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The Role Sexual Desire Plays in Boosting your Libido

Our sexuality isn’t necessarily defined by gender or their perceived ‘role’, expectations and norms amid society. A woman’s  sexual desires can be just as powerful as that of a man, its just that some women aren’t really sure what their desires are and how to explore them.

Those craving a healthy and long-lasting sexual relationship, have good reason of better understanding the role desire plays in boosting your libido. There are some surprising results stemming from research looking into the complex world of the importance of sexual fantasies and desires and how it enhances bedroom action.

We have share a few of those findings below:

Research Supporting the Connection Between Libido and Sexual Desires

Besides what our bodies ‘tell us’ turns us on, there are studies that shows the positive aspects of fantasies and desires on the sex drive and how many view sexuality as a whole. A key study published in Psychological Reports from the University of Grenada reveals a strong correlation in men sexual desires and erotophilia— an unusual interest in sex. Essentially, males are more accepting and respond more positively towards sexual thoughts and desires versus women—but not by much according to the studies findings.

Types of Fantasies and Emotional Stressors Can Inhibit Libido

All the benefits aside—and there are quite a few—libido and sex drive can be hindered for some individuals who feel like they have unhealthy fantasies (and some folks do). However, the most typical negative response that men have is when they crave sadistic sex or fancy domination. According to the aforementioned studies, some men feel so ashamed by such thoughts that it lowered their libido measurably.

Interestingly, many women fantasize about being controlled and even dominated –See popularity of the Fifty Shades Of Grey Trilogy.  Yet, they too seem to be hesitant to share these desires with their own partners, even though they are highly turned on when imagining it. Shame and guilt tend to diminish the libido as a side effect of anxiety and fear of what partners might think. Which brings about the question of “How do YOU feel about YOURSELF’ because of these natural fantasies?”

Avoid Letting Desires Get in the Way of Sexual Success

Some individuals use fantasies, masturbation and pornography as a method of avoiding close intimacy with their partners. When a relationship gets stressed, turning more into their comfort zone can actually create a greater divide between couples and negatively impact libido. Stressful relationships can cause people’s emotional desires and sexuality perceptions to change quickly along with their sex drive.

If you find yourself having fantasies or sexual desires, we suggest you explore them safely by yourself or with your partner. Openly communicate with your partner your desires and discuss a way of exploring them together. Many join the swingers lifestyle to explore their  fantasies and sexual desires and a majority have found a way to explore those fantasies safely in the swingers community.

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FOURSOMES: 55% OF WOMEN AND 85% OF MEN WANT SEX WITH OTHERS

Learn what you need to know about Foursomes, 55% of Women And 85% Of Men Want Sex With Others. Fantasies are part of every human being and being with more than one sexual partner without cheating your partner is…

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POSITIVE BENEFITS AND HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP ASPECTS OF HOTWIFING

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At first glance, it would seem ‘obvious’ that hotwife where a woman has sex with men other than her husband, but with her husband’s knowledge, consent and often at his urging would be disastrous for any marriage, no matter how strong.The reasons men are so often drawn to encouraging their wives to become hotwives is complex, but it boils down to biology and the way they’re made. In other words, they don’t choose their fantasy: their DNA chooses it for them.And it’s this factor most women miss when their man READ MORE

 

 

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The Importance of Engagement Within the Swinging Lifestyle

Being a part of the swinging lifestyle is just as enjoyable outside of the bedroom as it is within it. By actively engaging with others who love swinging in other types of social situations, there is much insight to be gained, many good times to be had, and quite a few new friends to be made. Check out these benefits of socializing with like-minded people beyond sexual gratification.

Swinger Friends Make Great Vacation and Hang Out Buddies

Traveling or hanging out with others in the swinging lifestyle doesn’t mean the trip must be dedicated solely to swingers or even have sex during the journey. What it does mean is that you can go anywhere with your friends without the worry of being exposed as a swinger. This can be important if you aren’t outed as a swinger or just don’t want to be. You can have a great trip without any need to feel shameful or guilty, and if the urge strikes for action, willing parties will be nearby.

