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Erotic Spanking Tips – How to Please Your BDSM Sub

There is no lack of ways to have a bit of naughty fun in the bedroom, and impact play is one of the top spontaneous ‘go to’s’ for bold and experimenting couples. While those experienced in the BDSM lifestyle may be accustomed to the concept of erotic spanking, the art of pleasing a partner while engaging in the act can be illusive. We’re here to assist with a few tips to ensure success and maximum satisfaction for all involved.

Head for the Rear…But Don’t Forget the Rest of the Body

Impact play is the term used by swingers and vanilla couples when discussing any form of impact on one’s body for sexual gratification purposes. Naturally, the rear end is a great starting point to explore any desire to find pleasure in the pain.

However, just about any part of the body can be the target zone for various forms of spanking, as the stimulation increases blood flow and can drive a routine sex session to an entirely higher plane of satisfaction. Maximize on this concept with attention to not only the butt but keep the nipples, groin and other sweet spots on the menu.

Hands, Paddles & Whips…Oh My!

There’s no need for expensive toys or massive forethought to get into impact play, but they can be a turn on that your sub just loves. Every instrument delivers a different sensation, but newbies will likely begin their erotic spanking journey with a hand. Those new to the experience, can also start small and use what they have handy around the home.

If both partners find it pleasurable, things can get a bit hotter and more intense with some toys common in the BDSM lifestyle like whips, floggers, and perhaps even pair the experience with some soft bondage implements.

Mix It Up: Alternate Between Spanks, Rubs & Squeezes

While spanking can be a divine experience in and of itself, it can be taken to a whole new level of sensations when the paddle zones are also caressed with rubs and squeezes. Mixing it up can establish a memorable and highly erotic spanking session. Change the shape of the hand, the speed and frequency and strength of these actions to keep things somewhat unpredictable for your sub and certainly more exciting.

Really Want to Know How Your Sub Gets Their Pleasure?

As with just about any situation involving a main partner or one in a swingers situation, the best way to find out what gets them off and heightens their pleasure is to ask! Communication is always the key, but do remember–subs love to be punished, so it’s okay to go off-script on occasion to discover other aspects of erotic spanking that are enjoyable but not yet realized.

A GUIDE TO BEING A SUBMISSIVE IN THE BDSM LIFESTYLE

submissivesSwingers who are comfortable with participating in the lifestyle sometimes find themselves digging a bit deeper into the kink to explore the BDSM lifestyle. While this type of sex play has been popularized by the 50 Shades of Grey series, there’s a lot more to dom/sub play done off the big screen. Typically, there’s no contract involved and submissives don’t give over full control per se. Let’s explore why subs love what they do and their daddy doms that provide them with both pain and pleasure. A Greater Feeling of READ MORE

You Want Me to Do What? A Guide to BDSM Swingers Boundaries

A bit of role play is well within the confines of the average swingers boundaries, but even those in the BDSM lifestyle typically have some limits. That’s the whole purpose …

SEXUAL DISCIPLINE IN THE SWINGERS & BDSM LIFESTYLE EXPLAINED

Whether you’re into swinging, BDSM, love being punished or are a mighty dom who appreciates keeping a submissive, the concept of discipline is nothing new to you. However, those just getting into the lifestyle of submissive/dominant relationships, will appreciate this…

 

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Double Penetration – Explore A New Lifestyle Kink

If things get stale in the bedroom or it’s just time to try something new with your  partner, one of the most popular lifestyle kinks involves a sexual act called double penetration, or DP for short. However, DP isn’t just for those with an alternative lifestyle, as many people enjoy it as a part of their vanilla lifestyle with their monogamous partner.

Let’s explore what it is, what it involves and some tips for getting started with doubling up on sexual fun.

What is Double Penetration?

DP is the act of penetrating two openings in a sexual way, most typically the anus and the vagina. Double penetration can also involve inserting two body parts or sex toys into a single opening simultaneously. The versatile possibilities allow lifestyle couples to involve multiple partners or two people and a few toys—and can even be possible with one person with multiple toys or a dual-headed dildo.

