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The Role of Fantasy in the Swingers Lifestyle

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There are many in the swingers lifestyle are already living out one or most of their sexual fantasies. Trying new scenarios like BDSM, cuckolding, hotwifing and group sex at playtime can fulfill certain unrealized swinger fantasies. When partners open up about their deepest fantasies, they can discuss exploring these thrilling experiences and interactions. Once you have a discussion about the possibilities and come to an agreement about engaging in your sexual fantasies, it’s just time to make those dreams come true.

Common Swinger Lifestyle Fantasies

For those who are into swinging, common fantasies vary depending on their desires and the scenarios they want to explore. One of the most commonly fulfilled swinger lifestyle fantasies involves partner swapping or having multiple groupings.

Bondage, discipline, and sadomasochism (BDSM) are lifestyle fantasies many swinger couples tend to explore. BDSM has a wide range of acts, which adds to its allure. Many like the idea of being submissive and restrained and/or spanked while some prefer the dominant role where they take charge of disciplining their lovers. This is appealing to those who desire a combination of power dynamics, control and consensual pain during sexual experiences.

Adventures involving sexual novelty practices might appeal to beginning swingers and more experienced couples would venture into more taboo areas such as anal play, outdoor sex or exhibitionism. Everyone has their starting point for expanding their sex life and losing their inhibitions through making fantasies a reality.

Reality vs. Fantasy When Swinging

While many people get excited by the allure and enjoyment that’s possible in swinger fantasies, the transition from reality to fantasy and vice versa is a complex, fine distinction. Just taking fantasies about swinging into real life can be challenging, and mandates solid communication and honest dialogue. This is the key to discussing expectations and boundaries.

The Psychological Role of Living Out Fantasies

In the realm of sexual gratification and personal fulfillment, fantasies play a key role, especially in the swinging community. Using your imagination when considering fantasy scenarios ensures that you have a better chance of heightened sexual pleasure.

Looking at exploring fantasies from a psychological viewpoint indicates that fulfilling them has several benefits. One of those perks is that partners tend to have greater intimacy and a stronger emotional bond between them as they delve into fantasies and share them with each other.

Swinger Fantasies Are Therapeutic

It may sound surprising, but acting on sexual fantasies can be a form of therapy that alleviates stress and other psychological blockages. For example, BDSM fantasies can indicate a need for control or to submit to another, yet it can be a sign of the need to feel desired and gain approval. Group sexual fantasies may reflect the desire to feel irresistible and a better than competent lover.

Turn Fantasies Into an Active Part of Your Sex Life

Because swingers engage with other partners outside their primary relationship, they have more opportunities to live out fantasies compared to vanilla couples. Step beyond societal norms to enjoy your unique desires for a satisfying sexual journey that increases intimacy and lets you and your partner better understand yourselves and each other.

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Wife Swapping – An Overview of the Swingers Lifestyle

Amid the swingers lifestyle, the concept of wife sharing (aka wife swapping) is not a new idea, but rather an accepted one. This involves a couple participating in sexual activities …

Womens Top 10 Sex Fantasies

Several of my faithful blog followers have written in and asked what are the common sex fantasies that women think about. I conducted a few surveys and did some investigations on the subject and I was a little surprised by what I found out. Below are the top ten sex fantasies for women. No.10 Domination (her dominating you) Women may love a big strong man that can sweep em off their feet, but there are several women that want to dominate and be in control. Why? the control factor, she…  Read More

5 Swingers Lifestyle Fantasies To Explore

Swinging is a fantasy in and of itself to many people. More frisky individuals than you know are highly turned on to the concept of getting freaky with multiple partners—even if they won’t admit it! Let’s get down and dirty…

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Common Sexual Fantasies for Lifestyle Couples

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Sexual fantasies are only a dream for many, but one of the perks of being a swinger couple is the ability to fulfill sexual fantasies. While it might seem a bit intimidating at first to make those fantasies reality, there are many ways to share intimacy that don’t necessarily include intercourse (but the best do!)

From sensual massages and group sex situations, to dom/sub play and even heading outdoors for some sexy playtime fun. Let’s explore some of the most common visions that many crave in their sex lives.

Domination and Submission Fantasies

If you’re considering taking your intimate experience to a higher level with a bit of dom/sub play, you will first need to do some homework. Dom/sub play is something you have to discuss beforehand with your play partner. It’s not just something to dive into without having open and honest conversation about your sexual needs, deviant play sessions and safe words.  It’s a great way to explore the dynamics of power and control of the relationship and can involve gentle spankings or more intense play.

While there’s often a more dominant partner and an eager sub, many in the swingers lifestyle enjoy sharing the roles and swapping who’s the boss from time to time. Again, safe fantasies involve solid communication and a good deal of trust.

Getting Closer to Nature and Your Lover in the Great Outdoors

Having sexual intercourse is one of the most natural acts in the world but having public sex is generally illegal. However, you can work around that hindrance with a camping trip or a day visit to a remote location. After all, getting a citation or even worse (arrested) is certainly not likely part of the fantasy.

A grassy field, secluded beach or even on your private property like a cabin or water vessel can certainly be a rewarding place to live out a special fantasy. Make it even more remarkable by inviting others in the swingers lifestyle to join you on this sexual adventure!

