It’s not unnatural for people to have anxiety about certain aspects of sex, their own body or even their partner from time to time. However, in the swingers lifestyle, feeling a bit nervous about initial encounters can be prevalent.

Performance anxiety can prevent our bodies from responding in the way we hope when it comes down to  playtime sessions and staying aroused—or getting there—may become challenging.

Singles and couples should consider the following to fully overcome lifestylw insecurities and boost confidence at lifestyle parties or with new partners in private settings.

Bypass Sexual Insecurities

One or two not so great experiences may be signs of sexual fears and barriers that impede having the best time possible. However, these methods and practices can boost esteem and make you a standout at lifestyle clubs and other personal interactions when swinging.

Do a Little Research

Are you dry, suffering from erectile dysfunction or having trouble peaking in bed? A little online research can help you dive into the causes of these issues, as can consulting with a medical provider who can help discover if there’s a physical source of the problem.

Build Confidence

Grow self-esteem through self talk and don’t hesitate to reach out to your primary partner about these concerns. Their understanding can be very reassuring. Consider including more physical exercise in daily activities which can boost libido, body confidence and increase longevity.

Try Soft Swapping During Swingers Playtime

Sometimes the pressure of feeling the need for a full swap can result in anxiety, especially for newer exchanges. Sometimes, easing into the scene with a soft swap with one new partner at a time can be comforting, as these don’t necessarily require an erection or a performance. It can involve touching, kissing, caressing and massaging rather than full on sex.

Employ a Few Toys

Toys are commonplace at many lifestyle parties, as they can help everyone get into the mood. Why not bring them into your everyday life or swinging partnerships for a bit of a morale booster? Should you not be in the mood, a good selection of toys can save the experience, ensuring a good time is had by all.

Take Care of Yourself First

If getting going is a struggle, you can head to the bathroom to get a rev in your step so to speak with a bit of masturbation, deep breathing or visual work. Some enjoy masturbating in front of partners, but others might find privacy more reassuring. If staying hard longer is a concern, get yourself off first to increase stamina for the real deal.

Divide and Conquer

If performance anxiety is associated with performing in front of a current partner or strangers in lifestyle clubs, head to a separate room with swingers playmates. This means you aren’t being analyzed, nor is your lovemaking style, so dividing it up can be beneficial in certain situations.

Remember, our bodies are often unpredictable and may not always do what we want when we want. Try these helpful tips for easing sexual performance anxiety and find more pleasure ultimately in the swingers lifestyle and in your everyday relationship.

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