Receiving penetration in the anus and vagina at the same time gives the receiver a feeling of fulness while creating a greater sense of tightness for the givers. This act can also stimulate the g-spot and the prostate for mind-blowing sexual pleasure.

Next, we’ll discuss what you need to proceed with DP and explore some tips for success.

Approaching & Preparing for DP With a Partner

When you’re ready to experiment with this type of play, there are a few key steps of ensuring a good time is had by all. It all starts with communication between participants. What are each person’s expectations, what do they want to experience, what are their fears, will others participate?

With those issues covered and a mutual agreement in place—including a safe word—it’s time to gather up the right tools for a comfortable and gratifying DP experience.

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How to Prepare for DP

Once rules have been set in place, get ready for the experience with a few tools of the trade. In addition to any protection against pregnancy or STD, one will want to get lots of body-safe silicone or water-based lube. Anyone wanting to use toys will need to let the receiver of the DP an array of sizes and shapes of phallic-like dongs and plugs to explore with solo before the first attempt at double penetration. If role playing, BDSM or other fantasies are to be acted out, obtain supplies to make it possible!

DP Starter Tips

Participants should begin with foreplay such as finger or toy insertion in one orifice before trying out two in order to loosen up the receiver and increase their comfort level for something larger. During the double penetration, several approaches can be explored. A vibrator and an anal plug or a partner’s member or a dildo attached to a harness are good starting points.

Some lifestyle couples introduce a second partner for MFM or FMF double penetration exploits. Remember, this can involve two insertions into one hole or a combination of both, so the possibilities with toys and other playmates open the doors for a whole world of exploration! Don’t forget that aftercare is a perfect way to end a DP session and encourage opportunities for future experiences.

Why Women Should Try Double Penetration Sex

Women have fantasies, which they want to act out in the bedroom. Double penetration is one of those fantasies. It can be both a man’s as well as a women’s …

WHY WOMEN PREFER A THREESOME WITH TWO MEN

Ever wonder why women prefer a threesome with two men? Many women love threesomes. There are many reasons why. In a threesome, two men will engage in sex with a single lady. The experience is so fulfilling to women…

16 POSITIONS FOR DOUBLE PENETRATION

Did you know there are 16 positions for double penetration? So, you are planning your first double penetration, but really you have no idea on how to do it? You must be asking yourself what position to use? What are the differences between positions, etc. Whether you are just interested to learn more about double penetration, or you plan to have it yourself. Rest assured that these 16 Double Penetration positions that we found, will be more than enough.  READ MORE

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How To Have Safe and Fun Outdoor Sex

Partners don’t necessarily have to be swingers or lifestyle couples to enjoy the wonderful realm of outdoor sex. Communing with Mother Nature while coupling can bring couples and even groups closer together. To get things rolling in the great outdoors, there are a few safety tips and precautions to heed to make the experience one to remember and one you’ll want to repeat time and time again.

Be Prepared for Planned or Spontaneous Outdoor Sex

Not a lot is needed to get it on outside, and what you want to have on hand can easily be stored away in a duffle bag in the closet or trunk of the car for last minute outdoor rendezvous. Here’s what you’ll need.

  • Thick Towel or Blanket
  • Lube
  • Condoms
  • Baby Wipes or Cleanup Rag
  • Extra Clothes (Just in Case!)

Keep those knees, tails, backs and heads protected from pebbles, tree bark, shells and rough ground objects when exploring various sex positions. Bring that blanket, and pack up extra goodies like condoms and close to play it extra safe.

Avoid Probing Eyes, Cameras and Don’t Get Caught!

It’s understandable that some swingers get off at the idea of ‘getting caught’ while having sex. But, this is best left to remain a fantasy, as there can be legal repercussions, personal embarrassment or both. Remember, word gets around fast, especially if charged with lewd conduct officially or a child happens to see you.

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The realities of getting caught by wandering eyes, people that crop up unexpectedly, critter cams or even worse, by law enforcement is the polar opposite of sexy. The law or anyone else can pull up on you quicker than you can get those pants pulled up! Find a safe spot that is rarely frequented or do the do on your own private property.