Working Together to Make Families and Relationships Stronger

Swingers come from all walks of life. Some are married, some are single, some have life partners, many have children and certain groups in the lifestyle for their own mini-families or pods. Being a part of these groups of people opens up doors to learn about the various manners in which swingers embrace the lifestyle. Discussions are usually very free, which allows newbies or those who are having trouble coping with lifestyle concerns to get honest advice and support.

Even if you are swinging single in this all-too vanilla world, don’t miss out on all the goodness that goes along with being an active and engaged member of the lifestyle community both in and out intimate situations.

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THREE TIPS FOR SWINGING SINGLE IN THE LIFESTYLE

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Whether you’re a single male or a high-flying unicorn embracing the lifestyle as a swinger, there are certain guidelines that participants typically follow—sort of like a secret code. Here are three tips for single swingers to help keep things swinging in the right direction. 1. Understand Club Rules Let’s face it, the single ladies have it made in the lifestyle. Unicorns typically enjoy perks such as free entries to parties, clubs and other lifestyle events. Single Male on the other hand are allowed limited entry, often required to be escorted READ MORE

Why Swinging Works

Top 3 Reasons Why Swinging Works

With the openness of the internet, swinging has moved from the underground into more mainstream territory. While swinging clubs and parties have always existed, joining them or asking questions has …

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WHY SWINGING DOES WONDERS TO YOUR LACKLUSTER MARRIAGE

Want to know Why Swinging Does Wonders to Your Lackluster Marriage? Most marriages often drown in their self-created boredom. Monogamous marriages are more like monotonous routines. The same story of work, chores, kids, bills, deadlines and Monday mornings, rob us of…

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The Self-Conscious Side of Swinger Men

Some people falsely believe that lifestyle men have it made…that they are free of the cares and concerns of swinging women. However, nothing could be further from the truth! One must keep in mind that men are self-conscious, too—some even more so than female swingers.

Swinger Men are Appearance Conscious

The swingers lifestyle is arguably all about the law of attraction, so it’s only natural that both men and women who swing tend to pay more attention to their appearance. They tend to be in better shape, dress sharper and do more grooming of certain parts than the average couple.

Unfortunately for single swinger men, the standard they are upheld to in the lifestyle can be even more intense than those who are in relationships. One could argue that single men who are more attractive and well put together will enjoy greater success in the competitive world of swinging.

Performance Anxiety for Lifestyle Men is Very Real

You might believe that a man who gets laid by multiple partners would have no anxiety about their performance. This is also a mistaken conclusion. In fact, these men may actually have more performance anxiety than someone in a traditional relationship. Questions often whirl through the male brain where they question their size and attractiveness in relationship to other male playmates in the room.

These doubts can cause a snowball effect that actually does end up resulting in a lessened performance. Once the ball starts rolling, it can be challenging for a man to snap out of it and get back into the groove of things. The male ego can be a dangerous thing!

So here’s the scoop guys and gals: we all have anxieties and feel self-conscious from time to time. However, keeping a positive attitude and knowing just how amazing you truly are can help you succeed in the swingers lifestyle with greater confidence.

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HOTWIFING ISSUES: DO MEN LOVE THEIR WIVES?

Do you believe that men can still love their wives even though they are involved in Hotwifing? Most women wonder if their men are really into them, reason being that their soul mate advises them to be intimately involved with other men. Some of these women may wonder if what they are being required to do is really possible. It is easy to come into terms with what these women are thinking of the Hotwifing issue, this is because these women have some outlook on how relationship should be and what READ MORE

An Overview Of Swingers and Relationships

There are people whose lives are like an open book, while others keep theirs on a low key. However, there are certain aspects of life that everyone wants to keep …
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SINGLE MALE IN THE LIFESTYLE

The swinging lifestyle is usually associated with couples but in most cases, single men play an important role. For instance, in the case of cuckolding, a husband will watch his wife make love with another man who is single. In…

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Subtle Signs Your Neighbor Might Be Into the Swinging Lifestyle

If your neighbor is a swinger, it’s highly unlikely that they will say so when they introduce themselves to you. However, there are several theories and suppositions on a number of popular swingers lifestyle forums that claim that there are subtle signs that indicate a home’s occupants might be into the swinging lifestyle. While we can’t verify these claims, it does give you something to look for when driving around your neighborhood.

