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Best Adult Books for Swingers Couples During Quarantine

Being in quarantine is a reality check for many people around the world, leaving millions of us bored at home including swingers. Television and Internet perusing gets old after a while, so we want to suggest some great adult books with sex stories that revolve heavily around swinging.

Whether you’re just interested, are polyamorous, married, bi, gay, straight or a swinging single, there are many great reads to occupy your time and get your mind in a sexy place, too.

Top 5 Adult Books For Erotic Stories

1. Swingers’ Lifestyle: The Questions You are Afraid to Ask by Jackie Melfi

This gem is an exceptional and honest Q & A session with Jackie Melfi answering some tough questions about the swinging lifestyle based on her experiences and observations. The Swingers’ Lifestyle is great for beginners, those who have trouble asking hard questions and is even insightful for non-swingers.

Questions come directly from her fans and readers, and is not filled with sex stories but is filled with valuable insights and information.

2. More About A Life Less Monogamous by Cooper S. Beckett

If you’ve ever wondered “Is this all there is to life?” Then More About A Less Life will be a satisfying read. It’s about the meeting of two couples that are asking themselves these very same questions and are looking to spice up their relationships. While Bruce and Paige are not quite outed as swingers, they will have a chance encounter with Jennifer and Ryan that helps them all come to a greater understanding of sexuality unfolding with unbridled passion. This is a good one to initiate playtime with partners you’re quarantining with, as it’s filled with sizzling sex stories.

3. The Ethical Slut : A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships, and Other Freedoms in Sex and Love by Janet W. Hardy

This is a definitive guide to being an ‘ethical slut’ and contains a good bit of information that offers reflections on the attitude of partner swapping and sharing in the mainstream media and typical US family. However, this Janet W. Hardy book discusses jealousy, communication, integrity and tips for asking for (and getting) what you truly want from your open relationship or swinging adventures.

4. The Ground Rules by Roya Carmen

All the main character has to do is follow five ground rules to live out the fantasy of her dreams. While happily married with children, an encounter with a mysterious couple promises to open the doors to unexplored desires. In this tale of a ‘nice girl’ stepping beyond her comfort zone with her hubby in tow, will they be able to follow the rules? You’ll have to read The Ground Rules to find out!

5. The Lifestyle: A Look at the Erotic Rites of Swingers by Terry Gould

Believe it or not the author of this book was once avidly anti swinging. However, after a bit of research in scientific articles and discussions with ‘normal’ members of the lifestyle he had a change of heart. Delve into his discovery of the misunderstandings and prejudices that swinger couples faced throughout history and in many aspects still today. This is a friendly read that offers solid arguments that positively represent swingers and their life choices.

Pick up any of these amazing reads for swingers at local erotic stores or visit our Free Erotic Stories on SLS and enjoy our wide selection of topics written and submitted by their members.

ANAL SEX MYTHS DEBUNKED

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You may have ahead a lot of myths about anal sex which is almost scaring you away from trying it. Actually there are many myths that many people spread but you need to carry out some form of research which will enable you in making the best decision. The following are some common myths about anal sex which you should be aware of:   It will hurt This is just a myth; the truth is that anal sex does not hurt. It depends on the one who is doing it. READ MORE

Finding the Best Erotic MILF stories

Swinglifestyle is the best place for erotic Milf stories. Sometimes the imagination is the best source available to satisfy our needs for erotic material. Did you know that several …

HOW EROTIC STORIES COULD AFFECT YOUR SEX LIFE

Erotic Stories Before anything else, let’s discuss about ’emotional stimulation’ first. Studies show that most men could easily be visually stimulated. On the other hand, women are the opposite, they react more to emotional stimulation. So, it only implies that,…

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The Role Sexual Desire Plays in Boosting your Libido

Our sexuality isn’t necessarily defined by gender or their perceived ‘role’, expectations and norms amid society. A woman’s  sexual desires can be just as powerful as that of a man, its just that some women aren’t really sure what their desires are and how to explore them.