Some Location Ideas for Outdoor Sex

Some great places to engage in outdoor sex include the woods or a forest with plenty of trees and areas shielded from public view. Just be sure no one can hear you or see you! For a fantastic night under the stars, consider having a bit of romance on a camping trip, where you can take shelter in a cozy tent for cuddling afterwards.

Nearby a lake, river, pond or the beach is a perfect place to feel naturally sensual. The soothing sound of the water trickling or waves adds a sense of serenity to the experience. Adventurous lifestyle couples might get waist or neck deep in the water and dive into the action. Any bystanders will likely think you’re making out or just snuggling up, as they can’t see what goes on beneath the water line. You’ll want to lube up before underwater penetration.

Popular Sex Positions for Outdoor Sex

Assume the position anyway you please, but being outdoors can open up vast opportunities for new positions to achieve new heights of pleasure. Tree hugging is a top choice, just be wary of getting bark or branches in the wrong spots. When in the water, take a koala bear hug position or spoon for backside entry. Campers may try sex in a hammock, which is a feat all in of itself. Open up the outdoors into your sex life, and join Gaia in joyous copulation!

Why Secluded Outdoors Could Be A Great Swinger Party

While it is common for most of us to enjoy a swinger party either in a club or house within the city or area where we belong to, there are… READ MORE

IS CASUAL SEX GOOD FOR YOU?

A new study published in the journal, Social Psychology and Personality Science has revealed that it can actually be good for you to have casual sex. A survey conducted on nearly 400 college students by the researchers of Cornell University…

THE SWINGERS LIFESTYLE TOP 3 SEXUAL FANTASIES EXPLORED

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Having sexual fantasies is completely normal, and exploring them in ‘real life’ might be intimidating for a first time indulger. Some of the most common desires individuals want to fulfill include sensual massages, threesomes, domination and submission play, outdoor sex and making intimate videos. While there are numerous wild and sane fantasies, we’ll address the top three and offer tips to ensure they are fulfilled as ‘safe fantasies.’ 1. Domination and Submission Fantasies Taking an intimate experience to the next level with a bit of sub/dom play is a sexual READ MORE

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Tips for Protecting Your Privacy in the Swingers Lifestyle

Depending on how open participants are, many in the swingers lifestyle opt to keep their sex lives private. However, in today’s world, information is easier to obtain about who you are, where you live and other details that can be both embarrassing and pose a danger to your safety.

Fortunately, the majority of swingers appreciate privacy too, so follow these security tips to maintain some sense of anonymity when chatting with new people, especially those you meet on a swingers website.

Keeping Your Identity a Mystery Until Sharing Feels Right

A good many people in the swinging scene create a profile name that describes interests or likes instead of using their real name or any variation to their real one. It only takes a few clicks online to find out personal info when using your actual identity.

Protecting Email Accounts and Phone Numbers

It’s important not to share personal contact details with others on a swingers platform. Use whatever features the site has such as instant messaging and video chat to vet potential playmate. Look out for the ones requesting your personal phone number or email address on first contact so they can “chat” more offline.  Those living in smaller towns or who are well known can use their alternate name and list themselves as residing in a nearby town if meeting swingers nearby is important.

Consider getting a burner phone should you choose to share your number. Creating a second email address is free and can be a dedicated connection point solely for swinging efforts.

Preventing Images From Doxxing Your Info

It’s risky to take pictures in the home, workplace or even nearby identifiable landmarks in your community. Use a virtual background in online swingers chatrooms, and don’t show your face when taking nudes.

Use photo editors that can blur out identifying markings and set the privacy features on your photo galleries to protect images you don’t want shared with the public.  When you are willing to share sexy photographs, don’t store them on your ‘vanilla’ phone, but place them in password-protected galleries on sites you frequent.

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There are swinger website that provides you the added security and privacy that allows you to play freely. Be on the look out for pic collectors and those that engage with the lifestyle in bad faith. Free profiles on swingers sites often lack access to most features while some members only play with other paid members. It shows a commitment to the lifestyle in general. If you’re serious about the swingers lifestyle, we suggest reading up on what the lifestyle is all about on swingers forums and swinger groups.

