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Connecting with Lifestyle Couples Via Swinger Chatrooms

Swinger chatrooms are a safe space for lifestyle couples to connect. As the pandemic continues, swingers couples are becoming more eager to connect with other lifestyle couples via online chatrooms. A place where social distancing is the norm, yet real connections can be made that might come to physical fruition when things return to some semblance of normalcy.

Let’s get into how and why connecting in swinger chatrooms is not only best for now, but also for any other time as you seek to connect with like minded people.

Why Choose Swingers Chatrooms?

The truth is, most of us already chat online, whether it be through messages, video or both. After all, it is the best way to make connections with new people and maintain contact with other swingers couples. Even if you are new to chatting with swingers, online sessions are a great way to get to know someone and what to expect should you meet up at some point.

Another great point to consider is that people feel free to communicate open and honestly their personal likes, dislikes and role in the swingers lifestyle on a private forum. Even newbies can become more comfortable with the lifestyle after a few chats helps them realize that they often share common fantasies and fetishes with like-minded individuals. Best of all, if you don’t like what you are hearing or seeing, it’s easy to disconnect or just move into a new chat room.

Find People With Similar Interests: Search Online Chat Rooms

With a few clicks to narrow down your interests, chatrooms let you easily connect with those who have similar proclivities. Most rooms are highly populated, so there are numerous break-off chat rooms dedicated to specific interests, such as:

  • Cuckold
  • Hotwifing
  • Bi-Male/Female
  • Taboo
  • Nudist
  • Transgendered
  • Threesomes
  • Hard/Soft Swapping

You can even start your own topic chat on many sites as well as plan meetings, events, vacations or book hotels for playtime with your new friends.

Moving off the main board and into a private chatroom lets you maintain a greater level of privacy, and only in these rooms should you even consider sharing nudes or any type of personal information. While there are lots of rooms and options, there are some guidelines for participating in chatrooms.

Quick Tips for Wisely Using Swinger Chats

Not a lot of hard-set rules exist, but courtesy and common sense should prevail to ensure participants have a good experience as well as lots of fun. Couples should use swinger chatrooms together when possible. It creates sexy time opportunities as you get turned on by someone else, and you can agree as to whether attraction exists on both sides.

Don’t randomly just start sending nudes without being asked. Use tasteful pics in your profile that are sexy but not over-the-top full on body shots. Leave something to the imagination. Always be respectful and never shame other’s fantasies or their bodies. Most importantly, keep in mind that everyone in the forum is looking for a good time, so play nice now and save some naughty for later.

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Finding swinger couples is not an easy task. As such, most couples make their connections online. Before couples decide to make their relationship physical, they go out on a first date, also called a meet and greet with the other couple or single, to ensure that there is chemistry. If you are new to the swingers … Continue reading Swinger Couples Meet & Greet – First Dates

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Considering Hotwifing? Here’s How to Screen Potential Playmates

In the swingers lifestyle, it’s fairly common for wives to fantasize about being with another partner while their spouse is present—or not. This agreement is known as a hotwife relationship, with both partners and participants fully consenting. These arrangements can be loads of fun, but finding the right man or men to play with takes careful consideration.

Here are some screening tips for potential hotwifing partners.

Pre-Screening Partners

Many might call these men ‘bulls,’ and the most common place to find these party boys is online. While there’s no shortage of swinger and lifestyle sites to browse what’s out there, finding a service that requires some form of pre-screening for members is very wise.

Many sites allow reviews to be left by previous playmates, and they can be a good indicator of who’s worthy of your time. It’s also nice to look at photos and get a feel for them before considering any type of communication or meet-ups.

Measure the Chemistry Level

If you’re not into their photos or find their bio appealing, it’s not likely that there will be much chemistry in person. However, this can perhaps be best measured with some small talk or basic video communication before tossing their profile aside.

It’s important for both swingers in the relationship to have some chemistry with someone that they plan to take to the bedroom. Sometimes, men are better judges of character, because who understands men better than men?

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Don’t Feel the Need to Rush Into a Hotwife Relationship

Considering that your new bull is likely a complete stranger, take time to meet up for a casual date if you’ve gotten past the screening and are attracted to them. Public places for a few drinks or a casual meal is great starting point. Bring along the spouse or at least a girlfriend or two for added security and as a possible way out should the meeting not go as well as planned.