Those craving a healthy and long-lasting sexual relationship, have good reason of better understanding the role desire plays in boosting your libido. There are some surprising results stemming from research looking into the complex world of the importance of sexual fantasies and desires and how it enhances bedroom action.

We have share a few of those findings below:

Research Supporting the Connection Between Libido and Sexual Desires

Besides what our bodies ‘tell us’ turns us on, there are studies that shows the positive aspects of fantasies and desires on the sex drive and how many view sexuality as a whole. A key study published in Psychological Reports from the University of Grenada reveals a strong correlation in men sexual desires and erotophilia— an unusual interest in sex. Essentially, males are more accepting and respond more positively towards sexual thoughts and desires versus women—but not by much according to the studies findings.

Types of Fantasies and Emotional Stressors Can Inhibit Libido

All the benefits aside—and there are quite a few—libido and sex drive can be hindered for some individuals who feel like they have unhealthy fantasies (and some folks do). However, the most typical negative response that men have is when they crave sadistic sex or fancy domination. According to the aforementioned studies, some men feel so ashamed by such thoughts that it lowered their libido measurably.

Interestingly, many women fantasize about being controlled and even dominated –See popularity of the Fifty Shades Of Grey Trilogy.  Yet, they too seem to be hesitant to share these desires with their own partners, even though they are highly turned on when imagining it. Shame and guilt tend to diminish the libido as a side effect of anxiety and fear of what partners might think. Which brings about the question of “How do YOU feel about YOURSELF’ because of these natural fantasies?”

Avoid Letting Desires Get in the Way of Sexual Success

Some individuals use fantasies, masturbation and pornography as a method of avoiding close intimacy with their partners. When a relationship gets stressed, turning more into their comfort zone can actually create a greater divide between couples and negatively impact libido. Stressful relationships can cause people’s emotional desires and sexuality perceptions to change quickly along with their sex drive.

If you find yourself having fantasies or sexual desires, we suggest you explore them safely by yourself or with your partner. Openly communicate with your partner your desires and discuss a way of exploring them together. Many join the swingers lifestyle to explore their  fantasies and sexual desires and a majority have found a way to explore those fantasies safely in the swingers community.

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FOURSOMES: 55% OF WOMEN AND 85% OF MEN WANT SEX WITH OTHERS

Learn what you need to know about Foursomes, 55% of Women And 85% Of Men Want Sex With Others. Fantasies are part of every human being and being with more than one sexual partner without cheating your partner is…

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Many people think that women are a “grin and bare it” type of species when it comes to all things sex but this could not be more untrue, especially … READ MORE

POSITIVE BENEFITS AND HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP ASPECTS OF HOTWIFING

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At first glance, it would seem ‘obvious’ that hotwife where a woman has sex with men other than her husband, but with her husband’s knowledge, consent and often at his urging would be disastrous for any marriage, no matter how strong.The reasons men are so often drawn to encouraging their wives to become hotwives is complex, but it boils down to biology and the way they’re made. In other words, they don’t choose their fantasy: their DNA chooses it for them.And it’s this factor most women miss when their man READ MORE

 

 

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How To Give An Erotic Massage With Happy Endings

Intimacy is about more than just sex; giving your partner a relaxing sensual massage at home is a great way to connect and tighten the bond you share together. With the right setting and erotic massage techniques, it can guarantee a very happy ending for all participants.

The Art of Ambiance Creation for Erotic Massages

Preparing the massage area will lead to uninterrupted experiences and maximum relaxation overall. Here are a few steps to consider:

Set Up the Massage Area: Designate a quiet, clutter-free, calming area of your home for the massage. Set the room temperature to your liking, adding some candles or low lighting to set the mood.

Add Relaxing Sounds: Soothing soft music, harmonic frequencies or nature sounds activate the senses and enhance your massage techniques.