Why Couples Get Into Swinging

Swinging is a form of lifestyle that is gaining popularity and there are many people out there adopting this lifestyle. This kind of relationship has been ongoing for a … READ MORE

WHY SWINGING DOES WONDERS TO YOUR LACKLUSTER MARRIAGE

Want to know Why Swinging Does Wonders to Your Lackluster Marriage? Most marriages often drown in their self-created boredom. Monogamous marriages are more like monotonous routines. The same story of work, chores, kids, bills, deadlines and Monday mornings, rob us of…

HOW TO SPOT REAL SWINGERS PERSONAL PROFILE ONLINE

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Some adult profiles can seem inauthentic and determining which ones are real can prove a bit more challenging — particularly when it comes to adult personals in the swingers lifestyle. However, with these easy tips, you can more easily spot if someone you’re considering for play is truly who they say they are with intentions that match up with your own. Pay Attention to Swinger Profile Details Take a close look at the sexual preferences, weight, height and other pertinent details in all the swingers personals you review. Those that READ MORE

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Connecting with Lifestyle Couples Via Swinger Chatrooms

Swinger chatrooms are a safe space for lifestyle couples to connect. As the pandemic continues, swingers couples are becoming more eager to connect with other lifestyle couples via online chatrooms. A place where social distancing is the norm, yet real connections can be made that might come to physical fruition when things return to some semblance of normalcy.

Let’s get into how and why connecting in swinger chatrooms is not only best for now, but also for any other time as you seek to connect with like minded people.

Why Choose Swingers Chatrooms?

The truth is, most of us already chat online, whether it be through messages, video or both. After all, it is the best way to make connections with new people and maintain contact with other swingers couples. Even if you are new to chatting with swingers, online sessions are a great way to get to know someone and what to expect should you meet up at some point.

Another great point to consider is that people feel free to communicate open and honestly their personal likes, dislikes and role in the swingers lifestyle on a private forum. Even newbies can become more comfortable with the lifestyle after a few chats helps them realize that they often share common fantasies and fetishes with like-minded individuals. Best of all, if you don’t like what you are hearing or seeing, it’s easy to disconnect or just move into a new chat room.

Find People With Similar Interests: Search Online Chat Rooms

With a few clicks to narrow down your interests, chatrooms let you easily connect with those who have similar proclivities. Most rooms are highly populated, so there are numerous break-off chat rooms dedicated to specific interests, such as:

  • Cuckold
  • Hotwifing
  • Bi-Male/Female
  • Taboo
  • Nudist
  • Transgendered
  • Threesomes
  • Hard/Soft Swapping

You can even start your own topic chat on many sites as well as plan meetings, events, vacations or book hotels for playtime with your new friends.

Moving off the main board and into a private chatroom lets you maintain a greater level of privacy, and only in these rooms should you even consider sharing nudes or any type of personal information. While there are lots of rooms and options, there are some guidelines for participating in chatrooms.

Quick Tips for Wisely Using Swinger Chats

Not a lot of hard-set rules exist, but courtesy and common sense should prevail to ensure participants have a good experience as well as lots of fun. Couples should use swinger chatrooms together when possible. It creates sexy time opportunities as you get turned on by someone else, and you can agree as to whether attraction exists on both sides.

Don’t randomly just start sending nudes without being asked. Use tasteful pics in your profile that are sexy but not over-the-top full on body shots. Leave something to the imagination. Always be respectful and never shame other’s fantasies or their bodies. Most importantly, keep in mind that everyone in the forum is looking for a good time, so play nice now and save some naughty for later.

