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Considering Hotwifing? Here’s How to Screen Potential Playmates

In the swingers lifestyle, it’s fairly common for wives to fantasize about being with another partner while their spouse is present—or not. This agreement is known as a hotwife relationship, with both partners and participants fully consenting. These arrangements can be loads of fun, but finding the right man or men to play with takes careful consideration.

Here are some screening tips for potential hotwifing partners.

Pre-Screening Partners

Many might call these men ‘bulls,’ and the most common place to find these party boys is online. While there’s no shortage of swinger and lifestyle sites to browse what’s out there, finding a service that requires some form of pre-screening for members is very wise.

Many sites allow reviews to be left by previous playmates, and they can be a good indicator of who’s worthy of your time. It’s also nice to look at photos and get a feel for them before considering any type of communication or meet-ups.

Measure the Chemistry Level

If you’re not into their photos or find their bio appealing, it’s not likely that there will be much chemistry in person. However, this can perhaps be best measured with some small talk or basic video communication before tossing their profile aside.

It’s important for both swingers in the relationship to have some chemistry with someone that they plan to take to the bedroom. Sometimes, men are better judges of character, because who understands men better than men?

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Don’t Feel the Need to Rush Into a Hotwife Relationship

Considering that your new bull is likely a complete stranger, take time to meet up for a casual date if you’ve gotten past the screening and are attracted to them. Public places for a few drinks or a casual meal is great starting point. Bring along the spouse or at least a girlfriend or two for added security and as a possible way out should the meeting not go as well as planned.

Have a few code words or secret signals to use if things get uncomfortable. Either way, take time to get a feel for the bull before hopping into the sack or bringing them to your home.

Be Spontaneous, But Do So Safely

Those in the swingers lifestyle have an obligation to themselves and their partners to play it safe. This means having appropriate protection, such as condoms ready to go in case the action gets hot unexpectedly.

It’s also a smart call to make sure that you don’t go out to clubs or bars in search of bulls without your partner or friends. After all, these meetings can be risky and that fantasy sex can end up being a very bad and dangerous situation.

Use Your Intuition

Those gut instincts are essential in hotwifing, so anyone you meet online can either give you a good or bad vibe. Trust your intuition, and be sure to take the reviews of other swingers into consideration. There are quite a few wolves in the regular dating world, so prepare to cross a few bad apples in your search for the perfect bull to bring into your life.

THE HOTWIFE LIFESTYLE FOR BEGINNERS

The hotwife way of life advances to numerous men and ladies of a receptive nature who have a stable relationship and wish to investigate past the skylines of conventional sexuality in regards to marriage and monogamy. The hotwife way…

Inside the Mind of a Hotwife: What She’s Really Thinking

A hotwife is a special type of member of the swingers lifestyle. These ladies simply love having sex with different partners, either in front of their spouse or on solo … READ MORE

THREE WAYS TO BE A HOTWIFE IN AND OUT OF THE BEDROOM

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Most hotwives make satisfying their husband in and out of the bedroom a priority, and there’s no denying that the majority of men enjoy seeing their hotwife exhibit a bit of slut-laden naughtiness every now and then. Here are three clever ways to spice up your slut level to keep your man excited day in and out. 1.   Feel Like a Goddess Every Day…Exude Your Awesomeness There are not too many things that a man loves and appreciates more than self-confidence in a woman. When you feel sexy you ARE READ MORE

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Tips On Over-cumming’ Performance Anxiety in the Lifestyle

It’s not unnatural for people to have anxiety about certain aspects of sex, their own body or even their partner from time to time. However, in the swingers lifestyle, feeling a bit nervous about initial encounters can be prevalent.

Performance anxiety can prevent our bodies from responding in the way we hope when it comes down to  playtime sessions and staying aroused—or getting there—may become challenging.

Singles and couples should consider the following to fully overcome lifestylw insecurities and boost confidence at lifestyle parties or with new partners in private settings.