Have a few code words or secret signals to use if things get uncomfortable. Either way, take time to get a feel for the bull before hopping into the sack or bringing them to your home.

Be Spontaneous, But Do So Safely

Those in the swingers lifestyle have an obligation to themselves and their partners to play it safe. This means having appropriate protection, such as condoms ready to go in case the action gets hot unexpectedly.

It’s also a smart call to make sure that you don’t go out to clubs or bars in search of bulls without your partner or friends. After all, these meetings can be risky and that fantasy sex can end up being a very bad and dangerous situation.

Use Your Intuition

Those gut instincts are essential in hotwifing, so anyone you meet online can either give you a good or bad vibe. Trust your intuition, and be sure to take the reviews of other swingers into consideration. There are quite a few wolves in the regular dating world, so prepare to cross a few bad apples in your search for the perfect bull to bring into your life.

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Tips On Over-cumming’ Performance Anxiety in the Lifestyle

It’s not unnatural for people to have anxiety about certain aspects of sex, their own body or even their partner from time to time. However, in the swingers lifestyle, feeling a bit nervous about initial encounters can be prevalent.

Performance anxiety can prevent our bodies from responding in the way we hope when it comes down to  playtime sessions and staying aroused—or getting there—may become challenging.

Singles and couples should consider the following to fully overcome lifestylw insecurities and boost confidence at lifestyle parties or with new partners in private settings.

Bypass Sexual Insecurities

One or two not so great experiences may be signs of sexual fears and barriers that impede having the best time possible. However, these methods and practices can boost esteem and make you a standout at lifestyle clubs and other personal interactions when swinging.

Do a Little Research

Are you dry, suffering from erectile dysfunction or having trouble peaking in bed? A little online research can help you dive into the causes of these issues, as can consulting with a medical provider who can help discover if there’s a physical source of the problem.

Build Confidence

Grow self-esteem through self talk and don’t hesitate to reach out to your primary partner about these concerns. Their understanding can be very reassuring. Consider including more physical exercise in daily activities which can boost libido, body confidence and increase longevity.

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Try Soft Swapping During Swingers Playtime

Sometimes the pressure of feeling the need for a full swap can result in anxiety, especially for newer exchanges. Sometimes, easing into the scene with a soft swap with one new partner at a time can be comforting, as these don’t necessarily require an erection or a performance. It can involve touching, kissing, caressing and massaging rather than full on sex.

Employ a Few Toys

Toys are commonplace at many lifestyle parties, as they can help everyone get into the mood. Why not bring them into your everyday life or swinging partnerships for a bit of a morale booster? Should you not be in the mood, a good selection of toys can save the experience, ensuring a good time is had by all.

Take Care of Yourself First

If getting going is a struggle, you can head to the bathroom to get a rev in your step so to speak with a bit of masturbation, deep breathing or visual work. Some enjoy masturbating in front of partners, but others might find privacy more reassuring. If staying hard longer is a concern, get yourself off first to increase stamina for the real deal.

Divide and Conquer

If performance anxiety is associated with performing in front of a current partner or strangers in lifestyle clubs, head to a separate room with swingers playmates. This means you aren’t being analyzed, nor is your lovemaking style, so dividing it up can be beneficial in certain situations.

Remember, our bodies are often unpredictable and may not always do what we want when we want. Try these helpful tips for easing sexual performance anxiety and find more pleasure ultimately in the swingers lifestyle and in your everyday relationship.

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How the Swingers Lifestyle Enhances Intimate Relationships

Many vanilla and traditionally monogamous individuals without a sense of sexual adventure have a tendency to proclaim that the swingers lifestyle is a surefire way to a breakup or a divorce.

However, many couples involved in swinging will disagree along with several polls and studies that support the notion that swingers can—and do—have rather healthy intimate relationships.

Here’s how giving an intimate relationship a new twist with swinging can promote a more solid commitment and boost sex appeal.

Jealously is Surpassed in Swinging

There is absolutely no room for jealous inclinations in the realm of healthy intimate relationships, but this can present a bit of new challenge for swinging couples just delving into the lifestyle. Jealousy can kill the good vibes and dampen the trust and love in any relationship, swinging or monogamous.

The willingness to share a partner without letting the green-eyed monster rear its ugly head indicates a solid connection with a primary partner. According to many mental health counselors, swinging couples in an intimate relationship tend to be both more satisfied and committed to their partnership than their vanilla peers.