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Swinger Couples Meet & Greet – First Dates

Finding swinger couples is not an easy task. As such, most couples make their connections online. Before couples decide to make their relationship physical, they go out on a first date, also called a meet and greet with the other couple or single, to ensure that there is chemistry. If you are new to the swingers … Continue reading Swinger Couples Meet & Greet – First Dates

Tips for Choosing Swinger Couples For Playtime in the Lifestyle

Your spouse or partner has agreed to kickstart a swinging lifestyle with you. While you couldn’t be more thrilled for the highly memorable encounters yet to come, before they can … READ MORE

SWINGER COUPLES ONLY ENJOY THESE HEALTH BENEFITS

Believe it or not, swinger couples do have greater health benefits due to more orgasms. Orgasms are directly connected with the happy mood and mental strength of both the sex partners. Both of these factors are present more in swinging couples as compared to monogamous couples as they are controlled by various other factors. Flexibility, creative capacity, adaptation of changing circumstances and indefinable thinking are some of the factors that rule the mood and metal health of a person. When you compare the sexual life of swinging couples and monogamous READ MORE

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Tips On Over-cumming’ Performance Anxiety in the Lifestyle

It’s not unnatural for people to have anxiety about certain aspects of sex, their own body or even their partner from time to time. However, in the swingers lifestyle, feeling a bit nervous about initial encounters can be prevalent.

Performance anxiety can prevent our bodies from responding in the way we hope when it comes down to  playtime sessions and staying aroused—or getting there—may become challenging.

Singles and couples should consider the following to fully overcome lifestylw insecurities and boost confidence at lifestyle parties or with new partners in private settings.

Bypass Sexual Insecurities

One or two not so great experiences may be signs of sexual fears and barriers that impede having the best time possible. However, these methods and practices can boost esteem and make you a standout at lifestyle clubs and other personal interactions when swinging.

Do a Little Research

Are you dry, suffering from erectile dysfunction or having trouble peaking in bed? A little online research can help you dive into the causes of these issues, as can consulting with a medical provider who can help discover if there’s a physical source of the problem.

Build Confidence

Grow self-esteem through self talk and don’t hesitate to reach out to your primary partner about these concerns. Their understanding can be very reassuring. Consider including more physical exercise in daily activities which can boost libido, body confidence and increase longevity.

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Try Soft Swapping During Swingers Playtime

Sometimes the pressure of feeling the need for a full swap can result in anxiety, especially for newer exchanges. Sometimes, easing into the scene with a soft swap with one new partner at a time can be comforting, as these don’t necessarily require an erection or a performance. It can involve touching, kissing, caressing and massaging rather than full on sex.

Employ a Few Toys

Toys are commonplace at many lifestyle parties, as they can help everyone get into the mood. Why not bring them into your everyday life or swinging partnerships for a bit of a morale booster? Should you not be in the mood, a good selection of toys can save the experience, ensuring a good time is had by all.

Take Care of Yourself First

If getting going is a struggle, you can head to the bathroom to get a rev in your step so to speak with a bit of masturbation, deep breathing or visual work. Some enjoy masturbating in front of partners, but others might find privacy more reassuring. If staying hard longer is a concern, get yourself off first to increase stamina for the real deal.

Divide and Conquer

If performance anxiety is associated with performing in front of a current partner or strangers in lifestyle clubs, head to a separate room with swingers playmates. This means you aren’t being analyzed, nor is your lovemaking style, so dividing it up can be beneficial in certain situations.

Remember, our bodies are often unpredictable and may not always do what we want when we want. Try these helpful tips for easing sexual performance anxiety and find more pleasure ultimately in the swingers lifestyle and in your everyday relationship.

What If You Can’t Perform In Group Sex?

Group sex is not new. It has been and a good number of people have taken part in it at one point or another. There are just some that fully… READ MORE

SWINGERS AND PERFORMANCE ANXIETY

Have you seen those impotence ads on the television? It is usually an older, married couple. The next commercial is usually and ad for hair restoration. You notice that most the men in the ads seem to be older?…

SAME ROOM VS SEPARATE ROOM WHEN COUPLE SWAPPING

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Along with threesomes, couple swapping is often a key component of relationships for those involved in the swinging lifestyle. However, there is always an underlying question that arises with each encounter: Should couples enjoy the action in the same room, or should they head to separate rooms? In short, the answer depends on the participant’s preferences. Let’s get under the sheets a bit in both scenarios and explore the differences between both experiences. Swinging with Partners in the Same Room Many couples enter the swinging lifestyle because they get turned READ MORE

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How the Swingers Lifestyle Enhances Intimate Relationships

Many vanilla and traditionally monogamous individuals without a sense of sexual adventure have a tendency to proclaim that the swingers lifestyle is a surefire way to a breakup or a divorce.