Bypass Sexual Insecurities

One or two not so great experiences may be signs of sexual fears and barriers that impede having the best time possible. However, these methods and practices can boost esteem and make you a standout at lifestyle clubs and other personal interactions when swinging.

Do a Little Research

Are you dry, suffering from erectile dysfunction or having trouble peaking in bed? A little online research can help you dive into the causes of these issues, as can consulting with a medical provider who can help discover if there’s a physical source of the problem.

Build Confidence

Grow self-esteem through self talk and don’t hesitate to reach out to your primary partner about these concerns. Their understanding can be very reassuring. Consider including more physical exercise in daily activities which can boost libido, body confidence and increase longevity.

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Try Soft Swapping During Swingers Playtime

Sometimes the pressure of feeling the need for a full swap can result in anxiety, especially for newer exchanges. Sometimes, easing into the scene with a soft swap with one new partner at a time can be comforting, as these don’t necessarily require an erection or a performance. It can involve touching, kissing, caressing and massaging rather than full on sex.

Employ a Few Toys

Toys are commonplace at many lifestyle parties, as they can help everyone get into the mood. Why not bring them into your everyday life or swinging partnerships for a bit of a morale booster? Should you not be in the mood, a good selection of toys can save the experience, ensuring a good time is had by all.

Take Care of Yourself First

If getting going is a struggle, you can head to the bathroom to get a rev in your step so to speak with a bit of masturbation, deep breathing or visual work. Some enjoy masturbating in front of partners, but others might find privacy more reassuring. If staying hard longer is a concern, get yourself off first to increase stamina for the real deal.

Divide and Conquer

If performance anxiety is associated with performing in front of a current partner or strangers in lifestyle clubs, head to a separate room with swingers playmates. This means you aren’t being analyzed, nor is your lovemaking style, so dividing it up can be beneficial in certain situations.

Remember, our bodies are often unpredictable and may not always do what we want when we want. Try these helpful tips for easing sexual performance anxiety and find more pleasure ultimately in the swingers lifestyle and in your everyday relationship.

What If You Can’t Perform In Group Sex?

Group sex is not new. It has been and a good number of people have taken part in it at one point or another. There are just some that fully… READ MORE

SWINGERS AND PERFORMANCE ANXIETY

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SAME ROOM VS SEPARATE ROOM WHEN COUPLE SWAPPING

Couple Swapping

Along with threesomes, couple swapping is often a key component of relationships for those involved in the swinging lifestyle. However, there is always an underlying question that arises with each encounter: Should couples enjoy the action in the same room, or should they head to separate rooms? In short, the answer depends on the participant’s preferences. Let’s get under the sheets a bit in both scenarios and explore the differences between both experiences. Swinging with Partners in the Same Room Many couples enter the swinging lifestyle because they get turned READ MORE

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How the Swingers Lifestyle Enhances Intimate Relationships

Many vanilla and traditionally monogamous individuals without a sense of sexual adventure have a tendency to proclaim that the swingers lifestyle is a surefire way to a breakup or a divorce.

However, many couples involved in swinging will disagree along with several polls and studies that support the notion that swingers can—and do—have rather healthy intimate relationships.

Here’s how giving an intimate relationship a new twist with swinging can promote a more solid commitment and boost sex appeal.

Jealously is Surpassed in Swinging

There is absolutely no room for jealous inclinations in the realm of healthy intimate relationships, but this can present a bit of new challenge for swinging couples just delving into the lifestyle. Jealousy can kill the good vibes and dampen the trust and love in any relationship, swinging or monogamous.

The willingness to share a partner without letting the green-eyed monster rear its ugly head indicates a solid connection with a primary partner. According to many mental health counselors, swinging couples in an intimate relationship tend to be both more satisfied and committed to their partnership than their vanilla peers.

Swinging Can Boost Confidence

Healthy intimate relationships are had between individuals who each have their own strong sense of confidence. Not to be egotistical, but it sure can make one feel pretty good about themselves to know that they are desired by others outside of their relationship.