Landscaping and Decor Giveaways of a Swinger

Supposedly, garden gnomes and pink flamingos are often present in the lawns of individuals into the swinging lifestyle. Another bizarre sign that one should look for is a pineapple door knocker. Albeit this sounds a bit fruity, this is supposedly one of the most supported claims concerning decor signs.

Others cite that pink and purple decorations are a signal of swinger action, while there are also claims garden pampas grass is a secret sign. We have to admit, that some of these ‘signs’ seem fairly harmless and many are relatively common. However, if you see several of these indications in the same lawn, you might have neighbors who enjoy the swingers lifestyle.
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Personal Indicators Swingers Might Employ

Beyond what you see outside the home, what you see your neighbor donning—particularly jewelry wise—may also be covert signs that they enjoy partner swapping or other lifestyle activities. It’s been said that many swingers wear a black ring on their right hand if their open to meet fellow playmates, and that women may wear toe or thumb rings or anklets. Some may wear their wedding ring on the right hand to show that they are in some type of open marriage arrangement such as swinging.

In the jewelry department, we can confirm one indicator for sure: a secret symbol wristband. The symbol features the male and female signs with their circles intersecting. There will be three plus or minus signs on each side that indicates what they are looking for. For example, three plus signs on each side says, ‘we’re looking for partners as a couple’ while a minus sign means they are up for solo action.

Now that you know what your neighbors might be up to, keep your eyes peeled for possible new playmates or companions in the swingers lifestyle.

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Swapping Your Wife for Sex with another Man

Swap Your Wife Website The system of wife swapping has been prevalent since years and is commonly referred to as ‘swinging’ in which committed or married couples engage in sexual …

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SWINGING LIFESTYLE: HOW SWINGERS RARELY GET DIVORCED

Learn how swingers rarely get divorced. Life always needs excitement and entertainment. No one likes to spend a monotonous life. It has been seen many times that often couples get bored of each other due to various reasons. Some…

POSITIVE EFFECTS OF WIFE SWAPPING IN A SWINGERS RELATIONSHIP

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Those considering elevating their relationship to greater heights of pleasure by joining the swingers lifestyle discover ample opportunities for wife swapping. A wife swap situation is where married couples switch partners willingly to engage in sexual enjoyment. These engagements can involve two or more couples and can involve bisexual encounters depending on the openness of the participants involved. Swingers participating in wife swapping get more than just sex from these experiences—there are actually quite a few long term benefits for such couples. 1.  Wife Swapping Swingers Develop Deeper Trust It READ MORE

How to Talk to Your Partner about Becoming Swingers

Through careful thought and deliberation, you’ve decided you want to spice up your sex life by inviting a third, even a fourth party into your otherwise two-person bedroom. What you have yet to do is discuss the matter with your spouse, because how do you even go about mentioning such a delicate topic?

The swinging lifestyle is more common than you likely realized, with an estimated 13 million people participating in swinging in the United States alone. If you’re eager to add yourself and your spouse to that esteemed count, then these tips are for you.

1. Skirt the Topic Before Diving Right In

The admission that you want to invite another couple into your sex life can be like a bomb being dropped on your partner. Don’t give them way more to bite off than they can chew right away. Instead, slowly entice them to the thought with small mentions here and there.

Ask questions of your spouse as well. Quiz them on their knowledge and interest in the swinging lifestyle. If there’s little interest, then it’s your job to ignite the spark in them that could have them saying yes to your proposition.