Swinging Can Boost Confidence

Healthy intimate relationships are had between individuals who each have their own strong sense of confidence. Not to be egotistical, but it sure can make one feel pretty good about themselves to know that they are desired by others outside of their relationship.

Having the ability to act upon those desires with the consent of a partner can provide a pick-me-up that restores sexual prowess back at home. Scratching those itches and letting someone outside the confines of the committed partnership with a one-time fling or amid the swingers lifestyle just might help a strong relationship gain even greater traction.

Curb Cheating In An Intimate Relationship

When the rules are abided by, the swingers lifestyle is kind of like a hall pass with consent, no jealously, and there is no need to cheat. Boredom or being involved in a lackluster or sexless relationship can easily lead to cheating. Regardless of WHY one or both partners seek to fulfill sexual needs outside of the primary bonds, discussing an alternative lifestyle can prevent cheating and actually establish a closer connection between couples.

Excitement Strengthens Relationship Bonds

The monotony of monogamy can be a primary reason for the ending of a union. According to scientific studies, only nine percent of the mammals in the world practice monogamy, which leads us to wonder how we should expect the human species to have only one mate? Likely the rise of religions calling for monogamy has pushed our species into this non-natural existence.

However, shouldn’t we all be allowed to live in ways that make us happy, soothe our bodies and satisfy our physical and emotional desires without judgement? Swinging with the consent and within guidelines established let’s couples open up and enjoy a greater sense of satisfaction with their partners without fear of repercussions.

Stay together longer. Have a healthier intimate relationship. Go outside of the norm if you and your partner are comfortable doing so and give the swingers lifestyle a try.

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Swingers Definitions That Every Newbie Needs to Know

In the realm of swinging there are many covert terms that the average person might not fully be aware of. So, those starting out or who are planning to dabble in this alternative lifestyle will want to become privy to a few key swinger definitions to get more familiar with the scene.

Swingers: People who take pleasure in swapping or sharing their intimate partner with one or more individuals outside the primary relationship. Swingers set their own limitations and boundaries.

The Swingers Lifestyle: The term swingers lifestyle refers to the alternative lifestyle known as swinging. However, it can describe sex-positive persons of an open mind to partner sharing or swapping.

Vanilla: Swingers use the term vanilla to describe individuals who are traditionally monogamous and that have sext that doesn’t involve acts that deviate from the norm such as BDSM, orgies, etc.

Unicorn: Considered unusual and often rare, unicorns are single women open to swinging. Many couples seek out these ladies when first dabbling while others prefer unicorns due to their openness and lack of desire for full-time relationships. Bulls are single male swingers.

Playmates: Playmates is a term used to describe swingers that you engage with in ‘playtime’ which involves whatever sexual activities the partners choose.

Voyeurism: Those who enjoy watching others have sex with the consent of the participants are engaging in what is called voyeurism.

Soft Swap: Soft swapping swingers don’t engage in full-blown intercourse but rather limit activities with others to heavy petting, oral sex and kissing.

Full Swap: A full swap is when penetrative sex occurs with swinger playmates.

Closed Door Swinging: Closed door swinging describes couples who swap partners in separate rooms for sexual activities.

Same Room Swinging: This is when those in the alternative lifestyle share a room or space for their soft or full swap playtime.

Polyamory: Individuals who say they are in an open relationship might be into polyamory, which is when a couple doesn’t expect monogamy from their partner. However, rather than simple casual flings, polyamorous groups are more often long-term relationships with mutual love and respect. It’s not the same as swinging, and poly couples often live together as ‘families’ with a third person or other committed couple.

Hotwife: A hotwife is a married or committed woman who has the permission of her partner to have sex with other men. Typically, the ‘hubby’ enjoys watching and in some cases may join in. There are also hot-husbands, as well filling the reverse role.

Cuckold: When a man ‘complies’ with his partner’s sexual engagements with other men while watching and getting pleasure from it, he is called a cuckold. This can also be used to describe men who love to be dominated by their woman. Females in this situation are called cuckqueens.

MMF vs MFM: In the realm of threesomes an MMF is a male-male-female grouping in which the two men will have sex. MFM is a male-female-male threesome positions the woman in the middle because the men will only have sex with the woman.

FMF/FFM: Threesomes in which a female-male-female (FMF) occurs with no female interaction. FFM implies bisexual action between females.

