Finding swinger couples is not an easy task. As such, most couples make their connections online. Before couples decide to make their relationship physical, they go out on a first date, also called a meet and greet with the other couple or single, to ensure that there is chemistry. If you are new to the swingers lifestyle, you may be wondering where do couples go to meet other couples for a first date Meet & Greet.
Here are three popular choices. These first dates or meet and greets can take place in places like bars, coffee shops or even your local swing clubs.
When you are looking to meet up with a swinging couple for the first time, a bar is always a great choice. Some swinger group will host a monthly Meet & Greet at a local bar. There everyone can easily grab a drink or fast bar food while getting to know one another. Unlike a restaurant, you aren’t committed to sitting down and enjoying a long meal, which is perfect in case there is no chemistry.
Another place you can set a meet and greet with other lifestyle couples for the first time is at your local coffee shop. Coffee shops are easily accessible and tend to have long hours, making it a convenient choice for most people if you want to keep it super casual. Coffee shops also tend to be quieter than bars, allowing you to hear the other couple speak easier.
Local Swing Clubs
The last common place you can meet with other couples for the first time is at local swing clubs. Most swing clubs have sitting areas where individuals or couples can sit and chat before engaging in any sexual contact. This is a great place to meet up if you are ready to get down to business immediately after meeting, should there be a connection.
If you are turning to the Internet to find other lifestyle couples, you need to be safe. Meeting up with the other couple in a public place before meeting them in a private setting helps to ensure everyone is comfortable, gets along and that the other couple is who they say they are.
Whether you are a swinger, nudists, voyeur or an exhibitionists, you know that there’s a need to meet other like minded people involved in the lifestyle. So, the question on everyone’s mind is: Do you go to a hot swingers…
At some point in a relationship, the feeling of intimacy is questioned. The question that tends to be on one’s mind “Is he/she satisfying me sexually?” When couples don’t communicate about these issues, it tends to cause a problem in the relationship. For some couples sexual intimacy is important in maintaining a healthy relationship, while others tend to get intimately irritated with it. The swinging lifestyle is a type of secret society where one can explore their exotic sexual fantasies. Couples are able then able to explore and live out these fantasies together.
My partner Tom and I are having trouble in our relationship. We both had been unfaithful and have ventured out of the relationship to find excitement. I began doing some research online to see if there was anyway we could fix things before they got any worse. I was scrolling through a couples articles and came across a forum that spoke about swingers and their experiences. I became quite interested and came upon a local swingers club’s website. The website highlighted their events, rules, membership and contact information, so I decided to reach out. I wasn’t sure what I was looking for or even thinking at the time, but all the same I decided to give it a shot. I knew that I was looking for something new, an adventure, something my honey and I could experience together. I was in love with him and wanted to make things better, but we were both missing something in this relationship so I decided to investigate the lifestyle.
I made a phone call and was greeted warmly by the manager that went by the name of Sam. I introduced myself and explained to him that I was interested in exploring the swinging lifestyle and wondered if he had some time to talk. After a brief conversation, he told me to stop by the club so we could chat some more and he would show me around and answer any questions I had. I set up a date to visit him at the club.
I nervously approached the building that looked like a regular night club from outside. When I entered, I was greeted by the warm voice that answered the phone. “Hi, I’m Sam, welcome.” He said and shook my hand. “Nice to meet you Sam, I’m Julie,” O replied with a slight grin on my face. He invited me to have a seat with him so we could discuss what I wanted to know about the lifestyle. My mind was racing and my eyes were looking all around. I was still unsure if I had just stepped foot into some type of cult-like experience that I couldn’t walk away from. We spoke about my desires and the issues my partner and I were facing. He went on to tell me how he got into swinging and how he started the swingers club. The idea for the club came from nothing more than two friends joking around. He was always a good business man and one night they visited a swingers club. His friend jokingly said you should start your own sex club and that was something that stuck with him. After much though and planning, he opened the doors to the club in 2004 and used the internet to get the word out.
He went on to say that the first party was very successful and more than he had hoped for. He said lots of people tuned up and most of them were out of towners. We were the only swing club in the area and the nearest one was more than 200 miles away. “People were genuinely excited to meet and mingle”, he explains. He also pointed out the fact that not every member is in a relationship. There were many married couples, lesbian couples, single men and women at the club that night.
