“The Lifestyle” is the most common phrase used by swingers to describe their swinging non-monogamy kind of life. It is the fantasy of a majority of men to get into this kind of relationship but some are not able to do so because their partners cannot handle it. There are many factors to be considered before getting into this type of relationship. There is a certain style and technique that is required to get into the polyamorous lifestyle. To be successful in “the lifestyle”, a man needs to find the best and most convincing way to bring up the subject with his partner. He needs to find the most smooth and gentle way to get into it without appearing to be uncaring to his partner’s feelings. He also needs to find the perfect match with similar set of ideas to his own which will ensure that the lifestyle is long lasting and very successful.
1. Deeply Evaluate Yourself
Before embracing this kind of lifestyle, you must first comprehend all your motivations and reasoning which may be driving you away from settling on a monogamy lifestyle. To succeed, you must be very honest with yourself and be able to convincingly articulate your reasons for desiring a non-monogamous lifestyle to your partner. Be bold with yourself and your partners on the reasons why you really want to be poly-amorous.
For starters, write down the pros and cons that arise with this kind of relationship. This will let you understand the impacts and consequences of this type of s relationship. Provided that you are true to yourself, it should be very easy to communicate with others about your desires. Swinging is outside the norm of almost all societies and you will require a lot of patience to convince others of your genuine wishes and desires.
2. Connect With Like-minded People
It can be more or less difficult to meet like-minded people. This will highly depend on your locality and the type of relationship you want to indulge in whether it be public or discreet. You may start by searching online communities and forums. There are several sites where you are most likely to find your match. Some of these are; Craiglist, SwingLifeStyle and Okcupid just to name a few. On these dating sites, you start with casual encounters and get to learn the different personalities present and in the evaluation process you find your perfect match and state your case to them.
To find these websites that are applicable to your neighborhood, just do a thorough research. In case you are lucky enough to live in a big city that has on-site swinger parties and clubs, you can easily find your perfect match by attending one of these parties. It is very much effective to meet people from your locality as you may easily relate to them and start off a very successful poly-amorous lifestyle.
It is important that you maintain an open communication with all current and future partners. Communication is easier and more effective if you first understanding your needs and desires and being able to articulate them clearly to others. Talking regularly about the sensitive matters affecting this type of relationship like practicing safer sex will help you to become more comfortable with your partners. You should also discuss your physical and emotional boundaries.
Swinging is not the norm in many societies as the lifestyle allows you to fully fulfill all your sexual desires. When you first get started, you may experience some setbacks. If you commit a mistake or an inconvenience, apologize meaningfully, clarify how it happened without offering excuses and move on. This undoubtedly will ensure that your swinging lifestyle is always full of happiness and is successful.