In the realm of the swingers lifestyle, there can be several concepts of ‘cheating’ and many swinger couples don’t consider playtime as such. The lifestyle is very different for every couple, but for the sake of this post we’ll define cheating and establish whether or not swinging is a potential curb check for such behavior. Swinger couples don’t necessarily have it ‘made in the shade’ all the time, so it’s essential to consider this concept from all sides.
How is Cheating Defined in the Swingers Lifestyle?
Every couple is different. Some are amazingly happy in polyamorous relationships and others are fine with hotwifing and other forms of swinging. There is no definitive answer about what ‘cheating’ encompasses amid swinger couples, as they ultimately have rules set for their relationship boundaries concerning outside playtime. Some may consider emotional attachments cheating while others consider sex or sexual relations beyond their agreement to be cheating, so it’s vital to clarify this conceptual meaning with your partners before straying. That being said, if you’re hiding anything like texts, videos, chat sites and phone calls…you likely know you’re cheating in the eyes of your partner.
Swinging’s Stronghold Over Cheating
It’s been shown time and time again that those who actively engage in the swingers lifestyle tend to be happier than peers with singular partners. According to a Psychology Today study, those who swing have far less fear about the status of their primary partner relationships which ultimately leads to less need to cheat. There’s a lot to be said about being able to openly sleep with another person or connect with them on a sexual level.
However, not everyone is open to full-time swinging, so couples can discuss options such as periodic visits to a local swinger club to find a unicorn or suitable ‘temporary’ partner to curb those urges. It’s important that each person communicate their sexual needs and try to find a middle ground to avert cheating disasters.
Situations Where Swinging Absolutely Won’t Prevent or Stop Cheating
There are certain conditions in which swinging is not a good idea, but it can also be a risky one. These include:
Dealing with Liars—Liars will lie and cheaters will cheat. Getting involved in the lifestyle with a straight up liar only gives them a candy store to grab what they want and then lie about it. Trust is pivotal when partner sharing and swapping, and there’s no room for dishonest persons that cannot be trusted. Consider therapy before looking outside the current relationship.
Bad Sex in Current Relations—Again, this should be explored partner-to-partner or guided under a professional therapist. Intimacy at home that is lacking satisfaction falls upon both parties and will not be resolved with swingers relations.
Sexual Addiction—Cheating partners might have a sex addiction issue that will only likely grow worse when encountering swingers style relationships.
Ultimately, there’s no answer here folks. If the red flags mentioned (or others you suspect) aren’t presented, it may be worth a discussion to consider engaging in the swinging lifestyle through soft swaps or just friendly encounters with couples ‘in the know.’ While not all efforts will succeed in saving a relationship, it’s not harmful to explore all opportunities.
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