Have a Sexy Threesome or Host an Orgasmic Orgy

While some don’t admit it, having sex with another person along with their partners is by far one of the most common sexual fantasies lifestyle couples share. Whether you get off to being an observer or a participator, having a new person in the mix can bring some spice back to a relationship or open doors towards progressing to an alternative lifestyle.

However, it should be noted that the motivation behind the fantasy should be to ensure everyone is pleased. Lack of communication can result in feelings of guilt, jealousy and even anger. Be sure to have set boundaries that you discuss with those involved before plunging into the goodies.

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Still On the Fence? There’s No Rush!

Not everyone actually plans and move forward with fulfilling their sexual fantasies —and that’s okay! Sometimes, just having an imagination and swapping those thoughts with a partner can be enough. That may lead later to consider going to a swingers club or taking a lifestyle cruise where you can simply just watch. The world is your oyster, so you can crack open the shell whenever you choose!

HOW TO BECOME A DOMINANT IN THE BDSM LIFESTYLE

“50 Shades of Grey” has made the BDSM lifestyle more mainstream. As such, more people are exploring their sexuality and coming clean about their kinks and fetishes. If you have always wanted to be a dominant in the BDSM lifestyle, you may wonder what steps you need to take to make this happen.
Here are a few of the steps you need to follow to become a dominant in this lifestyle. Determine What Kinks and Fetishes You Want to Explore Before you can become a dominant in the BDSM lifestyle, READ MORE

The Joys of the Swingers Lifestyle Threesomes

A study by the Kinsey Institute reported that having a threesome is the #1 fantasy among Americans. This same study claims that 95% of men and 87% of women aged …

HOW TO PREPARE FOR YOUR FIRST GROUP PLAY

Maybe you have been in the swingers lifestyle for a while and have stuck with inviting a single for a threesome. Maybe you have been dedicated to only couple swapping and are ready to add a few more players to…

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The Role Sexual Desire Plays in Boosting your Libido

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Our sexuality isn’t necessarily defined by gender or their perceived ‘role’, expectations and norms amid society. A woman’s  sexual desires can be just as powerful as that of a man, its just that some women aren’t really sure what their desires are and how to explore them.

Those craving a healthy and long-lasting sexual relationship, have good reason of better understanding the role desire plays in boosting your libido. There are some surprising results stemming from research looking into the complex world of the importance of sexual fantasies and desires and how it enhances bedroom action.

We have share a few of those findings below:

Research Supporting the Connection Between Libido and Sexual Desires

Besides what our bodies ‘tell us’ turns us on, there are studies that shows the positive aspects of fantasies and desires on the sex drive and how many view sexuality as a whole. A key study published in Psychological Reports from the University of Grenada reveals a strong correlation in men sexual desires and erotophilia— an unusual interest in sex. Essentially, males are more accepting and respond more positively towards sexual thoughts and desires versus women—but not by much according to the studies findings.

Types of Fantasies and Emotional Stressors Can Inhibit Libido

All the benefits aside—and there are quite a few—libido and sex drive can be hindered for some individuals who feel like they have unhealthy fantasies (and some folks do). However, the most typical negative response that men have is when they crave sadistic sex or fancy domination. According to the aforementioned studies, some men feel so ashamed by such thoughts that it lowered their libido measurably.

Interestingly, many women fantasize about being controlled and even dominated –See popularity of the Fifty Shades Of Grey Trilogy.  Yet, they too seem to be hesitant to share these desires with their own partners, even though they are highly turned on when imagining it. Shame and guilt tend to diminish the libido as a side effect of anxiety and fear of what partners might think. Which brings about the question of “How do YOU feel about YOURSELF’ because of these natural fantasies?”

Avoid Letting Desires Get in the Way of Sexual Success

Some individuals use fantasies, masturbation and pornography as a method of avoiding close intimacy with their partners. When a relationship gets stressed, turning more into their comfort zone can actually create a greater divide between couples and negatively impact libido. Stressful relationships can cause people’s emotional desires and sexuality perceptions to change quickly along with their sex drive.

If you find yourself having fantasies or sexual desires, we suggest you explore them safely by yourself or with your partner. Openly communicate with your partner your desires and discuss a way of exploring them together. Many join the swingers lifestyle to explore their  fantasies and sexual desires and a majority have found a way to explore those fantasies safely in the swingers community.

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FOURSOMES: 55% OF WOMEN AND 85% OF MEN WANT SEX WITH OTHERS

Learn what you need to know about Foursomes, 55% of Women And 85% Of Men Want Sex With Others. Fantasies are part of every human being and being with more than one sexual partner without cheating your partner is…

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POSITIVE BENEFITS AND HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP ASPECTS OF HOTWIFING

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At first glance, it would seem ‘obvious’ that hotwife where a woman has sex with men other than her husband, but with her husband’s knowledge, consent and often at his urging would be disastrous for any marriage, no matter how strong.The reasons men are so often drawn to encouraging their wives to become hotwives is complex, but it boils down to biology and the way they’re made. In other words, they don’t choose their fantasy: their DNA chooses it for them.And it’s this factor most women miss when their man READ MORE