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Choosing The Right Man For A MFM Threesomes

Having two males in bed together can be exciting for the woman of a swinger couple. A Male Female Male threesome is most commonly referred to as MFM encounters in the lifestyle. This means that the woman is typically ‘the center of attention” and gets to play with both men, but there is no interactions between the two males of the threesome.

Finding the ideal man to add to your triad should involve open and honest communication between couple, so you can find someone where everyone is comfortable. We’re offering a few tips to help you make the best choice.

Determining What You Want in a Second Male Partner

You and your partner will want to jot down what the most important character and traits for their new addition. Discuss any details about what you’re both looking for which includes a number of factors. Experienced swinger couples likely already know what their preferences are so at this point its just a vetting process.

Are Appearances Important to You?

Do you want a hot and sexy man to challenge your senses? Or is a fairly typical man ideal for your MFM threesomes? This is a great starting point for choosing a man to join in your playtime.

Do You Prefer Gentle or Passionate Lovers?

Sometimes, couples are into cuddling and kissing, while others may find it too personal. Some couples may even go as far as having a no kissing rule as that may be a bit too intimate.  However, if you want passion along with pleasure, find a man who has that to offer and discuss the rules beforehand with all parties involved.


Do You Want Some Kinky BDSM Action?

More people are into bondage and other fetishes than you might realize. If you want a like-minded male partner, make sure to clarify that. You don’t want to catch a man off guard with floggers, ropes and other gear that could be triggering for him. Set guidelines and get permission.

Should the Man Be Bisexual or Straight?

With the woman taking the middle position, the two men may prefer not to engage with each other sexually. Yet, if both men are bisexual or even bi-curious, the experience can get even more interesting on a broader scope and definitely bring forth some excitement to Male Female Male threesomes.

Do You Want Someone to Talk & Flirt with You & Your Partner?

Some swingers couples prefer the silent, anonymous type, while others may want someone comfortable enough to have a conversation before or after their encounter. You’ll likely be able to identify the person’s social habits during your first phone or internet conversation.

Additional Planning Concepts

You’ll want to determine a few things before heading for the gusto, including:

  • How soon do you and your partner want to make this meet-up happen?
  • Who will host the festivities, or will you meet at a hotel?
  • Will you consider meeting up with the man again, or is it a one-time affair?

Make the Night One To Remember

Whether it’s your first MFM or not, make things extra special at the designated meet-up point. If it’s your home or a hotel room, set the mood with some candles, massage oil, music etc.  Otherwise, pack a goodie bag with your mood makers and get ready for a ‘sex’sational MFM time.

Different types of threesomes and the benefits

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The Voyeur Fetish in Swinging Explained

Watching others engage in intimacy and sex acts can be a powerful stimulator comparable to direct participation. Hence, the rise in demand for pornographic films and photos. However, voyeurs are common in the swinging lifestyle and can enjoy more variety in their sex life through mere observation.

What Is Voyeurism?

Voyeurism involves receiving sexual gratification by watching others who are undressing, naked, or participating in sexual activity. Those in the swingers lifestyle understand the importance of consent and boundaries before engaging in this fetish. The rewards with an agreeable partner can transform your sex life tremendously.

4 Ways to Practice Voyeurism In the Lifestyle

When a couple or group in the lifestyle agree to consensual voyeurism, it can become a respectful and responsible way to spice things up in bed or at playrooms.

Here are some of the top ways voyeurs indulge themselves.

1. Observe Your Partner Masturbating

If they are comfortable with it, ask your partner to masturbate or put on a show for you. Some like to hide nearby and watch, while others prefer being visible and making special requests to the other person. When observing, pay attention to how their body reacts, and attempt to incorporate some of those special moves into your routine sex life.

2. Watch a Bit of Live Video Porn

There are many websites that specialize in catering to voyeurs of all tastes. Masturbation, soft porn, LGBTQ-friendly and a variety of fetish categories. This is the best way to be a watcher from a distance.

3. Role Playing

Envision a role play scenario where you get to be a voyeur watching your partner or allow them to watch you if they like. Be sure to discuss with your partner to get permission and to see if it’s a turn on for them, too. Sometimes a sexy dance in lingerie or a hot shower scene can drive one over the top and open the doors to other ventures.

4. Watch Your Partner Be Intimate With Someone Else

Swingers and those in open relationships (or are considering it) might consider allowing their partner to have a soft or hard swap with another person. You might want to find another couple to play with, but be sure to have set rules and boundaries defined before making such arrangements.

Places to Indulge in Voyeuristic Fantasies

There are plenty of places to watch and be watched enjoying sexual relations. If you prefer to not be physically present to watch, check out online swingers sites, where many voyeurs can be found.

Swingers clubs often have special rooms with windows where others can watch those inside. Swinger resorts and cruises are often clothing optional, and nudity in and of itself can be a fetish. Should you want to go further, voyeur and swinger parties may take place locally, most of which are by invitation only.

This short guide can get you started in the world of watching and being watched. Remember, set firm guidelines with committed partners before participating in this swingers lifestyle realm.


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Ice Breakers for First Time Swinger Meet Ups

Entering into the swingers lifestyle is sure to provide some good times, but those first time swinger meet & greet opportunities can be challenging. Unless you’re an outgoing individual who is accustomed to meeting new people and enjoying social gatherings, you might want to be prepared with a few of these tips and tricks on how to break the ice at an upcoming event.

Do Some Initial Research

One of the best ways to alleviate anxiety about swinger meet ups is to do a bit of research about the event you are planning to attend. Doing so can help you be prepared for the festivities, which is important if the swingers meet & greet is themed. If any questions aren’t clarified in the invite or on the organizer’s website, don’t hesitate to call and make some inquiries to get yourself in the right headspace for a successful experience.

Avoid Excessive Drinking

While imbibing a drink to get relaxed before heading off to a swinging meet-up is reasonable, don’t use excessive alcohol or intoxicants to relieve stress. There’s a big difference in having a bit of liquid courage and showing up as a sloppy drunk to meet a bunch of people you don’t know. These types of events are best navigated when sober, so you are present both physically and mentally during the experience.

Avoid Being a Fly on the Wall

While it’s perfectly fine to sit on the sidelines for a bit to evaluate the scene after arriving, not much action is likely to happen if you   don’t engage with others at the event. Being a fly on the wall or glued to a chair all night can actually make you look unapproachable to other swinging attendees.

Remember, if you are nervous, you are likely not alone. There are others there who are possibly first timers too, so socializing with them can offer an immediate connection. After all, everyone who is at the meet and greet is there for the same reason—to have fun with like-minded people.

Don’t Be Afraid to Separate

If you’re bringing a partner to the event, it’s perfectly acceptable to go the divide and conquer route. Just be sure to have set rules in place between yourselves to avoid any miscommunications or experiencing a deal-breaker incident.

Read the room to find someone you might want to play with, and be mindful in approaching them respectfully. With both partners actively working the room, it will take far less time to get into the action. However, this might not work for all couples, and some other swingers might feel more comfortable engaging with other couples in unison from the get-go.

Ready to Get Swinging?

Make the most out of your first event with these tips to make connections in one night that can be life changing. With that in mind, baby steps are okay. Not all swinging friendships start with sex right away, but getting a good start at a meet-up can lead to future get-togethers where nothing is taboo.



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