How to Talk to Your Partner about Becoming Swingers

Through careful thought and deliberation, you’ve decided you want to spice up your sex life by inviting a third, even a fourth party into your otherwise two-person bedroom. What you have yet to do is discuss the matter with your spouse, because how do you even go about mentioning such a delicate topic?

The swinging lifestyle is more common than you likely realized, with an estimated 13 million people participating in swinging in the United States alone. If you’re eager to add yourself and your spouse to that esteemed count, then these tips are for you.

1. Skirt the Topic Before Diving Right In

The admission that you want to invite another couple into your sex life can be like a bomb being dropped on your partner. Don’t give them way more to bite off than they can chew right away. Instead, slowly entice them to the thought with small mentions here and there.

Ask questions of your spouse as well. Quiz them on their knowledge and interest in the swinging lifestyle. If there’s little interest, then it’s your job to ignite the spark in them that could have them saying yes to your proposition.

2. Know Thyself and Thy Spouse

Only through a clear, careful inspection into your own sexual likes and dislikes as well as those of your partner can the swinging lifestyle work for you. If there are certain sexual topics you two have shied away from for one reason or another, now’s a good time to bring them into the light.

3. Navigate for Negatives

While the hope and expectation is that your first swinging experience will be exceptional, having an exit plan is always wise. Whether it’s a safe word or a look between you and your spouse, if one of you feels uncomfortable and wants to end the experience, you should be able to, no hurt feelings.

Although entering the swinging lifestyle can be a touchy topic for first-timers, the above three tips will equip you with the poise and approach for a successful start.

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Naysayers and non-participators claim that the only reason people swing is because they are promiscuous and unsatisfied in their current partnerships. Wrong. Nothing could be further from the truth. And while incredible sex with others with permission is clearly a benefit, the foundational couple swinging reaps a number of benefits, too.

1.  Sexual Desires Get Fulfilled Rather Than Repressed

Many are surprised to learn that a longtime partner or even a spouse has fantasies that would include another party involved in their intimate life. When partners can agree on being open to swinging, there’s an excellent chance that both will be fulfilling once hidden desires. There are couples just like you who go to swingers clubs and gatherings looking to release their inhibitions, so take the leap and give it a try.

2.  Swingers Divorce Less Frequently

While entering into the swingers lifestyle to try and ‘save’ your relationship is not typically recommended (don’t involve others in your drama), those with a solid partnership can enjoy greater marital bliss. In fact, there are numerous statistics that support claims that swingers have stronger relationships and tend to divorce less frequently than monogamous couples.

3.  Those Who Swing Enjoy Better Communication

Swingers tend to be more communicative overall, especially concerning sexual fantasies. This allows couples to enjoy greater satisfaction in their relationships because they are able to freely express themselves without fear of rejection or judgment. Better communication means that relationships can grown deeper, and partners tend to have greater ease resolving their issues. Overall, these benefits almost always equal a healthier, more fulfilling sex life.

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Exploring the Kivin Method of Cunnilingus

Those in the swingers lifestyle may have heard of this specialized method of cunnilingus called the Kivin Method. While it sounds very scientific, this act is actually relatively simple to perform and even simpler to enjoy. Here’s how to include Kivin cunnilingus in your next sexual escapade.

Warming Her Up

Have the female position herself comfortably with her legs open. Warm her up with generous soft kisses and suckles around her inner thighs, her tummy and near the vagina teasingly but not touching it yet. As she grows more aroused, begin using your tongue and lips to slowly massage the vagina until she is ‘ready’ for action.

Assume the Position

Once she’s warmed up, position yourself perpendicular to her body with your head placed around the target zone. Place two fingers on each side of the clitoral hood, and run your tongue slowly back and forth taking time to hit the top and underside of the hood. Essentially, you are giving her a sideways cunnilingus experience at this time, but things will really heat up during the next step of the Kivin Method.

The Kivin Twist

Here’s where things get interesting and intense. Use a finger or the flat of the thumb to apply pressure on her perineum. This is the approximately one-inch area of skin between the vagina and the anus. This is the same area where pressure is applied during non-penetrating prostrate stimulation, so it’s a powerful stimulator for the sphincter muscles. Women can often experience greater heights of pleasure and a deeper orgasm due to the connection the Kivin Method provides between the clit and the perineum.

Essentially, keep licking, kissing and applying the Kivin Method until she orgasms and/or asks you to stop. As an optional positioning, some couples have the woman curl her legs up to the chest while the secondary partner holds their legs in place while performing the Kevin Method. This allows for a wider spread and easier access to the perineum to boost pleasure levels.