The swingers lifestyle is a fun way to mix up the sex life of open-minded couples, so these are only the beginning basics of swinger definitions that you’ll learn as you gain experience in the lifestyle.

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The Love Languages Applied To A Swingers Relationship

Love languages can be defined as words or actions that convey very specific meanings to each of us, and lifestyle couples definitely rely on strong verbal and physical connections to stay close. Languages in relationships vary, and couples in the lifestyle are no different from the average ‘vanilla’ couple in that aspect.

There are purportedly key ways to express these languages in relationships according to the 1992 best selling book, ‘The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate’ by Gary Chapman.

Let’s explore these aspects and how lifestyle couples can use them daily to express their love and affection for their partner.

Invest In Quality Time

Couples in a relationship want to feel like they are number one in their partner’s life at all times. It is important for each person in the relationship to feel valued. Lifestyle couples tend to craft out time for themselves to connect on a more intimate level.  That means televisions, cell  phones and other distractions are put at bay for a bit every day so couples can spend some quality time together. Let this time be moments to focus only on your chosen mate at the moment. This confirms your dedication and let’s them know you are there for them.

Get On Board With Physical Touch

Hugging, kissing and a mere touch of the hand means the world to a partner in need of touch. Just sitting closely, a nudge or a wave can quantify as physical touch, so there’s no sense in denying the one you care for of these small gestures that don’t cost a cent!

Giving Gifts

Hey, your gift doesn’t have to cost a million dollars to make a big impression on your partner. Love notes, a mix of songs or just making some toast in the morning along with a flower from the lawn means volumes. It’s all about the thought behind the actions that mean the most. This language expresses you ‘know’ your partner and care.

Acts of Service

Driving, cooking and cleaning show care and compassion no matter who you do it for. The act of ‘action’ is one of the best ways to be of service to another and affirm their love is appreciated. Don’t wait until they ask—volunteer! And be there when you are most needed physically, financially, and emotionally.

Words of Affirmation

No one loves pretty words more than you partner and they want to hear them coming from you! Giving verbal affirmation with ‘I love you, and you’re a God/Goddess” just cannot be topped! Compliments and words of love go far in any relationship, and again—they are free!

These love languages are practiced regularly by couples of the lifestyle who shares a deeper connection. Swinger couples are highly committed to ensuring that their bonds continue to grow stronger as they explore their sexual adventures together. Couples don’t come to the lifestyle to save their relationship, but come with an already strong bond that helps to amplify their sexual revolution.

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Porn Addiction Pandemic? – Tips to Avoid This ‘Novel’ Virus

They say this pandemic has resulted in ‘unprecedented times,’ and many swingers are finding themselves stuck at home or unable to connect with their play partners and friends. Surely, the days can get boring and the nights may feel lonely and cold so some fill their time with a little adult entertainment.

It appears that leading porn sites are seeing a massive surge in streaming subscription services and visitor views, so people are likely finding relief and entertainment in front of the screen. This seems to be leading to more concern that individuals are increasingly falling victim to porn effects such as addiction.

Is Porn Addiction Real?

According to the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM) porn addiction isn’t officially recognized as a mental health disorder. Rather, most psychological professionals view porn addiction as a behavioral issue that shares similar mechanisms with those suffering from substance addiction.

However, some researchers are suggesting that porn addiction can be chalked up to compulsion as opposed to addiction. While the line is thin between the two, compulsions are things someone does over and over again without any rational motivation other than satisfaction or alleviating anxieties. Addictions, on the other hand, are things one cannot stop doing, but both terms involve a severe lack of control.

What are the Signs of Porn Addiction?

Occasional viewing doesn’t indicate an addiction, but those who feel a complete lack of control over their compulsion could very well be addicted to this visual stimulation. Signs of a potential problem include:

  • Time spent watching keeps increasing and impedes on daily responsibilities or time spent with others in your life
  • Feelings of guilt develop after viewing porn
  • You find yourself needing a ‘fix’ of porn to get ‘high’
  • Sex doesn’t seem pleasurable without watching pornography
  • You start pressuring your sexual partner to perform acts you see in porn that they are uncomfortable with

Preventing Pandemic Pornography Addiction

It’s natural to crave relief during this crisis and porn can be a great release and assist with masturbation. However, you should know when enough is enough and when you might have a real problem that could negatively impact you or someone you care about. Here are some prevention tips.