2. Know Thyself and Thy Spouse

Only through a clear, careful inspection into your own sexual likes and dislikes as well as those of your partner can the swinging lifestyle work for you. If there are certain sexual topics you two have shied away from for one reason or another, now’s a good time to bring them into the light.

3. Navigate for Negatives

While the hope and expectation is that your first swinging experience will be exceptional, having an exit plan is always wise. Whether it’s a safe word or a look between you and your spouse, if one of you feels uncomfortable and wants to end the experience, you should be able to, no hurt feelings.

Although entering the swinging lifestyle can be a touchy topic for first-timers, the above three tips will equip you with the poise and approach for a successful start.

IS THE SWINGING LIFESTYLE THE KEY TO SAVING YOUR MARRIAGE?

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Is The Swinging Lifestyle The Key To Saving your Marriage? We are living during a time where it’s regular for you to hear about a swinging, separations, breakups and unfaithfulness READ MORE

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Top 3 Reasons Why Swinging Works

With the openness of the internet, swinging has moved from the underground into more mainstream territory. While swinging clubs and parties have always existed, joining them or asking questions has …

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HOW TO GET STARTED ON SWINGING

It is quite possible that you may have spent lot of time talking about swinging and in the interim experience invigorating act of sex. However, the moot point that needs to be understood is how does one actually get out…

3 Ways Swinging Improves Everyday Relationships

Naysayers and non-participators claim that the only reason people swing is because they are promiscuous and unsatisfied in their current partnerships. Wrong. Nothing could be further from the truth. And while incredible sex with others with permission is clearly a benefit, the foundational couple swinging reaps a number of benefits, too.

1.  Sexual Desires Get Fulfilled Rather Than Repressed

Many are surprised to learn that a longtime partner or even a spouse has fantasies that would include another party involved in their intimate life. When partners can agree on being open to swinging, there’s an excellent chance that both will be fulfilling once hidden desires. There are couples just like you who go to swingers clubs and gatherings looking to release their inhibitions, so take the leap and give it a try.

2.  Swingers Divorce Less Frequently

While entering into the swingers lifestyle to try and ‘save’ your relationship is not typically recommended (don’t involve others in your drama), those with a solid partnership can enjoy greater marital bliss. In fact, there are numerous statistics that support claims that swingers have stronger relationships and tend to divorce less frequently than monogamous couples.

3.  Those Who Swing Enjoy Better Communication

Swingers tend to be more communicative overall, especially concerning sexual fantasies. This allows couples to enjoy greater satisfaction in their relationships because they are able to freely express themselves without fear of rejection or judgment. Better communication means that relationships can grown deeper, and partners tend to have greater ease resolving their issues. Overall, these benefits almost always equal a healthier, more fulfilling sex life.

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SWINGING FOR DUMMIES

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For those interested in the swinging lifestyle, it’s best to start slowly, learn the etiquette, and pursue things you and your partner enjoy. Here are 10 tips to help you get READ MORE

Bisexual and Swinging

Bisexual is the act of being attracted to both men and women romantically. Becoming a swinger will give you peace of mind because as a swinger you will meet with …

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BENEFITS OF BEING IN A SWINGER RELATIONSHIP

Being in a swinger relationship actually has its rewards, learn the benefits of being in a swinger relationship. They say absence makes the heart grow fonder. Perhaps this is the driving force behind the success of swinger relationships. Although most…

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Swinging relationship has become popular now among couples who are bored and would like to explore. Through explore, that means that they need to try out other people when it comes to sexual relations. Peculiar as that may be, but there are an increasing number of men and women who have come to take this kind of idea given that they want to feel again the thrill, experience, and passion they once had early in their relationships.

Before choosing swinging, there should be a few things that you should consider. In the end, it may become better or worse for husbands and wives later on in their marriage.

