Entering into the swingers lifestyle is sure to provide some good times, but those first time swinger meet & greet opportunities can be challenging. Unless you’re an outgoing individual who is accustomed to meeting new people and enjoying social gatherings, you might want to be prepared with a few of these tips and tricks on how to break the ice at an upcoming event.
Do Some Initial Research
One of the best ways to alleviate anxiety about swinger meet ups is to do a bit of research about the event you are planning to attend. Doing so can help you be prepared for the festivities, which is important if the swingers meet & greet is themed. If any questions aren’t clarified in the invite or on the organizer’s website, don’t hesitate to call and make some inquiries to get yourself in the right headspace for a successful experience.
Avoid Excessive Drinking
While imbibing a drink to get relaxed before heading off to a swinging meet-up is reasonable, don’t use excessive alcohol or intoxicants to relieve stress. There’s a big difference in having a bit of liquid courage and showing up as a sloppy drunk to meet a bunch of people you don’t know. These types of events are best navigated when sober, so you are present both physically and mentally during the experience.
Avoid Being a Fly on the Wall
While it’s perfectly fine to sit on the sidelines for a bit to evaluate the scene after arriving, not much action is likely to happen if you don’t engage with others at the event. Being a fly on the wall or glued to a chair all night can actually make you look unapproachable to other swinging attendees.
Remember, if you are nervous, you are likely not alone. There are others there who are possibly first timers too, so socializing with them can offer an immediate connection. After all, everyone who is at the meet and greet is there for the same reason—to have fun with like-minded people.
Don’t Be Afraid to Separate
If you’re bringing a partner to the event, it’s perfectly acceptable to go the divide and conquer route. Just be sure to have set rules in place between yourselves to avoid any miscommunications or experiencing a deal-breaker incident.
Read the room to find someone you might want to play with, and be mindful in approaching them respectfully. With both partners actively working the room, it will take far less time to get into the action. However, this might not work for all couples, and some other swingers might feel more comfortable engaging with other couples in unison from the get-go.
Ready to Get Swinging?
Make the most out of your first event with these tips to make connections in one night that can be life changing. With that in mind, baby steps are okay. Not all swinging friendships start with sex right away, but getting a good start at a meet-up can lead to future get-togethers where nothing is taboo.
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