However, many couples involved in swinging will disagree along with several polls and studies that support the notion that swingers can—and do—have rather healthy intimate relationships.

Here’s how giving an intimate relationship a new twist with swinging can promote a more solid commitment and boost sex appeal.

Jealously is Surpassed in Swinging

There is absolutely no room for jealous inclinations in the realm of healthy intimate relationships, but this can present a bit of new challenge for swinging couples just delving into the lifestyle. Jealousy can kill the good vibes and dampen the trust and love in any relationship, swinging or monogamous.

The willingness to share a partner without letting the green-eyed monster rear its ugly head indicates a solid connection with a primary partner. According to many mental health counselors, swinging couples in an intimate relationship tend to be both more satisfied and committed to their partnership than their vanilla peers.

Swinging Can Boost Confidence

Healthy intimate relationships are had between individuals who each have their own strong sense of confidence. Not to be egotistical, but it sure can make one feel pretty good about themselves to know that they are desired by others outside of their relationship.

Having the ability to act upon those desires with the consent of a partner can provide a pick-me-up that restores sexual prowess back at home. Scratching those itches and letting someone outside the confines of the committed partnership with a one-time fling or amid the swingers lifestyle just might help a strong relationship gain even greater traction.

Curb Cheating In An Intimate Relationship

When the rules are abided by, the swingers lifestyle is kind of like a hall pass with consent, no jealously, and there is no need to cheat. Boredom or being involved in a lackluster or sexless relationship can easily lead to cheating. Regardless of WHY one or both partners seek to fulfill sexual needs outside of the primary bonds, discussing an alternative lifestyle can prevent cheating and actually establish a closer connection between couples.

Excitement Strengthens Relationship Bonds

The monotony of monogamy can be a primary reason for the ending of a union. According to scientific studies, only nine percent of the mammals in the world practice monogamy, which leads us to wonder how we should expect the human species to have only one mate? Likely the rise of religions calling for monogamy has pushed our species into this non-natural existence.

However, shouldn’t we all be allowed to live in ways that make us happy, soothe our bodies and satisfy our physical and emotional desires without judgement? Swinging with the consent and within guidelines established let’s couples open up and enjoy a greater sense of satisfaction with their partners without fear of repercussions.

Stay together longer. Have a healthier intimate relationship. Go outside of the norm if you and your partner are comfortable doing so and give the swingers lifestyle a try.

Top 3 Reasons Why Swinging Works

With the openness of the internet, swinging has moved from the underground into more mainstream territory. While swinging clubs and parties have always existed, joining them or asking questions has … READ MORE

HOW SWINGER COUPLES ARE COPING DURING COVID-19

As people are finding themselves restless during the COVID-19 pandemic, those in the swingers lifestyle are even more antsy. Social distancing guidelines have heavily restricted the opening and capacity levels in bars, clubs, on cruises and in public places. This…

SWINGER COUPLES ONLY ENJOY THESE HEALTH BENEFITS

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Believe it or not, swinger couples do have greater health benefits due to more orgasms. Orgasms are directly connected with the happy mood and mental strength of both the sex partners. Both of these factors are present more in swinging couples as compared to monogamous couples as they are controlled by various other factors. Flexibility, creative capacity, adaptation of changing circumstances and indefinable thinking are some of the factors that rule the mood and metal health of a person. When you compare the sexual life of swinging couples and monogamous READ MORE

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Swingers Definitions That Every Newbie Needs to Know

In the realm of swinging there are many covert terms that the average person might not fully be aware of. So, those starting out or who are planning to dabble in this alternative lifestyle will want to become privy to a few key swinger definitions to get more familiar with the scene.

Swingers: People who take pleasure in swapping or sharing their intimate partner with one or more individuals outside the primary relationship. Swingers set their own limitations and boundaries.

The Swingers Lifestyle: The term swingers lifestyle refers to the alternative lifestyle known as swinging. However, it can describe sex-positive persons of an open mind to partner sharing or swapping.

