There is no doubt that whenever one is into swinging, more often than not, it is not taken in the right spirit by others. There are many misconceptions. However, those who are into the swinging lifestyle is not too bothered about people’s thought and opinions of them. This is because these are opinionated thoughts far cut off from reality. But we are not in a perfect world and hence such thoughts and opinions should be given the importance that they deserve.
The Common Misconceptions
There are several misconceptions pertaining to the swinger lifestyle. The most common one is that it is an outdated lifestyle and perhaps was given a decent burial in the 1950s and 1960s. Men who allow their wives to engage in the lifestyle is doesn’t love them. Further there are many who feel that swinging is extremely demeaning to women and that at times relationships could reach toxic levels. But it is obvious that those new to swinging should do their due diligence properly before joining the swinging community. Further unless these misconceptions are cleared it could impact personal lives.
Deal Carefully With Rabid Anti-Swingers
As you begin to embrace the lifestyle, you will certainly come across people who could be very ardent anti-swingers. When the topic is discussed there could be strong opinions and even heated discussions that takes place. More often than not one side would back off just to maintain peace. The problem is not with such heated discussions but it is about discussing the same with a friend whom you consider very special and important. You might be disturbed when you find that you could lose the friendship because of his or her strong opinion against the lifestyle.
Silence and Discretion
So, what does one do under the above circumstances? When you are discussing something as radical as swinging, it is quite possible that you may not be able to get your view across successfully even if the other person happens to be your good friend. Hence under the above circumstances the best way forward would be to exercise discretion and not share such details with somebody who has very strong opinions against it. Being silent is the better part of valor and keeping it under wraps would of course be the best possible option under such circumstances. What is considered “wrong” according to mainstream cannot be changed overnight. It would be akin to swimming against the tide. It would always be prudent to make friends within those who believe in the same lifestyle that you practice. You should learn to look at things from the other side’s perspective. This will help remove frictions and ensure that you continue to swing and enjoy without ruffling too many feathers.
At the end of the day there is no denying the fact that some opinions are deeply embedded and have moved from one generation to another. Trying to change it overnight would be next to impossible. Hence staying silent is always better.