Don’t Forget the Essentials: As with most play times, the right tools are important such as oils, lotions and candles. Oils and creams comes in all type of heating, cooling and scented versions and there are even some soy-based candles that are known to emit pheromone-inciting scents.

Massage Technique Tips

Hitting all the areas of the body is essential for your erotic massage as the skin is the largest and most sensitive organ of the body. You’ll want to use gentle, even pressure strokes taking care to be mindful of how your partner is responding. Here are some additional tips:

Get Into a Steady Flow: Start with the head and face, working your way down to the neck and shoulders, arms and hands, and then move to his/her back. Don’t hesitate to gently whisper “sweet nothings” to them as you stroke them into relaxation. Be sure to “touch up” on all the key areas.

Stimulate Partners Primary Erogenous Zones: Spend some time on your partner’s genitalia adding more oil/lotion and evened pressured strokes to the massage. Be cautious and try not to allow any sort of indulgent release until you deem the time perfect.

Pay Attention to the Secondary Erogenous Zones: Areas that are rarely touched include the hands, earlobes, wrists, and the front and backs of the knees. These parts can be highly stimulating when gently touched or rubbed and this can be a good time to employ soft ticklers like feathers or soft leather tools.

Don’t spend too much time second guessing your techniques. With the right tools on hand and a consistent approach, your partner’s body will respond to your touch — creating pleasure and enhanced arousal levels. Remember, desire and passion are the keys to an erotic massage which is perfect for couples looking to reconnect.

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FOOT CARE TIPS FROM A FOOT FETISH DOMINATRIX

Foot fetishes come in many forms, with most of them stemming from a love of feet, the desire to kiss them and maybe even worship them. There are no limitations to BDSM style foot fetish acts in the lifestyle, so…

How To Give a Perfect Blow Job

Eye Contact. Look into his eyes, while sucking his cock. Men love to watch and this is bar none the best advice I can give. If you look seductively into …

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5 MOST JAW-DROPPING SEXUAL FETISHES

Liberator: Feel the Difference

There are many ways in which people achieve their happiness, although Mike Hatcher marches to the beat of a different drum, nothing ever surprises me. While you might have already heard of sexual fetish like feet, there are others that you have probably never heard of. Below are some of the strangest fetishes ever known to man, some dating back as far as pre-civilization. But even as you are left to wonder in amazement, judge not lest you be judged. Foot Fetishism Foot fetish refers to sexual attraction to feet, READ MORE

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Monogamy — Social Order or Is It Just Natural for Humans?

According to the majority of the populous, monogamy is not just natural to humans—it’s practically an expectation, a phenomenon known as ‘social monogamy.’ Which brings about the question, if being with just one person sexually is ‘natural,’ why do so many struggle to stay monogamous or opt for swinging relationships?

And those who do stay tried and true to their one and only—are they falling victim to social monogamy to fit into the expected norms of their families, culture or religious beliefs? Let’s delve into social order and human nature to learn more about the lifestyle choices they make–and why.

The Case for and Against Social Monogamy

Let’s face it—women and men view sex very differently and likely have since primitive mankind. Early human’s primary goal was survival, and men are genetically predisposed to procreate as much as possible to maintain the species. In this essence, monogamy might not have been considered as natural to men back then, and statistics do support the supposition that men step outside of monogamous relationships more often than women.

Even since the earliest times, women have had the evolutionary goal of reproduction. Women are inherently more selective in choosing mates to ensure the very best matches for her young. Today, women more often fall into social monogamy after having children—another genetic quality.

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As you can see, these variances amid genders creates a social order filled with sexual conflict. What is natural to a male isn’t necessarily how a woman will see things amid the realm of monogamy. Evolutionary traits may lend one to follow what’s best for the gene pool, but this could result in serious consequences for the body. So, which is best? Following monogamous expectations or doing what feels natural for you?

