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Bisexuality in the Swingers Lifestyle

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The swinging community has long been a space where sexual exploration flourishes, and bisexuality plays a significant role in this dynamic environment. For many participants, the lifestyle offers opportunities to explore attractions that might remain dormant in traditional monogamous relationships.

Bisexuality in swinging isn’t just about physical attraction—it encompasses emotional connections, curiosity, and the freedom to express one’s complete sexual identity. Many people discover or acknowledge their bisexual feelings after entering the lifestyle, finding acceptance and understanding they may not have experienced elsewhere. This discovery process can be both exciting and overwhelming, requiring patience and self-compassion.

Communication is Everything

Successful navigation of bisexuality in swinging hinges on honest communication. Partners must discuss boundaries, comfort levels, and expectations openly. Some couples find that one partner’s bisexual exploration enhances their relationship, while others prefer to keep certain experiences separate.

For bisexual couples, clear communication extends beyond the primary relationship. When meeting other couples or singles, being upfront about interests and boundaries prevents misunderstandings and ensures everyone’s comfort. These conversations should happen before intimate encounters, not during them. Regular check-ins with your partner help maintain trust and address any concerns that arise.

Breaking Down Misconceptions

Several myths persist about bisexuality in swinging circles. The assumption that bisexual individuals are automatically interested in group activities with both genders isn’t accurate. Like anyone else, bisexuals have preferences, boundaries, and specific interests.

Another common misconception suggests that bisexuality is just a phase or experimentation. For many, it’s a genuine orientation that deserves respect and understanding within the community. Some people also wrongly assume that bisexual swingers are more promiscuous or less capable of commitment than others living the swingers lifestyle.

Navigating First Experiences

For those new to exploring bisexuality in swinging, starting slowly often works best. Attending social events without pressure for sexual encounters allows comfort levels to develop naturally. Many experienced swingers recommend finding mentors or couples who can provide guidance and answer questions without judgment.

Creating Inclusive Spaces

The most welcoming swing communities actively foster inclusion for all orientations. This means using inclusive language in profiles and conversations, respecting stated boundaries, and avoiding pressure for anyone to participate in activities outside their comfort zone.

Successful bisexual experiences in swinging often occur in environments where people feel safe to express themselves authentically without judgment or expectation.

Moving Forward Together

The intersection of bisexuality and swinging continues evolving as both communities become more open and accepting. Understanding, respect, and communication remain the cornerstones of positive experiences for everyone involved, as is the case with most swinging couples and their activities.

Whether you’re exploring your own sexuality or supporting a partner’s journey, approaching bisexuality in the swinging lifestyle with patience and openness creates opportunities for meaningful connections and personal growth.

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The Beauty of Bisexual Couples in the Swingers Lifestyle

Bisexual couples benefits from participating in the swingers lifestyle. Because both parties are interested in playing with both sexes, the possibilities for a wider variety of sexual adventure is greater. Their opportunities to meet other like-minded people ranges from swinging…

Signs and Behaviors of Being Bisexual

The Kinsley Scale that was developed more than 100 years ago by Wardell Pomeroy, Clyde Martin and Alfred Kinsey uses the number one through six to determine a person’s sexual … Signs and Behaviors of Being Bisexual… Read More

Bisexual Swingers: What it Really Means to Be Bisexual

There are a lot of Bisexual Swingers in the lifestyle. Find out what it really means to be bisexual. Bisexual individuals are spread all over the world and live in all areas of the society. They are known for their attraction for people of both genders and they can be both, females and males. Along with the attraction, romantic feelings can be involved and the individual that a bisexual may be attracted to does not necessarily have to be heterosexual. While swingers can enjoy having sex with the members of… Read More

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The Role of Fantasy in the Swingers Lifestyle

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There are many in the swingers lifestyle are already living out one or most of their sexual fantasies. Trying new scenarios like BDSM, cuckolding, hotwifing and group sex at playtime can fulfill certain unrealized swinger fantasies. When partners open up about their deepest fantasies, they can discuss exploring these thrilling experiences and interactions. Once you have a discussion about the possibilities and come to an agreement about engaging in your sexual fantasies, it’s just time to make those dreams come true.