First, couples should ask themselves first “Do we need to go to marriage counseling?”. Many couples are actually in denial that their marriage needs some tuning up or else item, Therefore, swinging has become a modern approach to some. If perhaps sexual activity is the problem, then talking about it with the other person even with the occurrence of a marriage counselor might bring about what the trouble is. Perhaps with a mediator, problems can be solved with suggested alternatives how to spice up one’s intimate relationships with each other. Believe it or not marriage counselors are not against swinging relationships.

Although swinging may be an easy way out for many people as well who are having problems with their sex lives, it might spell disaster. It is because with swinging, although individuals who engage in it might say that jealousy can never be out of the picture, it is just purely physical with another person and that there are no strings attached, there is still the weak part of human nature that will succumb to jealousy. A marriage must be strong in order to start swinging. Even some animals who are very territorial get jealous like that of Jaguars who only have one partner in their entire lifetime. And as they say, jealousy kills. Jealousy, after all, is a powerful force that sends a person into a fit of rage.

And before thinking about heading into a swinging relationship, one must consider not the particular benefits but also the repercussions of doing so. Because rather than solving the problem, it may aggravate things even more. Again your marriage must be solid in order to swing.

Sharing couples have a very loving and trusting relationship. They enjoy a satisfying sex life with each other and usually spend quality and quantity of time with each other and their families. They enjoy each other’s company and they sincerely “like” each other. They take care of each other’s needs and wants. They respect each other. The best part is; They TRUST each other completely.  So, before you swing make sure your ducks are in a row and have a stable relationship first.

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Convincing Your Wife to be a Hotwife

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Learn how to convince your wife to be a hotwife. While many men would love their wives to be hotwives, there’s an important piece of the puzzle missing — the piece that tells them how to get from here to there. And it’s not a trivial question because most men instinctively know their wives will not react positively to something like, “why don’t you sleep with other guys and let me watch?”. Which is something of a shame because it’s such a common fantasy. So…

How to Make Your Wife a Hotwife

The first thing is to realize you cannot make her do it against her will. That kind of promise of mind-control is the stuff of fantasies and simply isn’t true. Yes, there are some very suggestible people out there, and we’ve all seen them being persuaded to do silly things on the TV, but the thing to understand is they are very few and far between… and that means it’s highly unlikely your wife is one of them.

In any case, since I hope you want your wife to become a hotwife because you love her and you want to improve your relationship, both in physical and emotional terms, it would be counterproductive to manipulate her into doing something, would it not?

So, the answer is… to get her to convince herself to become a hotwife. And the way to do that is to tune into her favorite channel… the What’s in It for ME? show.

See, most men approach making their wives into hotwives from entirely the wrong direction — they make it all about the hot, steamy sex and what it will do for them. When they need to be thinking of putting the message over regarding improving the relationship and how it will benefit their wives as well. Apart from anything else you do NOT want your wife sleeping with other men just for your pleasure — that might seem like it’s working in the short term, but, believe me, it’s going to blow up in your face quite spectacularly.

To make hotwifing work she really has got to want to do it; more than that, she’s got to enjoy doing it and that’s something YOU might find hard to handle, especially if you’re present, and you’re watching her making love with another man with no inhibitions and showing a passion and sexual abandon she’s not shown with you for a long time (so be sure you really want to do this before you start putting the idea in her head).

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Group Sex – How To Start Having Fun With Multiple Partners And Threesomes

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Certain men and women are very adventurous about their sex lives than others. Sometimes you may feel that you want to bring something different into your sex life rather than having to keep doing the same ole thing all the time. This usually happens with marriages a lot. People who have been married for a while feel that if they bring in other couples into the picture that their marriage will get better. From what I have heard it does get better.

Many couples are willing to give this a try, but just don’t know where to start. There are many things that you can do to get information and start slowly to venture into sexual parties with other people or couples. You can place an ad on the web in the personals section; you can advertise in a magazine or sign up for an online dating site.

Swingers can have a variety of multiple different partners to have sexual intercourse with here are a few:

Threesome – You can have two women with one man or two men with one woman

Couple To Couple – This is when one husband and wife plus another husband and wife have sex with each other (each man sleeps with the other man’s wife)

Group Orgies – Here you will see more women having sexual intercourse with women, but not men to men. Also, men and women are sleeping with multiple partners.