Making Tough Choices About Monogamy

While monogamy is not for everyone. Only you and your partner know what is ‘right’ for you as individuals and as a couple, so if monogamy feels natural, great. Stick with it. If you aren’t feeling fully satisfied with being monogamous, find a partner willing to embrace the lifestyle with you. Swinging and polyamorous couples can be just as committed to their primary partner as anyone else, so don’t hesitate to explore the lifestyle if monogamy isn’t cutting it.

Why An Open Relationship Is Better Than Monogamy

An open relationship is a relationship where partners are free to engage in sexual affairs with other people outside their marriages. Before people decide to engage in open relationships, …READ MORE

MONOGAMY IS DEAD: TIME TO SWING!

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Research suggests monogamy is not worth it. Mate swapping or most commonly known as swinging, is engaging in sexual activities to other people outside of your relationship or marriage. It has been seen by people as strange or deviant but research proved that swingers actually live a healthier and better life than the ones that are in monogamous relationships. Who Are Swingers? Before we get any further, let us first define swinging thoroughly. Swinging is belonging in an open relationship wherein both partners engage in sexual experimentation with another couple
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THE BENEFITS OF HAVING AN OPEN RELATIONSHIP

More and more people nowadays are choosing to have open relationships. This means in simple terms, being sexually and/or emotionally involved with more than one person. It is not the same as “cheating” because the two (or more) people…

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Healthy Swinging Relationships & What They Should Look Like

When making the decision to sway beyond the socially accepted ‘norms’ of monogamy and explore the realm of the swinging lifestyle, newbies can find it challenging staying healthy as a couple if not well prepared. Let’s explore what sane and lasting swinging relationships seem to have in common.

Follow Established Rules

Clearly, you’ve already had a talk with your partner (or potential ones) about your desire to get involved in the swingers lifestyle on some level. Make sure that ‘level’ is clearly defined and that rules and boundaries are established and followed. This means, no sneaking around on apps, social media or stepping out without permission. Period.

Maintain Respect

You have to respect yourself, your main partner and anyone else you decide to have relations with. As long as you and your primary have those rules set and follow them to a tee, there might not be many problems. However, a loving relationship that isn’t strongly respected might not survive in the swingers lifestyle.

Use Protection

Absolutely the most pertinent aspect of being in the swingers lifestyle is to know you’re playing safe. This means getting tested regularly and maintaining a clear status through protected sex at all times.

As a closing note, always be mindful of after care when playing. Regardless of why or when you swing, your primary should always feel like number one in your life.

ENJOY YOUR RELATIONSHIP EVEN MORE WITH SWINGING

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Learn how to enjoy your relationship even more with swinging. At first, when I Heard the term “swingers”, I thought it was some crazy concept like you might have thought too, but take your time to read and see how Swinging can be of some benefit to you Swinging is when couples choose to have an open relationship, they allow their partners to have sex with other people, with their permission. You might wonder how this type of relationship can work for couples. Now, before going into Swinging, partners should be READ MORE

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What are Orgies Really Like in The Swinging Lifestyle

Many people imagine orgies to be a rowdy and outrageous affair, but the truth is that they’re often simpler and less visually captivating than imagined. Newcomers to the swinging lifestyle …READ MORE

WHY WOMEN CHEAT: HOW SWINGING & HOTWIFING HELPS

Why do women cheat on their husbands? Mostly ladies cheat for the same reasons as men. Women and men both get bored with their predictable, dull relationships. However, unlike men, who stray more for sexual reasons, many of women…

Top Swingers Lifestyle App to Meet New Playmates

swingers appFinding new friends as a swinger can be challenging enough, but the daunting efforts one goes through when looking for new potential partners for playtime can seem impossible. There are quite a few people who want to play ‘lifestyle games’ but never intend to follow through with people they meet. If you’re ready to hook up and connect with real people interested in swinging, we suggest the SwingLifeStyle App

SwingLifestyle boasts the largest membership of swinging singles, couples and others looking for fun, friends to explore with, and good times. Some on the platform are new to the swingers lifestyle or merely interested, while others may be long-time participants. There’s something for everyone on this global connection service, and they also have exceptional resources for clubs, events, and forums for members.