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5 TIPS ON HOW TO PERFORM ORAL SEX ON A WOMAN

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Prostate Milking 101: How to Give Him A Mind Boggling Prostate Massage

Prostate milking is the process of gently massaging the prostate gland with the goal of ‘milking’ the lucky male recipient’s semen. Many men who’ve experience prostate milking claim that it provides the most incredible orgasm they’ve every had. However, there are health benefits of prostate massages, including its ability to lessen chances for developing prostate cancer. Between the health benefits and the pleasure factor, let’s explore the method of prostate milking.

How to Massage the Prostate Gland Step by Step

While achieving the goal is easier with a partner, this can be a solo act with a bit of clever maneuvering. However, we’ll write this guide from a partner’s perspective, but the general steps are the same regardless.

Step #1:  Get Prepared — It’s a good idea for the receiving male to have a bowel movement sometime recently prior to prostate milking, and if a finger will be used for the massage clipping the nails and cleaning the hands first are essential.

Step #2:  Assume the Position — There are three primary positions the male can consider that are conducive for prostate milking: on his back spread eagle, doggy style or lying on his side (recommended for solo prostate massages).

Step #3:  Lubricate — Whether using a prostate massaging toy or a finger, lubricate the insertion ‘tool’ and the anus generously.

Step #4:  Go for the Glory — Gently insert the device or finger slowly into the rectum with a focus on the belly button side of his body. Once inside, feel for the prostate, which is about 2-3 inches in and feels like a squishy walnut.

Step #5:  Massage Tips — Lightly massage around the prostate’s edges in a circular motion using the fingertip or device. Take care not to be ‘rough’ on the center of the prostate, as this is a super sensitive zone. Continue massaging, building up speed and pressure slowly until he ejaculates.

Walla! The recipient has just had the ultimate, mind-blowing orgasm.

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FFM, MMF, MFM, FMF…What’s The Difference in Swinging?

There tend to be quite a number of acronyms tossed around in the swinging lifestyle…ones that often confuse both novices and experienced swingers. Four such acronyms include: MMF, FFM, MFM and FMF. This isn’t surprising because most three letter acronyms seen in lifestyle ads are specific to a ‘type’ of partner being sought or one specifying their body type. MMF, FFM, MFM and FMF however, refer to gender preferences concerning a specific type of threesome. So, what’s the difference between the four? Here’s the lowdown.

MMF and FFM in the Swinging Lifestyle

MMF means ‘male, male, female’ and FFM means ‘female, female, male.’ These types of threesomes involve intimate engagement between the two same sex parties in the group in addition to the third participant. Hence, MMF would be two men getting it on with a female, while also tending to one another. The same is true for FFM—two females sharing one man while being intimate with each other, too. These types of threesomes are popular with bisexual swingers and those seeking to expand their boundaries or double their fun in playtime.

MFM and FMF and Swingers

These terms are the most common types of threesomes. MFM being two males and a female together, and MFM is often referred to as a “Devil’s Threesome.” FMF is often called ‘the good kind’ of threesome, being two females and a male. In these situations, there is generally no homosexual contact between the two parties of the same sex. However, threesome experiences can lead to unpredictable situations, and one never knows for certain where things may lead!

If you are unsure, look for the gender in the middle and they are who will be the object of your affections during a threesome. So, if you are not bi or bi curious, stay away from MMF and MFF threesomes.  Now that you’re in the know, you can confidently choose a threesome style that fits your lifestyle experience. What are your favorite or most desired types of threesomes? Share with us on the SLS Forums.

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Swinger Couples Meet & Greet – First Dates

Finding swinger couples is not an easy task. As such, most couples make their connections online. Before couples decide to make their relationship physical, they go out on a first date, also called a meet and greet with the other couple or single, to ensure that there is chemistry. If you are new to the swingers lifestyle, you may be wondering where do couples go to meet other couples for a first date Meet & Greet.

Here are three popular choices. These first dates or meet and greets can take place in places like bars, coffee shops or even your local swing clubs.

Bars

When you are looking to meet up with a swinging couple for the first time, a bar is always a great choice. Some swinger group will host a monthly Meet & Greet at a local bar. There everyone can easily grab a drink or fast bar food while getting to know one another. Unlike a restaurant, you aren’t committed to sitting down and enjoying a long meal, which is perfect in case there is no chemistry.

