It is generally known that swingers can fall into two categories, those who participate for recreational purposes and those who participate in swinging for utopian reasons. Recreational swingers view swinging as an activity like playing tennis, cards or bowling. On the other hand, utopian swingers have a philosophy of communitarianism and will wish not only to share sex but also different aspects of life with fellow participants. There is a belief that swinging has a positive effect on marriages and that sexual fidelity is harmful and breeds jealousy creating a feeling of ownership between a wife and a husband.
Swinging is important in getting rid of this kind of jealousy and helps each person to view each other as individuals and not possession. In most cases married people do not cheat because they want to; boring sex is what causes extra marital affairs between couples and swinger couples believe that it is impossible for one person to satisfy another one sexually over an extended period of time. Therefore, swinging is vital in keeping sexual boredom at bay.
There are marriages that have been saved by the lifestyle and others have observed that swinging strengthens good marriages. There is a deeper psychological reason for swinging. Some men may need to translate early sexual fantasies into reality, while some women may be fulfilling social-romantic needs. The development of a swinging middle class helps people to develop social ties and satisfy their need for sexual fulfillment; moreover, it gives them an opportunity to do both without disrupting their regular lifestyle.
It is believed that swinging builds a sense of security and self-confidence. Sexual fulfillment, sexual variety, and the potential of fulfilling all your fantasies are some of the benefits off swinging. As a result of new types of sexual experiences, couples can enjoy their marriages more by employing new techniques from the lifestyle events they attend. Generally, swinging alleviates jealousy because if both partners go to the same party together and thereafter leave together they will realize that they are committed to each other as a couple.
Swinging creates a feeling of person hood rather than an individual or property, moreover it creates strong bonds between couples because the swinger couples can discuss anything from fantasies to fetishes they’ve experienced. Women in marriage will receive a great deal of positive reinforcement because they will see themselves as desirable, moreover they can shed their sexual inhibitions and try something different with their partners. Husbands report a high level of marital happiness when they are swinging with their partners as they can share any kind of information with their partner without the fear of losing them.
Apparently swinging has no negative effects on the sexual lives of couples; as a matter of fact, swinging couples have sexual intercourse more than regular couples. According to research, swinger couples have sex more than five times a week when compared to 16% of the general population. Many swingers report that rather than dampening the ardor for each other, swinging causes an arousal of sexual interest in each other. Couples often experience a feeling of closeness, warmth, and love that is more intense after swinging. They can discuss their fears, weakness and how they can improve themselves openly with their partner. Honesty is key in any relationship and swinging promotes couples discussing sexual matters openly.