Common Swinger Lifestyle Fantasies

For those who are into swinging, common fantasies vary depending on their desires and the scenarios they want to explore. One of the most commonly fulfilled swinger lifestyle fantasies involves partner swapping or having multiple groupings.

Bondage, discipline, and sadomasochism (BDSM) are lifestyle fantasies many swinger couples tend to explore. BDSM has a wide range of acts, which adds to its allure. Many like the idea of being submissive and restrained and/or spanked while some prefer the dominant role where they take charge of disciplining their lovers. This is appealing to those who desire a combination of power dynamics, control and consensual pain during sexual experiences.

Adventures involving sexual novelty practices might appeal to beginning swingers and more experienced couples would venture into more taboo areas such as anal play, outdoor sex or exhibitionism. Everyone has their starting point for expanding their sex life and losing their inhibitions through making fantasies a reality.

Reality vs. Fantasy When Swinging

While many people get excited by the allure and enjoyment that’s possible in swinger fantasies, the transition from reality to fantasy and vice versa is a complex, fine distinction. Just taking fantasies about swinging into real life can be challenging, and mandates solid communication and honest dialogue. This is the key to discussing expectations and boundaries.

The Psychological Role of Living Out Fantasies

In the realm of sexual gratification and personal fulfillment, fantasies play a key role, especially in the swinging community. Using your imagination when considering fantasy scenarios ensures that you have a better chance of heightened sexual pleasure.

Looking at exploring fantasies from a psychological viewpoint indicates that fulfilling them has several benefits. One of those perks is that partners tend to have greater intimacy and a stronger emotional bond between them as they delve into fantasies and share them with each other.

Swinger Fantasies Are Therapeutic

It may sound surprising, but acting on sexual fantasies can be a form of therapy that alleviates stress and other psychological blockages. For example, BDSM fantasies can indicate a need for control or to submit to another, yet it can be a sign of the need to feel desired and gain approval. Group sexual fantasies may reflect the desire to feel irresistible and a better than competent lover.

Turn Fantasies Into an Active Part of Your Sex Life

Because swingers engage with other partners outside their primary relationship, they have more opportunities to live out fantasies compared to vanilla couples. Step beyond societal norms to enjoy your unique desires for a satisfying sexual journey that increases intimacy and lets you and your partner better understand yourselves and each other.

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Wife Swapping – An Overview of the Swingers Lifestyle

Amid the swingers lifestyle, the concept of wife sharing (aka wife swapping) is not a new idea, but rather an accepted one. This involves a couple participating in sexual activities …

Womens Top 10 Sex Fantasies

Several of my faithful blog followers have written in and asked what are the common sex fantasies that women think about. I conducted a few surveys and did some investigations on the subject and I was a little surprised by what I found out. Below are the top ten sex fantasies for women. No.10 Domination (her dominating you) Women may love a big strong man that can sweep em off their feet, but there are several women that want to dominate and be in control. Why? the control factor, she…  Read More

5 Swingers Lifestyle Fantasies To Explore

Swinging is a fantasy in and of itself to many people. More frisky individuals than you know are highly turned on to the concept of getting freaky with multiple partners—even if they won’t admit it! Let’s get down and dirty…

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Choosing The Right Man For A MFM Threesomes

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Having two males in bed together can be exciting for the woman of a swinger couple. A Male Female Male threesome is most commonly referred to as MFM encounters in the lifestyle. This means that the woman is typically ‘the center of attention” and gets to play with both men, but there is no interactions between the two males of the threesome.

Finding the ideal man to add to your triad should involve open and honest communication between couple, so you can find someone where everyone is comfortable. We’re offering a few tips to help you make the best choice.

Determining What You Want in a Second Male Partner

You and your partner will want to jot down what the most important character and traits for their new addition. Discuss any details about what you’re both looking for which includes a number of factors. Experienced swinger couples likely already know what their preferences are so at this point its just a vetting process.

Are Appearances Important to You?