Coffee Shops

Another place you can set a meet and greet with other lifestyle couples for the first time is at your local coffee shop. Coffee shops are easily accessible and tend to have long hours, making it a convenient choice for most people if you want to keep it super casual. Coffee shops also tend to be quieter than bars, allowing you to hear the other couple speak easier.

Local Swing Clubs

The last common place you can meet with other couples for the first time is at local swing clubs. Most swing clubs have sitting areas where individuals or couples can sit and chat before engaging in any sexual contact. This is a great place to meet up if you are ready to get down to business immediately after meeting, should there be a connection.

If you are turning to the Internet to find other lifestyle couples, you need to be safe. Meeting up with the other couple in a public place before meeting them in a private setting helps to ensure everyone is comfortable, gets along and that the other couple is who they say they are.

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Pansexuality

Pansexual Lifestyle Defined

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Truly the most open of all lifestyle choices, pansexuality offers an opportunity to love without limits. Even though it is difficult to identify why we feel certain ways, or choose certain attributes as being most attractive, most of us still define our sexuality with clear rules and boundaries.

People choose among many common dichotomies, including: for men or women, gay or straight, black or white. Without knowing why, we choose certain kind of people, often by something as seemingly arbitrary as hair color.

History of Pansexuality

The concept of pansexuality goes back to Freud, and has changed over time. Originally tied to sex, the definition has grown to include gender identity and even gender expression.  Most recently, a large number of millennial youth have identified as pansexuals,  including some famous people. Most notably, Miley Cyrus who came out as pansexual in a 2016 Variety interview, where she explained that “bisexual” was too confining a term. She knew from a young age that she was most attracted to individuals who combined characteristics from both traditional sex stereotypes.

Who is Pansexual?

According to some researchers, women are five times as likely as men to identify as pansexual. Also more likely to identify as pansexual are young people who are not heterosexual, and individuals who have what society considers a nontraditional gender role or expression.

As more and more people identify with the concept, there is an attempt to define what pansexuality entails. Even some who identify as strictly gay or straight also identify as pansexual, stressing that the key to attraction is personality.

The bottom line is that we need to do what makes us happy. As long as we are living the kind of life which is mentally healthy and emotionally fulfilling, the need to follow arbitrary rules only leads to guilt and regret.
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Top Benefits of Swinging For Sex Positive Couples

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Despite being more prevalent in pop culture, swinging still remains a mysterious lifestyle that seems more like fiction than reality to the average person. However, sex positive couples can benefit tremendously from the swinging lifestyle. From increased trust to a heightened sensual experience, swinging can be a great addition to a healthy and stable relationship. If you’re thinking about swinging and wish to discuss it with your partner, be sure to mention these top benefits of swinging for sex positive couples!

Heightened Trust and Pleasure

Swinging requires a lot of trust and honest conversation to work, and even the act of talking about swinging can tremendously enhance a relationship. Sex positive couples who embark on their journey in the lifestyle must get used to difficult and personal conversations, and this can even help to bring up deep-rooted fantasies to the surface. Along with a sense of heightened trust, partners can experience more pleasure together as they learn new techniques and positions from their partners. Together, this creates a well-rounded relationship that goes beyond what most monogamous couples will ever experience.

Safely Living Out Fantasies

Cheating is a natural urge yet remains one of the most harmful actions a person can make in a relationship. However, when sex positive couples choose to swing and follow their own guidelines, they can enjoy their sexual urges without harming the relationship or their partner’s trust. Of course, swinging partners must set and stick with their boundaries, and it’s still possible to cheat while swinging should one partner lie or go beyond the preset boundaries.

The Ultimate Freedom

Many monogamous partners often wonder what sex is like with other people, but they may not wish to jeopardize their relationship to experience it. This can create a common dilemma where one partner feels sexually unfulfilled and then brings this negativity into other aspects of the relationship. For couples in the lifestyle who enjoy casual sex outside of their relationship, both partners can be rest assured that there are no lingering feelings of “what if?” This creates a healthier sexual bond along with benefits for nearly all other aspects of the relationship.

Life is full of new experiences, and swinging allows sex positive couples to experience them all without problems. It provides the freedom of free-love while also cultivating the primary relationship through unique shared experiences and broadened horizons. Sex positive couples everywhere should have a deep conversation to see if swinging is right for them. If it’s not, that’s perfectly okay too. But for those ready to open a new door, swinging is sure to provide endless possibilities for pleasure and growth!

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Sexual Adventures at Your Local Swingers Club

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Every swingers club is different, but all of them focus on providing a safe environment where you can freely explore your sexuality. If this is your first time at a swingers clubs, it’s important to research the local clubs in your area to find out the one that’s right for you.