The platform caters to single male and females looking for couples, couples looking for other couples and single females or people in general seeking new and unique intimate encounters. Available on any device, this app offers live chat, nude cam rooms with chat and much more to enhance the user experience.

Users of the Swinglifestyle App rave about top features they can access such as “Who Viewed Me” “Matches” “Who’s On” “Hot Dates” and other top features. And that is precisely what swingers download the app with the intention of achieving lifestyle success. In addition, you have access to swingers clubs, parties and lifestyle events such as Hotel Takeovers and swingers cruises and lifestyle vacation at your fingertips, which makes it easy to get everyone on the same page for group play. The site also has a large assortment of useful guides about sexuality, relationships, health, and other swinger related lifestyle news.

Seeking thrills beyond what’s available through your usual connections and want to make new friends? Check out the Swinglifestyle App favored by those active in the swinging lifestyle.

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ROLE PLAYING WITH A SWINGING COUPLE

Being a swinging couple, you have almost certainly had one of your sexual fantasies as dressing up while taking up a different persona. This is because for some couples, role playing is a great way to utilize their imagination to enhance their sexual experiences. Role playing serves as one of the best methods to step up your sexual experience a notch higher, because it introduces variety to your sex life. Whether it is with those sexy short school girl uniforms or those tight nurse uniforms, role playing adds fun and excitement READ MORE

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Tips for Choosing Swinger Couples For Playtime in the Lifestyle

Your spouse or partner has agreed to kickstart a swinging lifestyle with you. While you couldn’t be more thrilled for the highly memorable encounters yet to come, before they can …

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POPULAR PLAYROOMS AT YOUR LOCAL SWINGERS CLUB

One of the perks of the swinging lifestyle is the tremendous variety of opportunities that present themselves in a swingers club. Many clubs offer more than common areas for meeting and greeting with other like-minded community members in the form…

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The Importance of Engagement Within the Swinging Lifestyle

Being a part of the swinging lifestyle is just as enjoyable outside of the bedroom as it is within it. By actively engaging with others who love swinging in other types of social situations, there is much insight to be gained, many good times to be had, and quite a few new friends to be made. Check out these benefits of socializing with like-minded people beyond sexual gratification.

Swinger Friends Make Great Vacation and Hang Out Buddies

Traveling or hanging out with others in the swinging lifestyle doesn’t mean the trip must be dedicated solely to swingers or even have sex during the journey. What it does mean is that you can go anywhere with your friends without the worry of being exposed as a swinger. This can be important if you aren’t outed as a swinger or just don’t want to be. You can have a great trip without any need to feel shameful or guilty, and if the urge strikes for action, willing parties will be nearby.

Working Together to Make Families and Relationships Stronger

Swingers come from all walks of life. Some are married, some are single, some have life partners, many have children and certain groups in the lifestyle for their own mini-families or pods. Being a part of these groups of people opens up doors to learn about the various manners in which swingers embrace the lifestyle. Discussions are usually very free, which allows newbies or those who are having trouble coping with lifestyle concerns to get honest advice and support.

Even if you are swinging single in this all-too vanilla world, don’t miss out on all the goodness that goes along with being an active and engaged member of the lifestyle community both in and out intimate situations.

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THREE TIPS FOR SWINGING SINGLE IN THE LIFESTYLE

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Whether you’re a single male or a high-flying unicorn embracing the lifestyle as a swinger, there are certain guidelines that participants typically follow—sort of like a secret code. Here are three tips for single swingers to help keep things swinging in the right direction. 1. Understand Club Rules Let’s face it, the single ladies have it made in the lifestyle. Unicorns typically enjoy perks such as free entries to parties, clubs and other lifestyle events. Single Male on the other hand are allowed limited entry, often required to be escorted READ MORE

Why Swinging Works

Top 3 Reasons Why Swinging Works

With the openness of the internet, swinging has moved from the underground into more mainstream territory. While swinging clubs and parties have always existed, joining them or asking questions has …