  • If you find yourself routinely viewing it, you can set up restrictions or time constraints for yourself.
  • Check out the advice from the World Health Organization and the Centers for Disease Control that recommend increasing outdoor activities that conform to social distancing regulations to reduce anxiety and screen time.
  • Stay off the Internet when you are feeling like looking at a naughty site. Pick up a book or magazine, play a game, take on a home project or discover a new hobby to kill some time productively without focusing on sex.

If you suspect that porn effects are becoming a problem, don’t hesitate to reach out to a mental health professional for sex addiction counseling and get further advice.

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Best Adult Books for Swingers Couples During Quarantine

Being in quarantine is a reality check for many people around the world, leaving millions of us bored at home including swingers. Television and Internet perusing gets old after a while, so we want to suggest some great adult books with sex stories that revolve heavily around swinging.

Whether you’re just interested, are polyamorous, married, bi, gay, straight or a swinging single, there are many great reads to occupy your time and get your mind in a sexy place, too.

Top 5 Adult Books For Erotic Stories

1. Swingers’ Lifestyle: The Questions You are Afraid to Ask by Jackie Melfi

This gem is an exceptional and honest Q & A session with Jackie Melfi answering some tough questions about the swinging lifestyle based on her experiences and observations. The Swingers’ Lifestyle is great for beginners, those who have trouble asking hard questions and is even insightful for non-swingers.

Questions come directly from her fans and readers, and is not filled with sex stories but is filled with valuable insights and information.

2. More About A Life Less Monogamous by Cooper S. Beckett

If you’ve ever wondered “Is this all there is to life?” Then More About A Less Life will be a satisfying read. It’s about the meeting of two couples that are asking themselves these very same questions and are looking to spice up their relationships. While Bruce and Paige are not quite outed as swingers, they will have a chance encounter with Jennifer and Ryan that helps them all come to a greater understanding of sexuality unfolding with unbridled passion. This is a good one to initiate playtime with partners you’re quarantining with, as it’s filled with sizzling sex stories.

3. The Ethical Slut : A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships, and Other Freedoms in Sex and Love by Janet W. Hardy

This is a definitive guide to being an ‘ethical slut’ and contains a good bit of information that offers reflections on the attitude of partner swapping and sharing in the mainstream media and typical US family. However, this Janet W. Hardy book discusses jealousy, communication, integrity and tips for asking for (and getting) what you truly want from your open relationship or swinging adventures.

4. The Ground Rules by Roya Carmen

All the main character has to do is follow five ground rules to live out the fantasy of her dreams. While happily married with children, an encounter with a mysterious couple promises to open the doors to unexplored desires. In this tale of a ‘nice girl’ stepping beyond her comfort zone with her hubby in tow, will they be able to follow the rules? You’ll have to read The Ground Rules to find out!

5. The Lifestyle: A Look at the Erotic Rites of Swingers by Terry Gould

Believe it or not the author of this book was once avidly anti swinging. However, after a bit of research in scientific articles and discussions with ‘normal’ members of the lifestyle he had a change of heart. Delve into his discovery of the misunderstandings and prejudices that swinger couples faced throughout history and in many aspects still today. This is a friendly read that offers solid arguments that positively represent swingers and their life choices.

Pick up any of these amazing reads for swingers at local erotic stores or visit our Free Erotic Stories on SLS and enjoy our wide selection of topics written and submitted by their members.

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Does Swinging Curb Cheating in Lifestyle Relationships?

In the realm of the swingers lifestyle, there can be several concepts of ‘cheating’ and many swinger couples don’t consider playtime as such. The lifestyle is very different for every couple, but for the sake of this post we’ll define cheating and establish whether or not swinging is a potential curb check for such behavior. Swinger couples don’t necessarily have it ‘made in the shade’ all the time, so it’s essential to consider this concept from all sides.

How is Cheating Defined in the Swingers Lifestyle?

Every couple is different. Some are amazingly happy in polyamorous relationships and others are fine with hotwifing and other forms of swinging. There is no definitive answer about what ‘cheating’ encompasses amid swinger couples, as they ultimately have rules set for their relationship boundaries concerning outside playtime. Some may consider emotional attachments cheating while others consider sex or sexual relations beyond their agreement to be cheating, so it’s vital to clarify this conceptual meaning with your partners before straying. That being said, if you’re hiding anything like texts, videos, chat sites and phone calls…you likely know you’re cheating in the eyes of your partner.