Swingers clubs are open to couples and single females. Some clubs will allow single male on a specific night or accompanied by a couple.  These clubs require that you become a member and pay an annual membership fee in addition to an entry fee. This helps weed out people from outside of the community who merely wish to watch and not engage, and it also helps to protect everyone in the club.

What to Expect in a Swingers Club

BDSM (Bondage – S&M or Sadism & Masochism) – Some clubs have a BDSM culture, while others will have it as a theme night. Bondage is a sexual fetish where restraints are used, sometimes a DOM or Dominatrix will administer discipline while other times there are
dungeons, people getting flogged, whipped, caned, spanked etc.

Closed Door Swinging – There are designated areas in an on premise swing club where the playrooms are located. These playrooms can be used for closed door swinging where couples can partake in sexual intercourse with other couples. This can include full swap or soft swap couples looking for privacy.

Double Penetration (DP) – This practice is where sexual partners are willing to engage in sexual intercourse, one in the vaginal cavity and another in the anal cavity at the same time. This can take place in a close door setting or in an open door setting if the couples don’t mind being watched.

Exhibitionism – Couples engage in sexual activity while others watch them for their own sexual pleasures.

Group Room – This is where the orgies happen. This is where the foursome and more-some happen.

Voyeurism – Couples watching others having sexual intercourse for their own pleasures.

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Many people imagine swingers clubs as being extravagant orgies where you can fulfill every sexual desire without repercussions. While this can certainly happen, it’s best to enter the club with more realistic expectations. If you’re going with a partner, it’s likely that you’ll start the night off by yourselves before meeting others. Feel free to fool around with your partner, and if a couple you like makes a move, then you have easy access to a foursome or more.

Depending on the layout of the club, you may start off by relaxing on a couch that can seat two or more. If you continue to engage with more people, you may be able to move off to a more secluded area that features larger couches, beds, or even props. This may be a private room that you have to reserve, or it may be a free-for-all where anyone can join. Depending on the atmosphere, joining an orgy can be as easy as asking permission and getting in bed. It all Depends on your comfort zone and desires, you can expect anything from kissing multiple new partners to oral sex, handjobs, fondling, and sex.

Swingers clubs usually get more sexualized throughout the night, and they may turn into full-blown orgies if the chemistry is right and the ambiance encourages it. However, you’ll still have to make the same small-talk and introductions that you would at any other event. Luckily, everyone is at the club for the same reason as you, and that’s for having a fun and safe sexual adventure. So whether you’re going alone or with a partner, keep your expectations realistic, put on a friendly face, and allow the night to unfold naturally to have the best experience possible. Once you find the right swingers club, you’ll  want to return for more!
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What’s the Difference Between Cuckolding and Wife Sharing?

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There’s a lot of controversy and misunderstanding when it comes to determining the difference between cuckolding and wife sharing. While the differences are only slight, there’s much enjoyment to be had with both practices. But, for argument’s sake, let’s explore these two types of sexual fun.

What is Cuckolding?

An ancient term, a cuckold historically is considered to be the wronged husband of an unfaithful wife. However, today the term generally refers to a sexual proclivity that both partners agree upon and participate in together, and the cuckold can be either male or female.  A cuckold is one who finds watching their partner or spouse have intimate relations with another person—especially one better endowed than they are or of another race—to be erotically arousing.

The cuckolded individual is most often merely a voyeur, but they may also be participants in the act. Often, this involves the cuckold being ‘humiliated’ by their partner and/or the participating party by being ‘forced’ to watch or engage in acts with the non-partner. Of course, this masochistic humiliation is often part of what attracts many people to cuckolding to begin with, and is one reason it is often considered to be a subset of the BDSM lifestyle.

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What is Wife Swapping?

Wife swapping is a form of swinging that typically involves married couples switching partners with other married couples. This can involve anywhere from two couples to several couples who willingly share their bodies with others in their ‘inner circle.’ Like cuckolding, this could involve partners watching one another, but these experiences typically lack any nuances of humiliation. However, there is the potential for bisexual encounters, semen tasting and other ‘deviances’ that one may find pleasure in during wife swapping.

The Benefits of These Alternative Lifestyles

Couples who wife swap or enjoy cuckolding often report having stronger connections with their partner or spouse, and certainly they say it spices up their relationship. These experiences can also be a great way to relax and escape the ‘normalities’ of daily life.

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Amateur Cuckold – How to get into the Sexual Lifestyle

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