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WHY SWINGING DOES WONDERS TO YOUR LACKLUSTER MARRIAGE

Want to know Why Swinging Does Wonders to Your Lackluster Marriage? Most marriages often drown in their self-created boredom. Monogamous marriages are more like monotonous routines. The same story of work, chores, kids, bills, deadlines and Monday mornings, rob us of…

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The Self-Conscious Side of Swinger Men

Some people falsely believe that lifestyle men have it made…that they are free of the cares and concerns of swinging women. However, nothing could be further from the truth! One must keep in mind that men are self-conscious, too—some even more so than female swingers.

Swinger Men are Appearance Conscious

The swingers lifestyle is arguably all about the law of attraction, so it’s only natural that both men and women who swing tend to pay more attention to their appearance. They tend to be in better shape, dress sharper and do more grooming of certain parts than the average couple.

Unfortunately for single swinger men, the standard they are upheld to in the lifestyle can be even more intense than those who are in relationships. One could argue that single men who are more attractive and well put together will enjoy greater success in the competitive world of swinging.

Performance Anxiety for Lifestyle Men is Very Real

You might believe that a man who gets laid by multiple partners would have no anxiety about their performance. This is also a mistaken conclusion. In fact, these men may actually have more performance anxiety than someone in a traditional relationship. Questions often whirl through the male brain where they question their size and attractiveness in relationship to other male playmates in the room.

These doubts can cause a snowball effect that actually does end up resulting in a lessened performance. Once the ball starts rolling, it can be challenging for a man to snap out of it and get back into the groove of things. The male ego can be a dangerous thing!

So here’s the scoop guys and gals: we all have anxieties and feel self-conscious from time to time. However, keeping a positive attitude and knowing just how amazing you truly are can help you succeed in the swingers lifestyle with greater confidence.

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HOTWIFING ISSUES: DO MEN LOVE THEIR WIVES?

Do you believe that men can still love their wives even though they are involved in Hotwifing? Most women wonder if their men are really into them, reason being that their soul mate advises them to be intimately involved with other men. Some of these women may wonder if what they are being required to do is really possible. It is easy to come into terms with what these women are thinking of the Hotwifing issue, this is because these women have some outlook on how relationship should be and what READ MORE

An Overview Of Swingers and Relationships

There are people whose lives are like an open book, while others keep theirs on a low key. However, there are certain aspects of life that everyone wants to keep …
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SINGLE MALE IN THE LIFESTYLE

The swinging lifestyle is usually associated with couples but in most cases, single men play an important role. For instance, in the case of cuckolding, a husband will watch his wife make love with another man who is single. In…

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Subtle Signs Your Neighbor Might Be Into the Swinging Lifestyle

If your neighbor is a swinger, it’s highly unlikely that they will say so when they introduce themselves to you. However, there are several theories and suppositions on a number of popular swingers lifestyle forums that claim that there are subtle signs that indicate a home’s occupants might be into the swinging lifestyle. While we can’t verify these claims, it does give you something to look for when driving around your neighborhood.

Landscaping and Decor Giveaways of a Swinger

Supposedly, garden gnomes and pink flamingos are often present in the lawns of individuals into the swinging lifestyle. Another bizarre sign that one should look for is a pineapple door knocker. Albeit this sounds a bit fruity, this is supposedly one of the most supported claims concerning decor signs.

Others cite that pink and purple decorations are a signal of swinger action, while there are also claims garden pampas grass is a secret sign. We have to admit, that some of these ‘signs’ seem fairly harmless and many are relatively common. However, if you see several of these indications in the same lawn, you might have neighbors who enjoy the swingers lifestyle.
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Personal Indicators Swingers Might Employ

Beyond what you see outside the home, what you see your neighbor donning—particularly jewelry wise—may also be covert signs that they enjoy partner swapping or other lifestyle activities. It’s been said that many swingers wear a black ring on their right hand if their open to meet fellow playmates, and that women may wear toe or thumb rings or anklets. Some may wear their wedding ring on the right hand to show that they are in some type of open marriage arrangement such as swinging.