Do you want a hot and sexy man to challenge your senses? Or is a fairly typical man ideal for your MFM threesomes? This is a great starting point for choosing a man to join in your playtime.

Do You Prefer Gentle or Passionate Lovers?

Sometimes, couples are into cuddling and kissing, while others may find it too personal. Some couples may even go as far as having a no kissing rule as that may be a bit too intimate.  However, if you want passion along with pleasure, find a man who has that to offer and discuss the rules beforehand with all parties involved.

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Do You Want Some Kinky BDSM Action?

More people are into bondage and other fetishes than you might realize. If you want a like-minded male partner, make sure to clarify that. You don’t want to catch a man off guard with floggers, ropes and other gear that could be triggering for him. Set guidelines and get permission.

Should the Man Be Bisexual or Straight?

With the woman taking the middle position, the two men may prefer not to engage with each other sexually. Yet, if both men are bisexual or even bi-curious, the experience can get even more interesting on a broader scope and definitely bring forth some excitement to Male Female Male threesomes.

Do You Want Someone to Talk & Flirt with You & Your Partner?

Some swingers couples prefer the silent, anonymous type, while others may want someone comfortable enough to have a conversation before or after their encounter. You’ll likely be able to identify the person’s social habits during your first phone or internet conversation.

Additional Planning Concepts

You’ll want to determine a few things before heading for the gusto, including:

  • How soon do you and your partner want to make this meet-up happen?
  • Who will host the festivities, or will you meet at a hotel?
  • Will you consider meeting up with the man again, or is it a one-time affair?

Make the Night One To Remember

Whether it’s your first MFM or not, make things extra special at the designated meet-up point. If it’s your home or a hotel room, set the mood with some candles, massage oil, music etc.  Otherwise, pack a goodie bag with your mood makers and get ready for a ‘sex’sational MFM time.

Different types of threesomes and the benefits

Many couples get a bit bored with their sex life and start thinking about options to spice it up. For many people the idea of a threesome comes to …

WHY WOMEN LOVE CREAMPIES IN A THREESOME WITH TWO MEN

Women love experimenting and when it comes to sex they just want to test their limits. Having one man satisfy you is just not as thrilling as having two or more men attend to you. Threesomes are now becoming…

FFM THREESOMES DEBATE: SHE WANTS A BUTCH…HE WANTS A FEM

Even the strongest couples amid the swingers lifestyle can run into differences concerning their preferences when it comes to play time. Fortunately, most of them can be worked out, including situations in which the couple wants an FFM threesome but their tastes in women varies tremendously. It’s more common than you think, and it’s typically that she wants a butchy woman while he wants the ultra-hot fem. Read on to explore some ways to find resolution acceptable for everyone. Who’s Sleeping With Her Anyway? In an FFM arrangement, there is READ MORE

 

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The Voyeur Fetish in Swinging Explained

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Watching others engage in intimacy and sex acts can be a powerful stimulator comparable to direct participation. Hence, the rise in demand for pornographic films and photos. However, voyeurs are common in the swinging lifestyle and can enjoy more variety in their sex life through mere observation.

What Is Voyeurism?

Voyeurism involves receiving sexual gratification by watching others who are undressing, naked, or participating in sexual activity. Those in the swingers lifestyle understand the importance of consent and boundaries before engaging in this fetish. The rewards with an agreeable partner can transform your sex life tremendously.

4 Ways to Practice Voyeurism In the Lifestyle

When a couple or group in the lifestyle agree to consensual voyeurism, it can become a respectful and responsible way to spice things up in bed or at playrooms.

Here are some of the top ways voyeurs indulge themselves.

1. Observe Your Partner Masturbating

If they are comfortable with it, ask your partner to masturbate or put on a show for you. Some like to hide nearby and watch, while others prefer being visible and making special requests to the other person. When observing, pay attention to how their body reacts, and attempt to incorporate some of those special moves into your routine sex life.

2. Watch a Bit of Live Video Porn

There are many websites that specialize in catering to voyeurs of all tastes. Masturbation, soft porn, LGBTQ-friendly and a variety of fetish categories. This is the best way to be a watcher from a distance.