Having the ability to act upon those desires with the consent of a partner can provide a pick-me-up that restores sexual prowess back at home. Scratching those itches and letting someone outside the confines of the committed partnership with a one-time fling or amid the swingers lifestyle just might help a strong relationship gain even greater traction.

Curb Cheating In An Intimate Relationship

When the rules are abided by, the swingers lifestyle is kind of like a hall pass with consent, no jealously, and there is no need to cheat. Boredom or being involved in a lackluster or sexless relationship can easily lead to cheating. Regardless of WHY one or both partners seek to fulfill sexual needs outside of the primary bonds, discussing an alternative lifestyle can prevent cheating and actually establish a closer connection between couples.

Excitement Strengthens Relationship Bonds

The monotony of monogamy can be a primary reason for the ending of a union. According to scientific studies, only nine percent of the mammals in the world practice monogamy, which leads us to wonder how we should expect the human species to have only one mate? Likely the rise of religions calling for monogamy has pushed our species into this non-natural existence.

However, shouldn’t we all be allowed to live in ways that make us happy, soothe our bodies and satisfy our physical and emotional desires without judgement? Swinging with the consent and within guidelines established let’s couples open up and enjoy a greater sense of satisfaction with their partners without fear of repercussions.

Stay together longer. Have a healthier intimate relationship. Go outside of the norm if you and your partner are comfortable doing so and give the swingers lifestyle a try.

Top 3 Reasons Why Swinging Works

With the openness of the internet, swinging has moved from the underground into more mainstream territory. While swinging clubs and parties have always existed, joining them or asking questions has … READ MORE

HOW SWINGER COUPLES ARE COPING DURING COVID-19

As people are finding themselves restless during the COVID-19 pandemic, those in the swingers lifestyle are even more antsy. Social distancing guidelines have heavily restricted the opening and capacity levels in bars, clubs, on cruises and in public places. This…

SWINGER COUPLES ONLY ENJOY THESE HEALTH BENEFITS

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Believe it or not, swinger couples do have greater health benefits due to more orgasms. Orgasms are directly connected with the happy mood and mental strength of both the sex partners. Both of these factors are present more in swinging couples as compared to monogamous couples as they are controlled by various other factors. Flexibility, creative capacity, adaptation of changing circumstances and indefinable thinking are some of the factors that rule the mood and metal health of a person. When you compare the sexual life of swinging couples and monogamous READ MORE

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Swingers Definitions That Every Newbie Needs to Know

In the realm of swinging there are many covert terms that the average person might not fully be aware of. So, those starting out or who are planning to dabble in this alternative lifestyle will want to become privy to a few key swinger definitions to get more familiar with the scene.

Swingers: People who take pleasure in swapping or sharing their intimate partner with one or more individuals outside the primary relationship. Swingers set their own limitations and boundaries.

The Swingers Lifestyle: The term swingers lifestyle refers to the alternative lifestyle known as swinging. However, it can describe sex-positive persons of an open mind to partner sharing or swapping.

Vanilla: Swingers use the term vanilla to describe individuals who are traditionally monogamous and that have sext that doesn’t involve acts that deviate from the norm such as BDSM, orgies, etc.

Unicorn: Considered unusual and often rare, unicorns are single women open to swinging. Many couples seek out these ladies when first dabbling while others prefer unicorns due to their openness and lack of desire for full-time relationships. Bulls are single male swingers.

Playmates: Playmates is a term used to describe swingers that you engage with in ‘playtime’ which involves whatever sexual activities the partners choose.

Voyeurism: Those who enjoy watching others have sex with the consent of the participants are engaging in what is called voyeurism.

Soft Swap: Soft swapping swingers don’t engage in full-blown intercourse but rather limit activities with others to heavy petting, oral sex and kissing.

Full Swap: A full swap is when penetrative sex occurs with swinger playmates.

Closed Door Swinging: Closed door swinging describes couples who swap partners in separate rooms for sexual activities.