He began to ask me a series of questions to determine what I was into and the type of Swinger I would be. He told me that the definition of a swinger is a sexually driven individual who enjoys the act of sex more than the idea of it and lives out their fantasies of multiple partners without cheating. He went on to say that there were three types of swingers. There are the hardcore swingers that are open about their involvement in the lifestyle. Then there are the double-life swingers who keep the lifestyle and friends in the lifestyle separate and private. Lastly there were the single swingers. They include single men; women, gay men that participate in erotic play without a spouse, but they are mostly single women. He also shared that hardcore and double-Life swingers are in love with their partners and playing in the lifestyle is just an extension to their thriving sexual relationship. He also added that most of the swingers that attend these parties are parents and professionals within the community.
Before I left, he suggested that I check out a swingers dating website to get a feel for the lifestyle. I went home and created an account for my partner just to see if we could meet up with a compatible couple. After trolling the site and with no improvement to my relationship, I had decided to put the lifestyle on the back burner for a while. To be honest, my relationship was still filled with insecurities and jealousy and swinging from what I was reading would not make it better. While the idea of having an open relationship is appealing, I don’t think my current relationship is ready for the complexities of the Lifestyle.
Young swingers are becoming more and more involved with the swinging lifestyle. According to ABC News couples 20+ years old who are either married or in committed relationship is now opting for an open relationship because they do not believe in monogamy. Times are a changing and with the advancement of the internet and social media, high profile cheating scandals are becoming more main stream. Generation Y swingers are considering a more open relationship that sometimes include partner swapping.
A national survey showed that of the American marriages surveyed, roughly half of them someone had cheated. Other statistics show that cheating among wives in their twenties has increased by about 20% in the last 2 decades and a 45% increase in cheating husbands. Young couples are becoming more and more aware of these stats and are choosing to engage in an alternative lifestyle. Younger couples are also marrying at a later age bringing with them some experiences in their new relationship.
The swinging population has pretty much doubled over the years with women being a driving force behind the lifestyle. They are the ones engaging other couples on the swingers dating websites and setting up meet and greets for themselves and their partner. At a private upscale swinger’s party, Behind Closed Doors, which is an ultra-exclusive club catering to young people and by invitation only. Young couples engage in full swap, some soft swap and others fantasies. Some have their own restrictions like no kissing, while others are just there for the experience. The young people’s view on the lifestyle is that sharing is caring and some get turned on by seeing their partner with someone else. Most swingers’ party, as with Behind Closed Doors, couples and single ladies are always welcome, but no single men allowed. Couples say that swinging, not cheating has made them more secure in their relationships.
Swingers have been around for so long that the term “swingers” or “swinging” did not mean to swap sexual partners. The term “swing” or “swinger” had a different meaning in the 20’s, 30’s and 40’s, so much so, that it was taboo for a woman to be called a swinger. The term took on a very different meaning in the 60’s and you can read more about that in the online swinger’s magazine. Mainstream has not accepted the swinging lifestyle, so most people don’t broadcast that they are swingers out of fear of being ostracized by their family and peers. But, every now and again you hear about a famous person who was a swinger or celebrity couples that embrace the lifestyle.
The most famous swinging couple known to mainstream is Will and Jada Smith. They have been hounded by the media for years because they are known as active swingers. There was even a rumor that Will Smith was dating Gabrielle Union while filming Bad Boys II, and Jada didn’t mind. Shirley MacLaine, a well-known actress, singer, author and activist, opened up to Oprah about her 30 year open marriage that she shared with husband Steve Parker. Buck Henry, the actor, writer and movie director, was a member of Plato’s Retreat in New York. We all heard the news about Stephen Hawking, a famous physicist, cosmologist and author, who visited the California swingers club Freedom Acres where he pleasured himself with young naked dancers who performed privately for him. Then there is the realty star Donn Gunvalson from the Real Housewives of O.C, he and his wife are going through a divorce and we are now learning that he is actually a regular at the same swingers club Stephen Hawkins visited, Freedom Acres in Devore, California.
Robert Heinlein, the science fiction writer who died in 1988 was also a swinger. I have even read somewhere that Ben Franklin was a swinger and who can forget Hugh Hefner. Hugh has always had at least 3 girlfriends at a time and has thrown wild, crazy parties and orgies at the playboy mansion. Do you know of any celebrity couples or famous people then and now who are swingers? We would love to hear from you.