Vanilla: Swingers use the term vanilla to describe individuals who are traditionally monogamous and that have sext that doesn’t involve acts that deviate from the norm such as BDSM, orgies, etc.

Unicorn: Considered unusual and often rare, unicorns are single women open to swinging. Many couples seek out these ladies when first dabbling while others prefer unicorns due to their openness and lack of desire for full-time relationships. Bulls are single male swingers.

Playmates: Playmates is a term used to describe swingers that you engage with in ‘playtime’ which involves whatever sexual activities the partners choose.

Voyeurism: Those who enjoy watching others have sex with the consent of the participants are engaging in what is called voyeurism.

Soft Swap: Soft swapping swingers don’t engage in full-blown intercourse but rather limit activities with others to heavy petting, oral sex and kissing.

Full Swap: A full swap is when penetrative sex occurs with swinger playmates.

Closed Door Swinging: Closed door swinging describes couples who swap partners in separate rooms for sexual activities.

Same Room Swinging: This is when those in the alternative lifestyle share a room or space for their soft or full swap playtime.

Polyamory: Individuals who say they are in an open relationship might be into polyamory, which is when a couple doesn’t expect monogamy from their partner. However, rather than simple casual flings, polyamorous groups are more often long-term relationships with mutual love and respect. It’s not the same as swinging, and poly couples often live together as ‘families’ with a third person or other committed couple.

Hotwife: A hotwife is a married or committed woman who has the permission of her partner to have sex with other men. Typically, the ‘hubby’ enjoys watching and in some cases may join in. There are also hot-husbands, as well filling the reverse role.

Cuckold: When a man ‘complies’ with his partner’s sexual engagements with other men while watching and getting pleasure from it, he is called a cuckold. This can also be used to describe men who love to be dominated by their woman. Females in this situation are called cuckqueens.

MMF vs MFM: In the realm of threesomes an MMF is a male-male-female grouping in which the two men will have sex. MFM is a male-female-male threesome positions the woman in the middle because the men will only have sex with the woman.

FMF/FFM: Threesomes in which a female-male-female (FMF) occurs with no female interaction. FFM implies bisexual action between females.

The swingers lifestyle is a fun way to mix up the sex life of open-minded couples, so these are only the beginning basics of swinger definitions that you’ll learn as you gain experience in the lifestyle.

HOTWIFING ISSUES: DO MEN LOVE THEIR WIVES?

Do you believe that men can still love their wives even though they are involved in Hotwifing? Most women wonder if their men are really into them, reason being that their soul mate advises them to be intimately involved with other men. Some of these women may wonder if what they are being required to do is really possible. It is easy to come into terms with what these women are thinking of the Hotwifing issue, this is because these women have some outlook on how relationship should be and what READ MORE

Different types of threesomes and the benefits

Many couples get a bit bored with their sex life and start thinking about options to spice it up. For many people the idea of a threesome comes to… READ MORE

BENEFITS OF CUCKOLDING FOR A WOMAN

Cuckolding is a type of relationship in which a man watches his lady being pleased sexually by other men. In some cases the man is unable to satisfy his lady sexually and he may not even be aware of the techniques…

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Porn Addiction Pandemic? – Tips to Avoid This ‘Novel’ Virus

They say this pandemic has resulted in ‘unprecedented times,’ and many swingers are finding themselves stuck at home or unable to connect with their play partners and friends. Surely, the days can get boring and the nights may feel lonely and cold so some fill their time with a little adult entertainment.

It appears that leading porn sites are seeing a massive surge in streaming subscription services and visitor views, so people are likely finding relief and entertainment in front of the screen. This seems to be leading to more concern that individuals are increasingly falling victim to porn effects such as addiction.

Is Porn Addiction Real?

According to the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM) porn addiction isn’t officially recognized as a mental health disorder. Rather, most psychological professionals view porn addiction as a behavioral issue that shares similar mechanisms with those suffering from substance addiction.