Same Room Swinging: This is when those in the alternative lifestyle share a room or space for their soft or full swap playtime.

Polyamory: Individuals who say they are in an open relationship might be into polyamory, which is when a couple doesn’t expect monogamy from their partner. However, rather than simple casual flings, polyamorous groups are more often long-term relationships with mutual love and respect. It’s not the same as swinging, and poly couples often live together as ‘families’ with a third person or other committed couple.

Hotwife: A hotwife is a married or committed woman who has the permission of her partner to have sex with other men. Typically, the ‘hubby’ enjoys watching and in some cases may join in. There are also hot-husbands, as well filling the reverse role.

Cuckold: When a man ‘complies’ with his partner’s sexual engagements with other men while watching and getting pleasure from it, he is called a cuckold. This can also be used to describe men who love to be dominated by their woman. Females in this situation are called cuckqueens.

MMF vs MFM: In the realm of threesomes an MMF is a male-male-female grouping in which the two men will have sex. MFM is a male-female-male threesome positions the woman in the middle because the men will only have sex with the woman.

FMF/FFM: Threesomes in which a female-male-female (FMF) occurs with no female interaction. FFM implies bisexual action between females.

The swingers lifestyle is a fun way to mix up the sex life of open-minded couples, so these are only the beginning basics of swinger definitions that you’ll learn as you gain experience in the lifestyle.

HOTWIFING ISSUES: DO MEN LOVE THEIR WIVES?

Do you believe that men can still love their wives even though they are involved in Hotwifing? Most women wonder if their men are really into them, reason being that their soul mate advises them to be intimately involved with other men. Some of these women may wonder if what they are being required to do is really possible. It is easy to come into terms with what these women are thinking of the Hotwifing issue, this is because these women have some outlook on how relationship should be and what READ MORE

Different types of threesomes and the benefits

Many couples get a bit bored with their sex life and start thinking about options to spice it up. For many people the idea of a threesome comes to… READ MORE

BENEFITS OF CUCKOLDING FOR A WOMAN

Cuckolding is a type of relationship in which a man watches his lady being pleased sexually by other men. In some cases the man is unable to satisfy his lady sexually and he may not even be aware of the techniques…

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Best Adult Books for Swingers Couples During Quarantine

Being in quarantine is a reality check for many people around the world, leaving millions of us bored at home including swingers. Television and Internet perusing gets old after a while, so we want to suggest some great adult books with sex stories that revolve heavily around swinging.

Whether you’re just interested, are polyamorous, married, bi, gay, straight or a swinging single, there are many great reads to occupy your time and get your mind in a sexy place, too.

Top 5 Adult Books For Erotic Stories

1. Swingers’ Lifestyle: The Questions You are Afraid to Ask by Jackie Melfi

This gem is an exceptional and honest Q & A session with Jackie Melfi answering some tough questions about the swinging lifestyle based on her experiences and observations. The Swingers’ Lifestyle is great for beginners, those who have trouble asking hard questions and is even insightful for non-swingers.

Questions come directly from her fans and readers, and is not filled with sex stories but is filled with valuable insights and information.

2. More About A Life Less Monogamous by Cooper S. Beckett

If you’ve ever wondered “Is this all there is to life?” Then More About A Less Life will be a satisfying read. It’s about the meeting of two couples that are asking themselves these very same questions and are looking to spice up their relationships. While Bruce and Paige are not quite outed as swingers, they will have a chance encounter with Jennifer and Ryan that helps them all come to a greater understanding of sexuality unfolding with unbridled passion. This is a good one to initiate playtime with partners you’re quarantining with, as it’s filled with sizzling sex stories.

3. The Ethical Slut : A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships, and Other Freedoms in Sex and Love by Janet W. Hardy

This is a definitive guide to being an ‘ethical slut’ and contains a good bit of information that offers reflections on the attitude of partner swapping and sharing in the mainstream media and typical US family. However, this Janet W. Hardy book discusses jealousy, communication, integrity and tips for asking for (and getting) what you truly want from your open relationship or swinging adventures.