3. Role Playing

Envision a role play scenario where you get to be a voyeur watching your partner or allow them to watch you if they like. Be sure to discuss with your partner to get permission and to see if it’s a turn on for them, too. Sometimes a sexy dance in lingerie or a hot shower scene can drive one over the top and open the doors to other ventures.

4. Watch Your Partner Be Intimate With Someone Else

Swingers and those in open relationships (or are considering it) might consider allowing their partner to have a soft or hard swap with another person. You might want to find another couple to play with, but be sure to have set rules and boundaries defined before making such arrangements.

Places to Indulge in Voyeuristic Fantasies

There are plenty of places to watch and be watched enjoying sexual relations. If you prefer to not be physically present to watch, check out online swingers sites, where many voyeurs can be found.

Swingers clubs often have special rooms with windows where others can watch those inside. Swinger resorts and cruises are often clothing optional, and nudity in and of itself can be a fetish. Should you want to go further, voyeur and swinger parties may take place locally, most of which are by invitation only.

This short guide can get you started in the world of watching and being watched. Remember, set firm guidelines with committed partners before participating in this swingers lifestyle realm.

SWINGERS FETISH

No matter who you are everyone has their own fetish, just as all swingers have their own fetish.  Sure Mike Hatcher might like to watch a wife being led around by a dog collar for a gang bang; you know something romantic like that, whereas others have a different fetish.  There are many possible versions of swinger fetishism, as they may apply to the lifestyle of swingers.  Generally swingers can be defined as couples that are living together, possibly married, and share an open relationship as a couple.  This is… READ MORE

Voyeurism: Most Swingers Enjoy Being Watched!

The practice from which a person derives sexual pleasure by watching another person/group of people having sex is known as voyeurism. The attention of the voyeur may be engaged in…

5 FETISH TOYS ALL SWINGERS MUST HAVE

Since the surprisingly warm reception from the general populace of bold installments like “Eyes Wide Shut” and “50 Shades of Gray”, no longer are lovers of bondage hiding their fetish in fear of judgment. That being said, more and more…

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Common Sexual Fantasies for Lifestyle Couples

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Sexual fantasies are only a dream for many, but one of the perks of being a swinger couple is the ability to fulfill sexual fantasies. While it might seem a bit intimidating at first to make those fantasies reality, there are many ways to share intimacy that don’t necessarily include intercourse (but the best do!)

From sensual massages and group sex situations, to dom/sub play and even heading outdoors for some sexy playtime fun. Let’s explore some of the most common visions that many crave in their sex lives.

Domination and Submission Fantasies

If you’re considering taking your intimate experience to a higher level with a bit of dom/sub play, you will first need to do some homework. Dom/sub play is something you have to discuss beforehand with your play partner. It’s not just something to dive into without having open and honest conversation about your sexual needs, deviant play sessions and safe words.  It’s a great way to explore the dynamics of power and control of the relationship and can involve gentle spankings or more intense play.

While there’s often a more dominant partner and an eager sub, many in the swingers lifestyle enjoy sharing the roles and swapping who’s the boss from time to time. Again, safe fantasies involve solid communication and a good deal of trust.

Getting Closer to Nature and Your Lover in the Great Outdoors

Having sexual intercourse is one of the most natural acts in the world but having public sex is generally illegal. However, you can work around that hindrance with a camping trip or a day visit to a remote location. After all, getting a citation or even worse (arrested) is certainly not likely part of the fantasy.

A grassy field, secluded beach or even on your private property like a cabin or water vessel can certainly be a rewarding place to live out a special fantasy. Make it even more remarkable by inviting others in the swingers lifestyle to join you on this sexual adventure!

Have a Sexy Threesome or Host an Orgasmic Orgy

While some don’t admit it, having sex with another person along with their partners is by far one of the most common sexual fantasies lifestyle couples share. Whether you get off to being an observer or a participator, having a new person in the mix can bring some spice back to a relationship or open doors towards progressing to an alternative lifestyle.