In the jewelry department, we can confirm one indicator for sure: a secret symbol wristband. The symbol features the male and female signs with their circles intersecting. There will be three plus or minus signs on each side that indicates what they are looking for. For example, three plus signs on each side says, ‘we’re looking for partners as a couple’ while a minus sign means they are up for solo action.

Now that you know what your neighbors might be up to, keep your eyes peeled for possible new playmates or companions in the swingers lifestyle.

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Swapping Your Wife for Sex with another Man

Swap Your Wife Website The system of wife swapping has been prevalent since years and is commonly referred to as ‘swinging’ in which committed or married couples engage in sexual …

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SWINGING LIFESTYLE: HOW SWINGERS RARELY GET DIVORCED

Learn how swingers rarely get divorced. Life always needs excitement and entertainment. No one likes to spend a monotonous life. It has been seen many times that often couples get bored of each other due to various reasons. Some…

POSITIVE EFFECTS OF WIFE SWAPPING IN A SWINGERS RELATIONSHIP

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Those considering elevating their relationship to greater heights of pleasure by joining the swingers lifestyle discover ample opportunities for wife swapping. A wife swap situation is where married couples switch partners willingly to engage in sexual enjoyment. These engagements can involve two or more couples and can involve bisexual encounters depending on the openness of the participants involved. Swingers participating in wife swapping get more than just sex from these experiences—there are actually quite a few long term benefits for such couples. 1.  Wife Swapping Swingers Develop Deeper Trust It READ MORE

How to Talk to Your Partner about Becoming Swingers

Through careful thought and deliberation, you’ve decided you want to spice up your sex life by inviting a third, even a fourth party into your otherwise two-person bedroom. What you have yet to do is discuss the matter with your spouse, because how do you even go about mentioning such a delicate topic?

The swinging lifestyle is more common than you likely realized, with an estimated 13 million people participating in swinging in the United States alone. If you’re eager to add yourself and your spouse to that esteemed count, then these tips are for you.

1. Skirt the Topic Before Diving Right In

The admission that you want to invite another couple into your sex life can be like a bomb being dropped on your partner. Don’t give them way more to bite off than they can chew right away. Instead, slowly entice them to the thought with small mentions here and there.

Ask questions of your spouse as well. Quiz them on their knowledge and interest in the swinging lifestyle. If there’s little interest, then it’s your job to ignite the spark in them that could have them saying yes to your proposition.

2. Know Thyself and Thy Spouse

Only through a clear, careful inspection into your own sexual likes and dislikes as well as those of your partner can the swinging lifestyle work for you. If there are certain sexual topics you two have shied away from for one reason or another, now’s a good time to bring them into the light.

3. Navigate for Negatives

While the hope and expectation is that your first swinging experience will be exceptional, having an exit plan is always wise. Whether it’s a safe word or a look between you and your spouse, if one of you feels uncomfortable and wants to end the experience, you should be able to, no hurt feelings.

Although entering the swinging lifestyle can be a touchy topic for first-timers, the above three tips will equip you with the poise and approach for a successful start.

IS THE SWINGING LIFESTYLE THE KEY TO SAVING YOUR MARRIAGE?

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Is The Swinging Lifestyle The Key To Saving your Marriage? We are living during a time where it’s regular for you to hear about a swinging, separations, breakups and unfaithfulness READ MORE

Why Swinging Works

Top 3 Reasons Why Swinging Works

With the openness of the internet, swinging has moved from the underground into more mainstream territory. While swinging clubs and parties have always existed, joining them or asking questions has …

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HOW TO GET STARTED ON SWINGING

It is quite possible that you may have spent lot of time talking about swinging and in the interim experience invigorating act of sex. However, the moot point that needs to be understood is how does one actually get out…