4. The Ground Rules by Roya Carmen

All the main character has to do is follow five ground rules to live out the fantasy of her dreams. While happily married with children, an encounter with a mysterious couple promises to open the doors to unexplored desires. In this tale of a ‘nice girl’ stepping beyond her comfort zone with her hubby in tow, will they be able to follow the rules? You’ll have to read The Ground Rules to find out!

5. The Lifestyle: A Look at the Erotic Rites of Swingers by Terry Gould

Believe it or not the author of this book was once avidly anti swinging. However, after a bit of research in scientific articles and discussions with ‘normal’ members of the lifestyle he had a change of heart. Delve into his discovery of the misunderstandings and prejudices that swinger couples faced throughout history and in many aspects still today. This is a friendly read that offers solid arguments that positively represent swingers and their life choices.

Pick up any of these amazing reads for swingers at local erotic stores or visit our Free Erotic Stories on SLS and enjoy our wide selection of topics written and submitted by their members.

ANAL SEX MYTHS DEBUNKED

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You may have ahead a lot of myths about anal sex which is almost scaring you away from trying it. Actually there are many myths that many people spread but you need to carry out some form of research which will enable you in making the best decision. The following are some common myths about anal sex which you should be aware of:   It will hurt This is just a myth; the truth is that anal sex does not hurt. It depends on the one who is doing it. READ MORE

Finding the Best Erotic MILF stories

Swinglifestyle is the best place for erotic Milf stories. Sometimes the imagination is the best source available to satisfy our needs for erotic material. Did you know that several …

HOW EROTIC STORIES COULD AFFECT YOUR SEX LIFE

Erotic Stories Before anything else, let’s discuss about ’emotional stimulation’ first. Studies show that most men could easily be visually stimulated. On the other hand, women are the opposite, they react more to emotional stimulation. So, it only implies that,…

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Does Swinging Curb Cheating in Lifestyle Relationships?

In the realm of the swingers lifestyle, there can be several concepts of ‘cheating’ and many swinger couples don’t consider playtime as such. The lifestyle is very different for every couple, but for the sake of this post we’ll define cheating and establish whether or not swinging is a potential curb check for such behavior. Swinger couples don’t necessarily have it ‘made in the shade’ all the time, so it’s essential to consider this concept from all sides.

How is Cheating Defined in the Swingers Lifestyle?

Every couple is different. Some are amazingly happy in polyamorous relationships and others are fine with hotwifing and other forms of swinging. There is no definitive answer about what ‘cheating’ encompasses amid swinger couples, as they ultimately have rules set for their relationship boundaries concerning outside playtime. Some may consider emotional attachments cheating while others consider sex or sexual relations beyond their agreement to be cheating, so it’s vital to clarify this conceptual meaning with your partners before straying. That being said, if you’re hiding anything like texts, videos, chat sites and phone calls…you likely know you’re cheating in the eyes of your partner.

Swinging’s Stronghold Over Cheating

It’s been shown time and time again that those who actively engage in the swingers lifestyle tend to be happier than peers with singular partners. According to a Psychology Today study, those who swing have far less fear about the status of their primary partner relationships which ultimately leads to less need to cheat. There’s a lot to be said about being able to openly sleep with another person or connect with them on a sexual level.

However, not everyone is open to full-time swinging, so couples can discuss options such as periodic visits to a local swinger club to find a unicorn or suitable ‘temporary’ partner to curb those urges. It’s important that each person communicate their sexual needs and try to find a middle ground to avert cheating disasters.

Situations Where Swinging Absolutely Won’t Prevent or Stop Cheating

There are certain conditions in which swinging is not a good idea, but it can also be a risky one. These include:

Dealing with Liars—Liars will lie and cheaters will cheat. Getting involved in the lifestyle with a straight up liar only gives them a candy store to grab what they want and then lie about it. Trust is pivotal when partner sharing and swapping, and there’s no room for dishonest persons that cannot be trusted. Consider therapy before looking outside the current relationship.

