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Common Sexual Fantasies for Lifestyle Couples

Sexual fantasies are only a dream for many, but one of the perks of being a swinger couple is the ability to fulfill sexual fantasies. While it might seem a bit intimidating at first to make those fantasies reality, there are many ways to share intimacy that don’t necessarily include intercourse (but the best do!)

From sensual massages and group sex situations, to dom/sub play and even heading outdoors for some sexy playtime fun. Let’s explore some of the most common visions that many crave in their sex lives.

Domination and Submission Fantasies

If you’re considering taking your intimate experience to a higher level with a bit of dom/sub play, you will first need to do some homework. Dom/sub play is something you have to discuss beforehand with your play partner. It’s not just something to dive into without having open and honest conversation about your sexual needs, deviant play sessions and safe words.  It’s a great way to explore the dynamics of power and control of the relationship and can involve gentle spankings or more intense play.

While there’s often a more dominant partner and an eager sub, many in the swingers lifestyle enjoy sharing the roles and swapping who’s the boss from time to time. Again, safe fantasies involve solid communication and a good deal of trust.

Getting Closer to Nature and Your Lover in the Great Outdoors

Having sexual intercourse is one of the most natural acts in the world but having public sex is generally illegal. However, you can work around that hindrance with a camping trip or a day visit to a remote location. After all, getting a citation or even worse (arrested) is certainly not likely part of the fantasy.

A grassy field, secluded beach or even on your private property like a cabin or water vessel can certainly be a rewarding place to live out a special fantasy. Make it even more remarkable by inviting others in the swingers lifestyle to join you on this sexual adventure!

Have a Sexy Threesome or Host an Orgasmic Orgy

While some don’t admit it, having sex with another person along with their partners is by far one of the most common sexual fantasies lifestyle couples share. Whether you get off to being an observer or a participator, having a new person in the mix can bring some spice back to a relationship or open doors towards progressing to an alternative lifestyle.

However, it should be noted that the motivation behind the fantasy should be to ensure everyone is pleased. Lack of communication can result in feelings of guilt, jealousy and even anger. Be sure to have set boundaries that you discuss with those involved before plunging into the goodies.

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Still On the Fence? There’s No Rush!

Not everyone actually plans and move forward with fulfilling their sexual fantasies —and that’s okay! Sometimes, just having an imagination and swapping those thoughts with a partner can be enough. That may lead later to consider going to a swingers club or taking a lifestyle cruise where you can simply just watch. The world is your oyster, so you can crack open the shell whenever you choose!

The Joys of the Swingers Lifestyle Threesomes

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The Love Languages Applied To A Swingers Relationship

Love languages can be defined as words or actions that convey very specific meanings to each of us, and lifestyle couples definitely rely on strong verbal and physical connections to stay close. Languages in relationships vary, and couples in the lifestyle are no different from the average ‘vanilla’ couple in that aspect.

There are purportedly key ways to express these languages in relationships according to the 1992 best selling book, ‘The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate’ by Gary Chapman.

Let’s explore these aspects and how lifestyle couples can use them daily to express their love and affection for their partner.

Invest In Quality Time

Couples in a relationship want to feel like they are number one in their partner’s life at all times. It is important for each person in the relationship to feel valued. Lifestyle couples tend to craft out time for themselves to connect on a more intimate level.  That means televisions, cell  phones and other distractions are put at bay for a bit every day so couples can spend some quality time together. Let this time be moments to focus only on your chosen mate at the moment. This confirms your dedication and let’s them know you are there for them.

Get On Board With Physical Touch

Hugging, kissing and a mere touch of the hand means the world to a partner in need of touch. Just sitting closely, a nudge or a wave can quantify as physical touch, so there’s no sense in denying the one you care for of these small gestures that don’t cost a cent!

Giving Gifts

Hey, your gift doesn’t have to cost a million dollars to make a big impression on your partner. Love notes, a mix of songs or just making some toast in the morning along with a flower from the lawn means volumes. It’s all about the thought behind the actions that mean the most. This language expresses you ‘know’ your partner and care.

Acts of Service

Driving, cooking and cleaning show care and compassion no matter who you do it for. The act of ‘action’ is one of the best ways to be of service to another and affirm their love is appreciated. Don’t wait until they ask—volunteer! And be there when you are most needed physically, financially, and emotionally.

Words of Affirmation

No one loves pretty words more than you partner and they want to hear them coming from you! Giving verbal affirmation with ‘I love you, and you’re a God/Goddess” just cannot be topped! Compliments and words of love go far in any relationship, and again—they are free!

These love languages are practiced regularly by couples of the lifestyle who shares a deeper connection. Swinger couples are highly committed to ensuring that their bonds continue to grow stronger as they explore their sexual adventures together. Couples don’t come to the lifestyle to save their relationship, but come with an already strong bond that helps to amplify their sexual revolution.

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How To Get Started As Swinger Couples

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HOW SWINGER COUPLES ARE COPING DURING COVID-19

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WHY SWINGER COUPLES DON’T DIVORCE

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Top 5 States Best For A Swinging Relationship

Top Swingers StatesA lot of states in United States are opting for swinging relationship. According to studies, it has been seen that the people in this relationship are happier and stronger than normal. There is a trust factor which plays a strong role. People are opting for more and more of this lifestyle nowadays to make their relationship and sex life more exciting. If you are also looking for some fun then you have to join certain parties and clubs. Some of the clubs are just meant for the swing couples. Here are the top 5 states and some of the details about them:

1. Texas Swingers:

Not only in weekends, Texas has some great and happening swing parties even in the weekdays. For example there are events happening every Thursday at Temptations at Colette Dallas. You can go and join this and check the details also. There is another party on the same date in Texas named “Bare It or Thong It”.

2. Florida Swingers:

In Florida, these parties are organized every single day. So, if you are in Florida you will have a great time and choose any one of the best events to go over there. These parties are named as Monday Funday, Topless Tuesdays, Working Women Wednesday Party, Jump Your Junk Content etc. One of the best parties that is for free and you can try it out is Players Night on Thursday. It also organized some national swing parties which will be quite exciting and interesting.

3. New York Swingers:

It is one of the famous states with lots of hot and happening parties every day. The swinging parties are also a part of these parties. NY is one of the best places where people come from all over US to celebrate special days. If you want to become a part of this happening swing parties you can join Tuesday Night After-work Play Party, Wednesday Party For Playmates and many more.

4. California Swingers:

California is considered as another happening place with lots of parties. If you are a newbie then this is the best place as the environment is very friendly. The Mixed Monday at Power Exchange, Club Taboo Wed Bi-party, Club Taboo Thursday Night etc are many options available in CA.

5. Arizona Swingers:

This is a place which has lately getting more into these swinging parties. Some of these are Jacuzzi Tuesday, Wild And Wacky Wednesday etc.

So, if you are interested in this type of relationship and lifestyle, then you can surely enroll yourself as a member of one of the best swing clubs. Then you can also enjoy these parties being a member.
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