.

Avoid Being a Fly on the Wall

While it’s perfectly fine to sit on the sidelines for a bit to evaluate the scene after arriving, not much action is likely to happen if you don’t engage with others at the event. Being a fly on the wall or glued to a chair all night can actually make you look unapproachable to other swinging attendees.

Remember, if you are nervous, you are likely not alone. There are others there who are possibly first timers too, so socializing with them can offer an immediate connection. After all, everyone who is at the meet and greet is there for the same reason—to have fun with like-minded people.

Don’t Be Afraid to Separate

If you’re bringing a partner to the event, it’s perfectly acceptable to go the divide and conquer route. Just be sure to have set rules in place between yourselves to avoid any miscommunications or experiencing a deal-breaker incident.

Read the room to find someone you might want to play with, and be mindful in approaching them respectfully. With both partners actively working the room, it will take far less time to get into the action. However, this might not work for all couples, and some other swingers might feel more comfortable engaging with other couples in unison from the get-go.

Ready to Get Swinging?

Make the most out of your first event with these tips to make connections in one night that can be life changing. With that in mind, baby steps are okay. Not all swinging friendships start with sex right away, but getting a good start at a meet-up can lead to future get-togethers where nothing is taboo.

WAYS TO MEET PEOPLE FOR GROUP SEX

Group sex may be an exciting addition to your sex life and especially so if you and/or your partner are into the unconventional and kinky. Group sex may feature in your lifestyle and sexual preferences or may just be an item you eager to cross off that long bucket list. Either way, a good start to making a reality of it is in finding participants; consenting adults, willing to come out and play. Finding group sex participants may be particularly challenging, especially in a rigidly conservative society that unanimously READ MORE

Meet New Lifestyle Couples Using Swinger Chatrooms

Online dating is quickly becoming the new norm for meeting like minded people, and swinger chatrooms is a great place to start. Not everyone involved in the swingers lifestyle is… READ MORE

HOW TO MEET OTHERS IN THE SWINGERS LIFESTYLE ONLINE WITHOUT WASTING TIME

In an app-fueled world, there’s no shortage of folks tapping and swiping away in search for a playmate. The problem that most swingers have with apps is essentially finding the right one to meet someone on their level, and each…

Partners don’t necessarily have to be swingers or lifestyle couples to enjoy the wonderful realm of outdoor sex. Communing with Mother Nature while coupling can bring couples and even groups closer together. To get things rolling in the great outdoors, there are a few safety tips and precautions to heed to make the experience one to remember and one you’ll want to repeat time and time again.

Be Prepared for Planned or Spontaneous Outdoor Sex

Not a lot is needed to get it on outside, and what you want to have on hand can easily be stored away in a duffle bag in the closet or trunk of the car for last minute outdoor rendezvous. Here’s what you’ll need.

Thick Towel or Blanket
Lube
Condoms
Baby Wipes or Cleanup Rag
Extra Clothes (Just in Case!)

Keep those knees, tails, backs and heads protected from pebbles, tree bark, shells and rough ground objects when exploring various sex positions. Bring that blanket, and pack up extra goodies like condoms and close to play it extra safe.

Avoid Probing Eyes, Cameras and Don’t Get Caught!

It’s understandable that some swingers get off at the idea of ‘getting caught’ while having sex. But, this is best left to remain a fantasy, as there can be legal repercussions, personal embarrassment or both. Remember, word gets around fast, especially if charged with lewd conduct officially or a child happens to see you.

The realities of getting caught by wandering eyes, people that crop up unexpectedly, critter cams or even worse, by law enforcement is the polar opposite of sexy. The law or anyone else can pull up on you quicker than you can get those pants pulled up! Find a safe spot that is rarely frequented or do the do on your own private property.

Some Location Ideas for Outdoor Sex

Some great places to engage in outdoor sex include the woods or a forest with plenty of trees and areas shielded from public view. Just be sure no one can hear you or see you! For a fantastic night under the stars, consider having a bit of romance on a camping trip, where you can take shelter in a cozy tent for cuddling afterwards.

Nearby a lake, river, pond or the beach is a perfect place to feel naturally sensual. The soothing sound of the water trickling or waves adds a sense of serenity to the experience. Adventurous lifestyle couples might get waist or neck deep in the water and dive into the action. Any bystanders will likely think you’re making out or just snuggling up, as they can’t see what goes on beneath the water line. You’ll want to lube up before underwater penetration.

Popular Sex Positions for Outdoor Sex

Assume the position anyway you please, but being outdoors can open up vast opportunities for new positions to achieve new heights of pleasure. Tree hugging is a top choice, just be wary of getting bark or branches in the wrong spots. When in the water, take a koala bear hug position or spoon for backside entry. Campers may try sex in a hammock, which is a feat all in of itself. Open up the outdoors into your sex life, and join Gaia in joyous copulation!

Why Secluded Outdoors Could Be A Great Swinger Party

While it is common for most of us to enjoy a swinger party either in a club or house within the city or area where we belong to, there are… READ MORE

IS CASUAL SEX GOOD FOR YOU?

A new study published in the journal, Social Psychology and Personality Science has revealed that it can actually be good for you to have casual sex. A survey conducted on nearly 400 college students by the researchers of Cornell University…

THE SWINGERS LIFESTYLE TOP 3 SEXUAL FANTASIES EXPLORED

Having sexual fantasies is completely normal, and exploring them in ‘real life’ might be intimidating for a first time indulger. Some of the most common desires individuals want to fulfill include sensual massages, threesomes, domination and submission play, outdoor sex and making intimate videos. While there are numerous wild and sane fantasies, we’ll address the top three and offer tips to ensure they are fulfilled as ‘safe fantasies.’ 1. Domination and Submission Fantasies Taking an intimate experience to the next level with a bit of sub/dom play is a sexual READ MORE