Bad Sex in Current Relations—Again, this should be explored partner-to-partner or guided under a professional therapist. Intimacy at home that is lacking satisfaction falls upon both parties and will not be resolved with swingers relations.

Sexual Addiction—Cheating partners might have a sex addiction issue that will only likely grow worse when encountering swingers style relationships.

Ultimately, there’s no answer here folks. If the red flags mentioned (or others you suspect) aren’t presented, it may be worth a discussion to consider engaging in the swinging lifestyle through soft swaps or just friendly encounters with couples ‘in the know.’ While not all efforts will succeed in saving a relationship, it’s not harmful to explore all opportunities.

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HOW TO KEEP JEALOUSY OUT OF A SWINGERS RELATIONSHIP

Life has been on the upswing for you since beginning your swingers’ relationship with your partner or spouse…well, until lately. The two of you have made friends with other swingers. You meet up with this couple every now and again, and you can’t help but notice your partner has chemistry with one of them. Now you find yourself over analyzing every little interaction between them, sexual or not. What do you do in such a situation? In this article, we’ll give you some tips and pointers for keeping jealousy out of READ MORE

WHY A HOTWIFE RELATIONSHIP IS THE BEST WAY TO DEAL WITH CHEATING

Being cheated on in a relationship is one of the most heartbreaking and discouraging things that can happen to anyone. In our traditional monogamous arrangement we dedicate ourselves to one person, and if we want to move on to…

Swinglifestyle the Best Way to Avoid Cheating

Swinglifestyle can be the long term solution to cheating. One of the major causes of divorce in the modern society is cheating. Cheating is basically going behind your spouse’s …

The Role Sexual Desire Plays in Boosting your Libido

Our sexuality isn’t necessarily defined by gender or their perceived ‘role’, expectations and norms amid society. A woman’s  sexual desires can be just as powerful as that of a man, its just that some women aren’t really sure what their desires are and how to explore them.

Those craving a healthy and long-lasting sexual relationship, have good reason of better understanding the role desire plays in boosting your libido. There are some surprising results stemming from research looking into the complex world of the importance of sexual fantasies and desires and how it enhances bedroom action.

We have share a few of those findings below:

Research Supporting the Connection Between Libido and Sexual Desires

Besides what our bodies ‘tell us’ turns us on, there are studies that shows the positive aspects of fantasies and desires on the sex drive and how many view sexuality as a whole. A key study published in Psychological Reports from the University of Grenada reveals a strong correlation in men sexual desires and erotophilia— an unusual interest in sex. Essentially, males are more accepting and respond more positively towards sexual thoughts and desires versus women—but not by much according to the studies findings.

Types of Fantasies and Emotional Stressors Can Inhibit Libido

All the benefits aside—and there are quite a few—libido and sex drive can be hindered for some individuals who feel like they have unhealthy fantasies (and some folks do). However, the most typical negative response that men have is when they crave sadistic sex or fancy domination. According to the aforementioned studies, some men feel so ashamed by such thoughts that it lowered their libido measurably.

Interestingly, many women fantasize about being controlled and even dominated –See popularity of the Fifty Shades Of Grey Trilogy.  Yet, they too seem to be hesitant to share these desires with their own partners, even though they are highly turned on when imagining it. Shame and guilt tend to diminish the libido as a side effect of anxiety and fear of what partners might think. Which brings about the question of “How do YOU feel about YOURSELF’ because of these natural fantasies?”

Avoid Letting Desires Get in the Way of Sexual Success

Some individuals use fantasies, masturbation and pornography as a method of avoiding close intimacy with their partners. When a relationship gets stressed, turning more into their comfort zone can actually create a greater divide between couples and negatively impact libido. Stressful relationships can cause people’s emotional desires and sexuality perceptions to change quickly along with their sex drive.