However, some researchers are suggesting that porn addiction can be chalked up to compulsion as opposed to addiction. While the line is thin between the two, compulsions are things someone does over and over again without any rational motivation other than satisfaction or alleviating anxieties. Addictions, on the other hand, are things one cannot stop doing, but both terms involve a severe lack of control.

What are the Signs of Porn Addiction?

Occasional viewing doesn’t indicate an addiction, but those who feel a complete lack of control over their compulsion could very well be addicted to this visual stimulation. Signs of a potential problem include:

  • Time spent watching keeps increasing and impedes on daily responsibilities or time spent with others in your life
  • Feelings of guilt develop after viewing porn
  • You find yourself needing a ‘fix’ of porn to get ‘high’
  • Sex doesn’t seem pleasurable without watching pornography
  • You start pressuring your sexual partner to perform acts you see in porn that they are uncomfortable with

Preventing Pandemic Pornography Addiction

It’s natural to crave relief during this crisis and porn can be a great release and assist with masturbation. However, you should know when enough is enough and when you might have a real problem that could negatively impact you or someone you care about. Here are some prevention tips.

  • If you find yourself routinely viewing it, you can set up restrictions or time constraints for yourself.
  • Check out the advice from the World Health Organization and the Centers for Disease Control that recommend increasing outdoor activities that conform to social distancing regulations to reduce anxiety and screen time.
  • Stay off the Internet when you are feeling like looking at a naughty site. Pick up a book or magazine, play a game, take on a home project or discover a new hobby to kill some time productively without focusing on sex.

If you suspect that porn effects are becoming a problem, don’t hesitate to reach out to a mental health professional for sex addiction counseling and get further advice.

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Being in quarantine is a reality check for many people around the world, leaving millions of us bored at home including swingers. Television and Internet perusing gets old after a while, so we want to suggest some great adult books with sex stories that revolve heavily around swinging.

Whether you’re just interested, are polyamorous, married, bi, gay, straight or a swinging single, there are many great reads to occupy your time and get your mind in a sexy place, too.

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1. Swingers’ Lifestyle: The Questions You are Afraid to Ask by Jackie Melfi

This gem is an exceptional and honest Q & A session with Jackie Melfi answering some tough questions about the swinging lifestyle based on her experiences and observations. The Swingers’ Lifestyle is great for beginners, those who have trouble asking hard questions and is even insightful for non-swingers.

Questions come directly from her fans and readers, and is not filled with sex stories but is filled with valuable insights and information.

2. More About A Life Less Monogamous by Cooper S. Beckett

If you’ve ever wondered “Is this all there is to life?” Then More About A Less Life will be a satisfying read. It’s about the meeting of two couples that are asking themselves these very same questions and are looking to spice up their relationships. While Bruce and Paige are not quite outed as swingers, they will have a chance encounter with Jennifer and Ryan that helps them all come to a greater understanding of sexuality unfolding with unbridled passion. This is a good one to initiate playtime with partners you’re quarantining with, as it’s filled with sizzling sex stories.

3. The Ethical Slut : A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships, and Other Freedoms in Sex and Love by Janet W. Hardy

This is a definitive guide to being an ‘ethical slut’ and contains a good bit of information that offers reflections on the attitude of partner swapping and sharing in the mainstream media and typical US family. However, this Janet W. Hardy book discusses jealousy, communication, integrity and tips for asking for (and getting) what you truly want from your open relationship or swinging adventures.

4. The Ground Rules by Roya Carmen

All the main character has to do is follow five ground rules to live out the fantasy of her dreams. While happily married with children, an encounter with a mysterious couple promises to open the doors to unexplored desires. In this tale of a ‘nice girl’ stepping beyond her comfort zone with her hubby in tow, will they be able to follow the rules? You’ll have to read The Ground Rules to find out!

5. The Lifestyle: A Look at the Erotic Rites of Swingers by Terry Gould

Believe it or not the author of this book was once avidly anti swinging. However, after a bit of research in scientific articles and discussions with ‘normal’ members of the lifestyle he had a change of heart. Delve into his discovery of the misunderstandings and prejudices that swinger couples faced throughout history and in many aspects still today. This is a friendly read that offers solid arguments that positively represent swingers and their life choices.

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