Swinging’s Stronghold Over Cheating

It’s been shown time and time again that those who actively engage in the swingers lifestyle tend to be happier than peers with singular partners. According to a Psychology Today study, those who swing have far less fear about the status of their primary partner relationships which ultimately leads to less need to cheat. There’s a lot to be said about being able to openly sleep with another person or connect with them on a sexual level.

However, not everyone is open to full-time swinging, so couples can discuss options such as periodic visits to a local swinger club to find a unicorn or suitable ‘temporary’ partner to curb those urges. It’s important that each person communicate their sexual needs and try to find a middle ground to avert cheating disasters.

Situations Where Swinging Absolutely Won’t Prevent or Stop Cheating

There are certain conditions in which swinging is not a good idea, but it can also be a risky one. These include:

Dealing with Liars—Liars will lie and cheaters will cheat. Getting involved in the lifestyle with a straight up liar only gives them a candy store to grab what they want and then lie about it. Trust is pivotal when partner sharing and swapping, and there’s no room for dishonest persons that cannot be trusted. Consider therapy before looking outside the current relationship.

Bad Sex in Current Relations—Again, this should be explored partner-to-partner or guided under a professional therapist. Intimacy at home that is lacking satisfaction falls upon both parties and will not be resolved with swingers relations.

Sexual Addiction—Cheating partners might have a sex addiction issue that will only likely grow worse when encountering swingers style relationships.

Ultimately, there’s no answer here folks. If the red flags mentioned (or others you suspect) aren’t presented, it may be worth a discussion to consider engaging in the swinging lifestyle through soft swaps or just friendly encounters with couples ‘in the know.’ While not all efforts will succeed in saving a relationship, it’s not harmful to explore all opportunities.

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The Role Sexual Desire Plays in Boosting your Libido

Our sexuality isn’t necessarily defined by gender or their perceived ‘role’, expectations and norms amid society. A woman’s  sexual desires can be just as powerful as that of a man, its just that some women aren’t really sure what their desires are and how to explore them.

Those craving a healthy and long-lasting sexual relationship, have good reason of better understanding the role desire plays in boosting your libido. There are some surprising results stemming from research looking into the complex world of the importance of sexual fantasies and desires and how it enhances bedroom action.

We have share a few of those findings below:

Research Supporting the Connection Between Libido and Sexual Desires

Besides what our bodies ‘tell us’ turns us on, there are studies that shows the positive aspects of fantasies and desires on the sex drive and how many view sexuality as a whole. A key study published in Psychological Reports from the University of Grenada reveals a strong correlation in men sexual desires and erotophilia— an unusual interest in sex. Essentially, males are more accepting and respond more positively towards sexual thoughts and desires versus women—but not by much according to the studies findings.

Types of Fantasies and Emotional Stressors Can Inhibit Libido

All the benefits aside—and there are quite a few—libido and sex drive can be hindered for some individuals who feel like they have unhealthy fantasies (and some folks do). However, the most typical negative response that men have is when they crave sadistic sex or fancy domination. According to the aforementioned studies, some men feel so ashamed by such thoughts that it lowered their libido measurably.

Interestingly, many women fantasize about being controlled and even dominated –See popularity of the Fifty Shades Of Grey Trilogy.  Yet, they too seem to be hesitant to share these desires with their own partners, even though they are highly turned on when imagining it. Shame and guilt tend to diminish the libido as a side effect of anxiety and fear of what partners might think. Which brings about the question of “How do YOU feel about YOURSELF’ because of these natural fantasies?”

Avoid Letting Desires Get in the Way of Sexual Success

Some individuals use fantasies, masturbation and pornography as a method of avoiding close intimacy with their partners. When a relationship gets stressed, turning more into their comfort zone can actually create a greater divide between couples and negatively impact libido. Stressful relationships can cause people’s emotional desires and sexuality perceptions to change quickly along with their sex drive.

If you find yourself having fantasies or sexual desires, we suggest you explore them safely by yourself or with your partner. Openly communicate with your partner your desires and discuss a way of exploring them together. Many join the swingers lifestyle to explore their  fantasies and sexual desires and a majority have found a way to explore those fantasies safely in the swingers community.

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POSITIVE BENEFITS AND HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP ASPECTS OF HOTWIFING

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