If you find yourself having fantasies or sexual desires, we suggest you explore them safely by yourself or with your partner. Openly communicate with your partner your desires and discuss a way of exploring them together. Many join the swingers lifestyle to explore their  fantasies and sexual desires and a majority have found a way to explore those fantasies safely in the swingers community.

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FOURSOMES: 55% OF WOMEN AND 85% OF MEN WANT SEX WITH OTHERS

Learn what you need to know about Foursomes, 55% of Women And 85% Of Men Want Sex With Others. Fantasies are part of every human being and being with more than one sexual partner without cheating your partner is…

Hot Threesome Fantasy

Many people think that women are a “grin and bare it” type of species when it comes to all things sex but this could not be more untrue, especially … READ MORE

POSITIVE BENEFITS AND HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP ASPECTS OF HOTWIFING

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At first glance, it would seem ‘obvious’ that hotwife where a woman has sex with men other than her husband, but with her husband’s knowledge, consent and often at his urging would be disastrous for any marriage, no matter how strong.The reasons men are so often drawn to encouraging their wives to become hotwives is complex, but it boils down to biology and the way they’re made. In other words, they don’t choose their fantasy: their DNA chooses it for them.And it’s this factor most women miss when their man READ MORE

 

 

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The Importance of Engagement Within the Swinging Lifestyle

Being a part of the swinging lifestyle is just as enjoyable outside of the bedroom as it is within it. By actively engaging with others who love swinging in other types of social situations, there is much insight to be gained, many good times to be had, and quite a few new friends to be made. Check out these benefits of socializing with like-minded people beyond sexual gratification.

Swinger Friends Make Great Vacation and Hang Out Buddies

Traveling or hanging out with others in the swinging lifestyle doesn’t mean the trip must be dedicated solely to swingers or even have sex during the journey. What it does mean is that you can go anywhere with your friends without the worry of being exposed as a swinger. This can be important if you aren’t outed as a swinger or just don’t want to be. You can have a great trip without any need to feel shameful or guilty, and if the urge strikes for action, willing parties will be nearby.

Working Together to Make Families and Relationships Stronger

Swingers come from all walks of life. Some are married, some are single, some have life partners, many have children and certain groups in the lifestyle for their own mini-families or pods. Being a part of these groups of people opens up doors to learn about the various manners in which swingers embrace the lifestyle. Discussions are usually very free, which allows newbies or those who are having trouble coping with lifestyle concerns to get honest advice and support.

Even if you are swinging single in this all-too vanilla world, don’t miss out on all the goodness that goes along with being an active and engaged member of the lifestyle community both in and out intimate situations.

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THREE TIPS FOR SWINGING SINGLE IN THE LIFESTYLE

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Whether you’re a single male or a high-flying unicorn embracing the lifestyle as a swinger, there are certain guidelines that participants typically follow—sort of like a secret code. Here are three tips for single swingers to help keep things swinging in the right direction. 1. Understand Club Rules Let’s face it, the single ladies have it made in the lifestyle. Unicorns typically enjoy perks such as free entries to parties, clubs and other lifestyle events. Single Male on the other hand are allowed limited entry, often required to be escorted READ MORE

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Top 3 Reasons Why Swinging Works

With the openness of the internet, swinging has moved from the underground into more mainstream territory. While swinging clubs and parties have always existed, joining them or asking questions has …

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WHY SWINGING DOES WONDERS TO YOUR LACKLUSTER MARRIAGE

Want to know Why Swinging Does Wonders to Your Lackluster Marriage? Most marriages often drown in their self-created boredom. Monogamous marriages are more like monotonous routines. The same story of work, chores, kids, bills, deadlines and Monday mornings, rob us of…

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The Self-Conscious Side of Swinger Men

Some people falsely believe that lifestyle men have it made…that they are free of the cares and concerns of swinging women. However, nothing could be further from the truth! One must keep in mind that men are self-conscious, too—some even more so than female swingers.