Voyeurism – This is where you can come and watch couples at parties and events have fun with each other in different clubs for swingers (this is an orgy party). Watching other multiple partners having sexual intercourse right in front of you this will probably get you aroused.

Here are some important rules you need to follow if you want to get into the swingers community.

1. You and your wife or girlfriend need to be clear about why you want to get into the swinging community.

2. You and your partner (it does not have to be your wife, it can be a girlfriend) must have some history behind your relationship. You must enter the community as a couple.

3. You must be in touch with each other’s emotional needs and wants. This is crucial.

4. This is also crucial – You both must be comfortable and confident in each other being approach by other men and women. They do not want fights and arguments to break out.

If you are ready to try group sex or if you are single and you are ready to start dating again you can start by going to the Polyamory Room to chat about group sex or you can go to one of our other chat rooms to talk to women at.It’s a common conception that most threesomes are suggested by males. This is because, in most instances, it is the guy who has the desire for sex with multiple partners. However, if your girlfriend is the one who is suggesting a threesome, you have got work cut for you.

If you are the one who is initiating the idea of a threesome, here are some surefire ways to persuade your girlfriend into agreeing to participate in group sex.

Naturally, a woman worries about anyone which threatens the relationship between her boyfriend and herself. Therefore, it is understandable that she feels insecure about threesomes because of this particular reason.

To overcome your girlfriend’s objection to threesomes, it is imperative that you overcome her insecurity. Following are three easy ways to boost her confidence –

1. Never, ever hit on her friends. You will never pull a threesome if she thinks that it’s just an excuse to sleep with her friends.

2. Avoid criticism. No negative remarks.

3. Regularly affirm your love for her. Compliments and gifts would work wonders, only if given sparingly and appropriately.
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The Sexual Fantasies You Can Live Out With Swinging

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Learn The Sexual Fantasies You Can Live Out With Swinging. Is your sex life dull and boring? Are you tired of the same routine? Well, maybe it is time for a change. It is time to think outside the box and experiment with possibilities you have not considered before.

Many people who find themselves in a sexual rut are now turning to swinging as a possible option. The truth is that many people are sexual struggles. The swinging lifestyle and swingers club atmosphere is a great way to recharge your sexual enjoy are re light that spark with your partner.

However, just because you are having some issues with your partner does not mean that you should automatically turn to swinging as the solution for your sexual problems. Talk to your partner, educate yourself about the lifestyle and explore it together. This is the only way it will work and help spice up your sex life.

It is amazing what you can learn about yourself when you decide to experiment with swinging. For many couples just attending a swingers club and experiencing the sexual atmosphere of the club is enough to create a spark and find a new passion for your partner.

Swinging fulfills a fantasy for many people. The idea of having sex with multiple partners appeals to a lot of people, even though they won’t actually admit it. Meeting new people, flirting, dancing with other couples can be the launching point for experiencing personal fantasies such as participating in orgies or sex with other couples.

Receiving attention from others will boost your confidence. A lack of confidence in your appearance or a feeling that you are unattractive often gets in the way of your sexual relationship with your partner. When others pay attention, people often feel more confident in themselves, and this positively impacts a person’s relationship with their partner.

Engaging in swinging and experiencing new partners will teach you new sexual techniques. It is very easy to get into the habit of doing the same thing all the time. Trying something new even though it may be subtle will change the mood and enhance the experience.

The swinging lifestyle will absolutely increase your sexual interest. It will allow you and your partner to find a new group of friends with common sexual interests that want to experience similar things.

Swinging will also help you evolve as a sexual being. You will learn a lot about yourself and your partner and your sexual curiosities will come to the surface. You may even have the opportunity to try things that you have always wanted to but were afraid to do in the past.

Swinging will absolutely help to spice up your sex life. However, it will only help if you pursue this avenue with your partner and experience swinging as a couple.
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