However, it should be noted that the motivation behind the fantasy should be to ensure everyone is pleased. Lack of communication can result in feelings of guilt, jealousy and even anger. Be sure to have set boundaries that you discuss with those involved before plunging into the goodies.

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Still On the Fence? There’s No Rush!

Not everyone actually plans and move forward with fulfilling their sexual fantasies —and that’s okay! Sometimes, just having an imagination and swapping those thoughts with a partner can be enough. That may lead later to consider going to a swingers club or taking a lifestyle cruise where you can simply just watch. The world is your oyster, so you can crack open the shell whenever you choose!

HOW TO BECOME A DOMINANT IN THE BDSM LIFESTYLE

“50 Shades of Grey” has made the BDSM lifestyle more mainstream. As such, more people are exploring their sexuality and coming clean about their kinks and fetishes. If you have always wanted to be a dominant in the BDSM lifestyle, you may wonder what steps you need to take to make this happen.
Here are a few of the steps you need to follow to become a dominant in this lifestyle. Determine What Kinks and Fetishes You Want to Explore Before you can become a dominant in the BDSM lifestyle, READ MORE

The Joys of the Swingers Lifestyle Threesomes

A study by the Kinsey Institute reported that having a threesome is the #1 fantasy among Americans. This same study claims that 95% of men and 87% of women aged …

HOW TO PREPARE FOR YOUR FIRST GROUP PLAY

Maybe you have been in the swingers lifestyle for a while and have stuck with inviting a single for a threesome. Maybe you have been dedicated to only couple swapping and are ready to add a few more players to…

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Understanding Bi-curious Men in the Swingers Lifestyle

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Let’s face it—in the swingers lifestyle bisexual women are the norm and it’s almost expected that female swingers go both ways. However, when it comes to bi-curious men in the swingers world, reactions and expectations can be quite different due to a long-standing double standard amid the lifestyle. That being said, let’s move along and answer these commonly asked question even among ‘normal’ lifestyles and partnerships.

Does Being Bi-curious Make One Gay?

Absolutely not, and being bi-curious doesn’t even necessarily mean a man is bisexual—the same goes for females. Curiosity may have been what ‘killed the cat’ but it’s certainly what make swinging so much fun! It is completely normal and for men to be curious about sexual relations with others of the same sex.

Why Being a Bi-curious Male is Totally Normal

Some straight men—and likely always will be—may be curious about being intimate with another man…what it feels like…how a male’s semen tastes compared to a woman’s etc. In fact, the practice of male on male intimacy is almost as old as recorded history itself. After all what do you think all those ancient Roman men were doing all day in those baths around the forum? Bi-curious attractions and bisexuality has been around for ages and doesn’t seem to be going anywhere.

Tips for Bi-curious Swinging Men

When swinging with a partner or by yourself, make sure to include that you’re bi-curious on your swingers profile. This will let other know you’re open to explore and see where things lead. Make sure to discuss boundaries in detail with your play partners before deciding to move forward. The lifestyle is open to like minded people and welcoming to all whether online or when visiting a swingers clubs where you’ll likely find a couple open-minded to your bi-curious tendencies.

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How Do Lesbian Swingers Connect In & Out The Lifestyle?

Let’s clarify straight away: most lesbians are not known for delving very heavily into the swinging scene. That’s not to say that these women don’t enjoy the company of a …READ MORE

4 WAYS TO HAVE EXCITING MMF THREESOMES

In the swingers lifestyle, threesomes are one of the most beloved ways that partnerships blossom by inviting a third into the bedroom. The sexuality and gender of the participants might impact how one approaches a MMF threesome, which has two…

BISEXUAL SWINGERS: WHAT IT REALLY MEANS TO BE BISEXUAL

There are a lot of Bisexual Swingers in the lifestyle. Find out what it really means to be bisexual. Bisexual individuals are spread all over the world and live in all areas of the society. They are known for their attraction for people of both genders and they can be both, females and males. Along with the attraction, romantic feelings can be involved and the individual that a bisexual may be attracted to does not necessarily have to be heterosexual. While swingers can enjoy having sex with the members of READ MORE

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