Swinger Men are Appearance Conscious

The swingers lifestyle is arguably all about the law of attraction, so it’s only natural that both men and women who swing tend to pay more attention to their appearance. They tend to be in better shape, dress sharper and do more grooming of certain parts than the average couple.

Unfortunately for single swinger men, the standard they are upheld to in the lifestyle can be even more intense than those who are in relationships. One could argue that single men who are more attractive and well put together will enjoy greater success in the competitive world of swinging.

Performance Anxiety for Lifestyle Men is Very Real

You might believe that a man who gets laid by multiple partners would have no anxiety about their performance. This is also a mistaken conclusion. In fact, these men may actually have more performance anxiety than someone in a traditional relationship. Questions often whirl through the male brain where they question their size and attractiveness in relationship to other male playmates in the room.

These doubts can cause a snowball effect that actually does end up resulting in a lessened performance. Once the ball starts rolling, it can be challenging for a man to snap out of it and get back into the groove of things. The male ego can be a dangerous thing!

So here’s the scoop guys and gals: we all have anxieties and feel self-conscious from time to time. However, keeping a positive attitude and knowing just how amazing you truly are can help you succeed in the swingers lifestyle with greater confidence.

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HOTWIFING ISSUES: DO MEN LOVE THEIR WIVES?

Do you believe that men can still love their wives even though they are involved in Hotwifing? Most women wonder if their men are really into them, reason being that their soul mate advises them to be intimately involved with other men. Some of these women may wonder if what they are being required to do is really possible. It is easy to come into terms with what these women are thinking of the Hotwifing issue, this is because these women have some outlook on how relationship should be and what READ MORE

An Overview Of Swingers and Relationships

There are people whose lives are like an open book, while others keep theirs on a low key. However, there are certain aspects of life that everyone wants to keep …
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SINGLE MALE IN THE LIFESTYLE

The swinging lifestyle is usually associated with couples but in most cases, single men play an important role. For instance, in the case of cuckolding, a husband will watch his wife make love with another man who is single. In…

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Subtle Signs Your Neighbor Might Be Into the Swinging Lifestyle

If your neighbor is a swinger, it’s highly unlikely that they will say so when they introduce themselves to you. However, there are several theories and suppositions on a number of popular swingers lifestyle forums that claim that there are subtle signs that indicate a home’s occupants might be into the swinging lifestyle. While we can’t verify these claims, it does give you something to look for when driving around your neighborhood.

Landscaping and Decor Giveaways of a Swinger

Supposedly, garden gnomes and pink flamingos are often present in the lawns of individuals into the swinging lifestyle. Another bizarre sign that one should look for is a pineapple door knocker. Albeit this sounds a bit fruity, this is supposedly one of the most supported claims concerning decor signs.

Others cite that pink and purple decorations are a signal of swinger action, while there are also claims garden pampas grass is a secret sign. We have to admit, that some of these ‘signs’ seem fairly harmless and many are relatively common. However, if you see several of these indications in the same lawn, you might have neighbors who enjoy the swingers lifestyle.
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Personal Indicators Swingers Might Employ

Beyond what you see outside the home, what you see your neighbor donning—particularly jewelry wise—may also be covert signs that they enjoy partner swapping or other lifestyle activities. It’s been said that many swingers wear a black ring on their right hand if their open to meet fellow playmates, and that women may wear toe or thumb rings or anklets. Some may wear their wedding ring on the right hand to show that they are in some type of open marriage arrangement such as swinging.

In the jewelry department, we can confirm one indicator for sure: a secret symbol wristband. The symbol features the male and female signs with their circles intersecting. There will be three plus or minus signs on each side that indicates what they are looking for. For example, three plus signs on each side says, ‘we’re looking for partners as a couple’ while a minus sign means they are up for solo action.

Now that you know what your neighbors might be up to, keep your eyes peeled for possible new playmates or companions in the swingers lifestyle.

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